My boyfriend and I have been trying to conceive a baby for the past 4 1/2 months and it seems as if we have been unsuccessful. I had my period in October (had!! At the end of October) and missed my period for the month of November. I took a hpt and it returned (-). I received my LMP on December 7-10. My boyfriend and I had!! On December 20, 22, and 23. On the 20th and 22nd, he ejaculated in me and I elevated my legs on the 20th just after!! I have been tired, nauseous, and have had sore (*) (*) off and on. Could I recently have become pregnant and implantation bleeding occurred(12/7-10/05) or could I be a few weeks and not know it?

Okay. You say boyfriend and not husband. Um how old are you may I ask? I hope to god you aren't trying to get pregnant by some guy you aren't even married to or is there more to the story than I'm getting? Please tell me there's more? Plulease?? Those do sound like pregnancy symptoms but you may want to talk to a doctor.

Renee, please call your doctor if you have questions about your pregnancy test and you should have the doctor give you a check up.

Hi, ReNee,
I agree with the other answers about seeing a doctor. Getting a Professional opinion is what you need.
Crankiebabie also brought up a good point. Why do you want to get pregnant with your boyfriend? If you and he are going to be married, then please wait until after that happens.
If he decides that he no longer is in love with you, and leaves you after you have a baby, do you know what you are going to do? Live with your parents?
Please think about it. I do wish you good luck.

First of all, I respect the experts that tried to give me some sort of medical advice. My boyfriend has been with me for 3 years and 6 months and we have just recently decided to have a child. Also, we are ingaged to be married (he proposed). Before deciding to date, we were friends for 3 years. So we do have history and it is not some sort of sex thing. We do not live with our parents, I am 23 years-old and I have a job to support my child (that pays very well) if the father chooses to leave which will not determine my future or my child's future. I feel as if I am being judge and that is not what I signed up for, so I would appreciate if I actually received some helpful advice instead of judgemental comments.

We are not trying to judge you. YOu just did not give us the whole picture. If we had not pointed this thing about the boyfriend out to you then we would not be much of an expert. It is a part of what we do. We are after all here to help. :D

The Reason I Did Not Give The Whole Picture Is Because I Thought You Were Suppose To Offer Me Advice About Whether I Could Be Pregnant Or Not. I Felt As If It Was NOt Your Place To Decide My Age, Whether I Was Married, Or If I Would Be Able To Support My Child As A Single Parent. However, EvEryone Is Entitled To Their Own Opinion After All This Is America.

Actually I did give you advice. I told you that your symptoms do sound like pregnancy and to talk with your doctor as only your doctor can really tell you anything. As far as being judgemental. No. You said you and your boyfriend were trying to get pregnant. You did not tell us your age. For all we know you could have been a 13 year old girl trying to get pregnant and expecting us to help you. Which yes does matter. Besides the fact that you are so quick to try and get pregnant by your boyfriend before you even get married shows such a complete lack of maturity that I believe you are some kid trying to get pregnant and expecting us to help you. As adults yes we are supposed to say something about that.

Whether You Believe It Or Not, I Am Not A Child Or A Teenager. Many Women Have Different Instincts About Becoming A Mother. I Love My Fiancé Regardless Of How You Try To Make Me Feel Or How You Try To Make Me Look At The Situation. ****** Crankiebabie And I Hope No One Really Uses Your Advice Because You Always Look At The Negative Side Of A Situation. Now I Know Why You Labeled Yourself As Crankiebabie Because The Crankieness Actually Shows In Your Advice. Maybe The Fact That You Are Separated With 2 Daughters Has Had An Effect On The Way You Think. Instead Of Offering Advice As An Expert Maybe You Should See A Psychologist. Sorry You Did Not Find Your Pot Of Gold **********.

Okay what ever. Im not going to sit here and argue. I am very happy that I am separated or Id still be with an abusive man. I lable myself crankiebabie yes. The name I get from a joke between me and my 5 year old who I love very much so yes I use my pet name for her as my name here. And as you say I am not always looking at the negative side of things. There is an obvious negative side to trying to get pregnant by your boyfriend instead of waiting till you get married to him. It is not like he did not ask you to marry him. You don't have children and you probably mistakingly think that children are easy to take care of and they come with instructions. If he decides to change his mind and leave you instead of marry you then yes your child would suffer despite what you may believe. And I really don't care if you call me names. Thanks for the name of Irish *****. I bear the name proudly. Its your life and if you want to screw it up then go ahead but think about the child that will be hurt because you are selfish. You have no true motherly instincts. Have a child and then tell us of your motherly instincts.

