Log in

View Full Version : What's the deal?


RedDiamond
Dec 17, 2007, 05:45 PM
Hi everyone,

I have a problem that's been lurking in my mind and I have asked a few of my best friends and they couldn't come up with any answers. So I was thinking since I answer question on here... maybe someone with more experience can help me. First off, I am of age and so is my boyfriend. We have made the decision to have sex.ok, my problem is why can't I have an orgasm? I mean, It's been like 7 times and still nothing. I find my boyfriend very attrative and he's not a bad lover. I just don't have any idea of what's keeping me from reaching one. From the information I have gathered, sex is suppose to feel good, so what's the hold up? My friends said the 1. I am too tight. 2. It'll take sometime to get used to or 3. Hell, I don't knoe. I think it's just me but any one have any suggestions? Thanks a lot

simoneaugie
Dec 17, 2007, 05:59 PM
The best lover will bring you to orgasm before he takes his penis out. Women have different needs than men. It can take us much longer to get there. Once we have one orgasm, it's usually quick and easy to have several more.

I'm irritated with myself that for years I thought guys knew what they were doing. You have to learn together. And, you have to know what feels good. Masturbation is a good guide.

RedDiamond
Dec 17, 2007, 06:12 PM
I know but at times its just do discouraging. Others have no problems with it but for me. I guess I have to learn.

13sldr
Dec 17, 2007, 07:25 PM
When you and your boyfriend are having sex, is he more foucsed on getting off or making you feel good.

I have noticed in past sessions that when I slowed down and focused on what she like, I would get her off

13sldr
Dec 17, 2007, 09:33 PM
also, is he using a condom, cause I have found out that I don't feel anything with most condoms and from what I could tell from my partners expressions she couldn't either. We found out that the ultra thins worked the best for us.