PrettyLady
Jan 1, 2006, 11:09 PM
I understand that you came to me for advice on how to give women orgasms. I've decided to answer your question on the board. Because other men and women may also benefit from this.
First you have to get your partner to desire you and want to have sex, you have to court her, so that she feels like an attractive woman, and not like a service provider. Men will often try to rush into making love, but women need to feel that the relationship is good, in order to feel desired. So it's important that you communicate with your woman and make her feel special. Also, pay close attention to everything she tells you and to not be shy about discussing how you can better please her.
Remember that most women don't orgasm from intercourse alone. Women need prolonged stimulation in order to reach a complete arousal, and foreplay will provide them with the required stimulation, such as oral stimulation. There are many forms of stimulation that can cause a woman to orgasm and, conveniently, every woman is different. Some women enjoy hard vigorous motion on their clitoris, while others relish the sensations of being filled by a man's penis. Women also achieve orgasms through masturbation and using a vibrator, it makes them feel good.
To make women orgasm through intercourse:
A woman in a normal state of arousal can achieve orgasm through intercourse with the same alacrity she could through masturbation, should she want to. She can also learn to control her movements to prolong intercourse a very long time, especially if her partner is cooperative. Orgasm during intercourse is easier when you use your finger or vibrator at the same time. Using a sexual stimulator on her clitoris during intercourse gives the woman the best of both worlds.
Women can achieve an orgasm on top:
If the woman is on top of the man and he makes no thrusts with his hips at all, the woman can control the degree of clitoral pressure and movement to suit herself perfectly, and can teach the man how much pressure and movement she likes. Once the penis is inserted, she should slide down until she feels her clitoris come in contact with the base of her partner's erection.
The idea behind sexuality is to understand what the other person likes by getting to know them. You learn the rhythms of each others' bodies and you learn to make space for each person to lose him/herself to orgasm.
First you have to get your partner to desire you and want to have sex, you have to court her, so that she feels like an attractive woman, and not like a service provider. Men will often try to rush into making love, but women need to feel that the relationship is good, in order to feel desired. So it's important that you communicate with your woman and make her feel special. Also, pay close attention to everything she tells you and to not be shy about discussing how you can better please her.
Remember that most women don't orgasm from intercourse alone. Women need prolonged stimulation in order to reach a complete arousal, and foreplay will provide them with the required stimulation, such as oral stimulation. There are many forms of stimulation that can cause a woman to orgasm and, conveniently, every woman is different. Some women enjoy hard vigorous motion on their clitoris, while others relish the sensations of being filled by a man's penis. Women also achieve orgasms through masturbation and using a vibrator, it makes them feel good.
To make women orgasm through intercourse:
A woman in a normal state of arousal can achieve orgasm through intercourse with the same alacrity she could through masturbation, should she want to. She can also learn to control her movements to prolong intercourse a very long time, especially if her partner is cooperative. Orgasm during intercourse is easier when you use your finger or vibrator at the same time. Using a sexual stimulator on her clitoris during intercourse gives the woman the best of both worlds.
Women can achieve an orgasm on top:
If the woman is on top of the man and he makes no thrusts with his hips at all, the woman can control the degree of clitoral pressure and movement to suit herself perfectly, and can teach the man how much pressure and movement she likes. Once the penis is inserted, she should slide down until she feels her clitoris come in contact with the base of her partner's erection.
The idea behind sexuality is to understand what the other person likes by getting to know them. You learn the rhythms of each others' bodies and you learn to make space for each person to lose him/herself to orgasm.