My boyfriend and I have been trying to conceive a baby for the past 4 1/2 months and it seems as if we have been unsuccessful. I had my period in October (had !!! at the end of October) and missed my period for the month of November. I took a hpt and it returned (-). I recieved my LMP on December 7-10. My boyfriend and I had !!! on December 20, 22, and 23. On the 20th and 22nd, he ejaculated in me and I elevated my legs on the 20th just after !!!. I have been tired, nauseous, and have had sore (*) (*) off and on. Could I recently have become pregnant and implantation bleeding occurred(12/7-10/05) or could I be a few weeks and not know it?

Renee, I apologize if you feel that you were being judged, Crankiebabie was only trying to help.

I know that you and your fiancé are trying to conceive a baby and you came here for advice. So I'm going to try to answer your question. Fertility is dependent on a number of issues, it is difficult to determine whether it is possible for you to conceive without assistance. A woman is most fertile around the time she ovulates release of an egg from the ovaries to the fallopian tubes, therefore, if someone has unprotected vaginal intercourse up to approximately 5 days sometimes 7 before ovulation then the likelihood of pregnancy can be higher. Ovulation usually occurs the middle day of a woman's cycle. The first day of the cycle is the first day of a woman's period/bleeding. If a woman is on a 28-day cycle then ovulation would occur around day 14. It is difficult to pin point a woman's ovulation day unless you go through a process to determine the day so it is usually an estimated day. It is important that you speak with your doctor or a fertility specialist if you have concerns regarding fertility. I wish you luck and keep us posted.

Dear Renee08,
Hoping that you don't always have an attitude problem so obvious here, (which is an indication that you might be PG, due to hormonal spurts which can make one act nasty and touchy) the advice to see your physician is very well justified if this is your first experience with any of the symptoms you presented. I'm also including a few sites you can check out to make sure that if you don't get to your doctor soon, you'll at least understand what you are going through and what proper nutrition you need for a healthy baby if you are.
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/symptoms-of-pregnancy/PR00102
Scroll down and even get answers on flying while pregnant, exercise,
Dangers,proper nutrition, etc.
http://www.epigee.org/pregnancy/symptoms.html
www.askdramy.com (http://www.askdramy.com) The U.K. online doctor.you can post on a forum, or 'ask the Dr. Amy' with a click. The FAQ Tab on the homepage is also a good place to click and has a lot of good subject matter. P.S. Most of the articles are printable in PDF format.

Putting someone else down the way you did was not really justified, as we are responsible people and think also of the financial and emotional wellbeing of potential mothers to be since it's important to have a stress less pregnancy. Crankiebabie's concern, if you read some of the stories from irresponsible 13 to 16 year old young ladies who want to get pregnant just to get out of a bad family situation - which would be like jumping out of the frying pan into the fire - and also the risks of STDs, I feel it was OK for her to ask the questions she did - as I ask them too.
If you are upset or disappointed you really don't need to take it out on us - and believe me, if you are, and go through spurts like this with your fiancé, he needs to check out the sites too to be able to understand that you'll act worse than any woman with PMS sometimes.
Whether you take our advice or not us up to you, and we do wish you all the best and that you achieve your goal. One more bit of advice, please try and relax as much as possible - stress is not a good for your health or your baby's, if it's what your symptoms indicate.
Hope the sites help and that all will go well. Feel free to keep us posted too, after you've seen your doctor, OK?

