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mahpiyaate
Dec 26, 2007, 11:37 AM
Would my girlfriends stomach be enough to prove she's pregnant? When we go she'll be as big as a house, so it'd be pretty hard to fake that, don't you think?

EDIT: proof of pregnancy so we can get married. We'll be 17 at the time.

J_9
Dec 26, 2007, 11:39 AM
Prove to whom? Who do you want to prove this to and why?

mahpiyaate
Dec 26, 2007, 11:40 AM
The judge, because we want to get married, sorry I didn't clarify.

J_9
Dec 26, 2007, 11:41 AM
It all depends on where you live... Most places need parents approval prior to age 18. And no, unfortunately a big stomach is not proof of pregnancy.

mahpiyaate
Dec 26, 2007, 11:43 AM
We'd be going to Georgia, and thanks.

mahpiyaate
Dec 26, 2007, 11:46 AM
What about ultrasound pictures that have her name on them?

J_9
Dec 26, 2007, 11:46 AM
You will still need parental permission since you are under 18.

mahpiyaate
Dec 26, 2007, 11:47 AM
Not in Georgia. So would ultrasound pictures be enough?

J_9
Dec 26, 2007, 11:57 AM
No, you would need a statement from a physician licensed in Georgia.

donf
Dec 26, 2007, 11:58 AM
Why would you want to wait until your lady is so uncomfortable from the pregnancy to share your vows. There are several ways to prove pregnancy, talk to her Obgyn and seek her / his guidance.

While I applaud your willingness to marry, have you thought this all the way through? My suggestion to you is to sit with a Priest, Pastor or Rabi, explain the situation and how you want to proceed from that point in time. Ask the Clergy member if he or she would come to talk to your parents with each of you present to assist you.

Get the permission of your parents! You need that to get married any way so get it as quick as possibly. However, listen to your parents if they start telling you their fears about marriage at such a young age. You may learn something that will help you.

Please do not do what my wife and I did. At 18 we lied about my age and eloped. We have been married nearly 42 years now and I have absolutely no regrets about marrying my lady, but the fallout was horrible. After we announced we were married neither set of parents were happy with us.

My lady's Aunts and Uncles and Father were all absolutely sure that she was pregnant, My family went to war with whoever. My mother wanted an annulment, hers wanted a divorce. Yet we managed to stick with each other. Eventually 2 years after we were married, her Aunts and Uncles realized she wasn't pregnant (Jim arrived 2 years after that) and re-welcomed the married "Us" into the arms of family. My Mother-in-law and Father-in-law treated us like we were their children. This was my first real look at Family.

mahpiyaate
Dec 26, 2007, 12:00 PM
We can't ask her parents because we KNOW they'd say no. They won't even let her sleep over at someone's house, let alone get married. And you don't need parental consent in Georgia if the lady is pregnant.

Does it NEED to be a Georgia physician?

J_9
Dec 26, 2007, 12:02 PM
According to the site I posted yes, it does need to be by a physician licensed in Georgia.

donf
Dec 27, 2007, 12:41 PM
Listen to me, you are biting off way more trouble by not telling all of your parents. They do not have to like the news but face them and tell them!

The worst they can do is rant and rave then forbid the their daughter from ever seeing you again. They cannot force her into an abortion and probably not want to lose a Grandchild.

More than likely her parents would grudgingly go along with the marriage since their "Family Honor and the Honor" of their daughter would be called into question. This is real shocking news that you are dropping on them. Expect some level of blow-back! But remember, they love their little girl and they will be afraid for her future. Have a plan for how you are going to move on with your married life. Let them offer suggestions.

Your parents may get unhinged also, let them, it's their right, you are bending the directions they have you going in.

Get all of this out of the way. Get married in your home area. Tell the parents that you would prefer to marry there and have them attend the wedding, but if you have to you can and will elope. Do not tell them where you plan to go to get married!

Make every possible option available to them to keep the doors open for you and your lady. You will need your parents help and cooperation much more than you think you will do not cut them off at the knees.

LearningAsIGo
Dec 27, 2007, 12:44 PM
You will need a physician's report stating she is pregnant to give a judge. I certainly hope your girlfriend has been getting prenatal care and has a doctor already...

Do you have a plan for this baby? Where will you live? If you plan on living with parents... then you better tell them you plan to get married or risk being homeless.

Does anyone know if there is a legal risk involved if two minors cross state lines? Could her parents have him arrested or vice versa? Just curious, but it can be an issue...

cerisa
Dec 27, 2007, 01:13 PM
Make a plan for your future. Both of you. Education, work, housing, medical, childcare, all of it. Be realistic. Talk to young couples who are raising a family. Spend some time with them if you can. With your skills can you make a living, care for a child 24/7 and be self sufficient? Discuss these things between you before you speak to your parents or hers.
How can you take on adult commitments if you are afraid to stand up to your parents?
This is your first test. If this is what you both really want. Make an appointment with each of your parents, ask them to sit down, tell them what you are planning, ask them to give you their blessing. The child will be their grandchild,They will most likely want to be part of the child's life. Good Luck to both of you. Be strong.

Fr_Chuck
Dec 27, 2007, 03:48 PM
Also not all states have rules that state if you are pregnant you can get married, in fact all it does is get your pregnant and a baby, and the parents still will not allow the marriage.