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I WAS I THE SITUATION WHERE I was gowing to get married so me and my boyfriend had a baby 3 weeks into the pregnecy he left so don't get upset and just think it through before if its not to late

Crankiebabie, I Want To Say That Now I Understand Your Concern And I Want To Say I Apologize For My Behavior. I Know Being A Mother Is Not Going To Be Easy And There Are A lot Of Things That I Will Have To Learn And Come To Understand. Honestly, I Know If My Child Was To Grow Up Without A Father It Would Effect Them Because It Effected Me. Although, I Have Faith In My Relationship With My Fiancé And That Is All I Want You To Understand. Yes, The Name Calling Was Unnecessary And I Apologize. Thanks For The Advice And If You Wish I Will Keep You Posted On My Situation. Hopefully, You Accept My Apology And Continue To Give Me Advice. Oh Yeah, My Fiancé And I Discussed The Situation And He Said He Would Be There Regardless And It Was Up To Me Whether We Have A Baby Right Now, So We Have Decided To Wait Until We Get Married To Try And Have A Baby, If We Have Not Already Conceived. Thanks For The Insight Because I Do Want My Child To Have Their Father With Him/her While They Grow Up.

Hi dear. I accept your apology. I was not all that nice either and I apologize also. It is just that I made a mistake like that before and I don't like to see other people walk into something like that. My ex husband told me he loved me and would marry me and I got pregnant by him before we actually got married. Well he married me but I discovered not because he loved me but because I was pregnant and he thought he was doing the "right" thing. He did not help me take care of the children we had together. He had an affair on me and has two children by his mistress. He takes care of the children that she had by him and changes their diapers and everything and waits on her hand and foot. He never did that for me. He doesn't even care about the children that I had by him. That is why I feel so strongly about this. Im glad that you and your boyfriend are waiting on the baby. You both will be glad you did in the end even if you get married and stay together for a hundred years. Good luck and do please keep in touch with us.

Renee, please do stay on and keep us posted. You'll benefit from the experiences and even horror stories - that's what life is about, learning every day. Emotions are a part of being human, and we all go off now and then, so don't worry about grudges or judgements - they don't apply here. Good luck no matter what your choice is.

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Renee08 and Crankiebabie, your comments are to be commended.

I see more bickering on the boards than I'd like to - and seeing you two make amends is quite encouraging.

Now, that's the Christmas Spirit!

Hey, guys. Well, crankibabie and others, My fiancé and I had made the decision to wait until we are married to have a baby and that was and is fine with the both of us. Now I feel as if we won't be able to wait until the marriage to have a baby because I have been feeling so weird lately. I've noticed I've been over emotional, dizzy, and frequently urinating, and cramping. Just to name a few. Is it possible that I am feeling pg symptoms a week after conception or can my fiancé and I still look toward the future to have our child? :confused:

Hey, guys. Well, crankibabie and others, My fiance and i had made the decision to wait until we are married to have a baby and that was and is fine with the both of us. Now I feel as if we won't be able to wait until the marriage to have a baby because i have been feeling so weird lately. I've noticed I've been over emotional, dizzy, and frequently urinating, and cramping. Just to name a few. Is it possible that I am feeling pg symptoms a week after conception or can my fiance and I still look toward the future to have our child? :confused:

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/symptoms-of-pregnancy/PR00102

Check out the site it mentions all the symptoms on the first page and more.. but remember the golden rule - when in doubt, always see your doctor. Some things cannot be planned as we want, and just happen. No matter what happens, I wish you all the luck and a HAPPY NEW YEAR! P.S. Keep us posted.

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Crankiebabie, I Want To Say That Now I Understand Your Concern And I Want To Say I Apologize For My Behavior. I Know Being A Mother Is Not Going To Be Easy And There Are Alot Of Things That I Will Have To Learn And Come To Understand. Honestly, I Know If My Child Was To Grow Up Without A Father It Would Effect Them Because It Effected Me. Although, I Have Faith In My Relationship With My Fiance And That Is All I Want You To Understand. Yes, The Name Calling Was Unnecessary And I Apologize. Thanks For The Advice And If You Wish I Will Keep You Posted On My Situation. Hopefully, You Accept My Apology And Continue To Give Me Advice. Oh Yeah, My Fiance And I Discussed The Situation And He Said He Would Be There Regardless And It Was Up To Me Whether We Have A Baby Right Now, So We Have Decided To Wait Until We Get Married To Try And Have A Baby, If We Have Not Already Conceived. Thanks For The Insight Because I Do Want My Child To Have Their Father With Him/her While They Grow Up.

Renee, this public apology to Crankiebabie shows a great deal of maturity on your part but what shows an even greater deal of maturity and character is that you and your fiancé have decided to wait until you are married to have a child. That is the wisest and most unselfish thing you have said yet. Even the little sparrows make their nest before laying their eggs. You realized that you want to establish your new marital partnership before you bring anyone else into the equation and that's very responsible of you. The first year of marriage is typically the hardest so you don't need the added mental and physical stress of a pregnancy to boot. Not only do you not want to put the cart before the horse, but wouldn't you like to give you and your fiancé just a little time at least to enjoy each other as man and wife before your new little blessing comes along? I waited about 10 months after marrying before getting pregnant and as much as I love and adore my kids, I wish I would have waited just a little longer, maybe a year or two. Those 10 months gave us time and the freedom to do a little traveling, a little partying and a lot of one on one time. I know you've lived with him for a while but believe me when I say, your feelings for him will intensify once he slips that ring on your finger. I can't explain it, it's just different. Eitherway, best of luck to you and your new family to come! Yes, please keep us posted.

It can take up to 4 weeks before it can be confirmed with certainty. If you continue having difficulty conceiving, then the two of you may need to be tested for infertility.

Hey crankiebabie and others. Well, I just want to say that I am not pregnant because I received my period. Although, is it normal that the blood is deposited in medium to large size clumps?

Clumps? Like clumps of dark red blood? I know you can get really small ones sometimes. How big exactly are we talking?

They were exactly dark red blood and were about the size of a dime or a penny. Well, because I was having a lot of pregnancy symptoms I did not know if it was my period or me having a miscarriage.

These are common signs of miscarriage: vaginal bleeding, abdominal, lower back or pelvic pain. Tissue that passes from the vagina. Bleeding that is light or heavy, constant or irregular. It is often hard to tell if light bleeding is a sign of miscarriage. When bleeding is followed by pain the likelihood of miscarriage is high. The clumps sound normal to me but if you are concerned about a miscarriage see the doctor. They will give you a pelvic exam, do blood test and perform an ultrasound test.

Thanks for the advice crankibabie. Oh yeah, I've been meaning to ask you is that your picture that comes up with your posts. Anyway, I really do not think it is a miscarriage, but the clumps of blood kind of scared me.

No that's not me. Hopefully I will get a recent pic of me on here soon. Haven't had time to get one taken.

Renee, it's possible that you're having your period. The clumps are most likely blood clots. The clumps of tissue is a part of the endometrium (uterine lining) shedding and it's considered to be normal. If your discharging heavy blood clots or tissue or anything you feel is abnormal, you should call your doctor right away and make an appointment to see them.

I Am Happy To Mention That My Boyfriend And I Tied The Knot. We Did Not Have A Traditional Ceremony Because He Is Starting His Own Music Business In Georgia And I Am Helping In His Company. So The Money Was Needed. However, We Decided To Still Have The Ceremony Later Down The Road. The Important Thing Is That We Got Married Not How We Got Married. I Have A Bachelor's Degree In Nursing So I Have Received A Well-paid Job In Georgia, Too. I Want To Say Thanks For Convincing Me To Wait And Have A Baby Because Now We Can Support Our Child Better. We'll Got to Go Got Some Honeymooning To Do If You Know What I Mean. Lol

I Am Happy To Mention That My Boyfriend And I Tied The Knot. We Did Not Have A Traditional Ceremony Because He Is Starting His Own Music Business In Georgia And I Am Helping In His Company. So The Money Was Needed. However, We Decided To Still Have The Ceremony Later Down The Road. The Important Thing Is That We Got Married Not How We Got Married. I Have A Bachelor's Degree In Nursing So I Have Recieved A Well-paid Job In Georgia, Too. I Want To Say Thanks For Convincing Me To Wait And Have A Baby Because Now We Can Support Our Child Better. We'll Gotta Go Got Some Honeymooning To Do If You Know What I Mean. Lol

Congratulations! And enjoy your honeymoon. Keep us posted when you get back.

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So very Excited for you!! You did the right thing! Congratulations and I will pray for you that the Lord bless your marriage with lots of love and happiness and a child when you and your husband decide the time is right. May your honeymoon never be over!