Well my boyfriend and I just started going out about a week ago and now he's sencond guessing weither we should stay together or not because he has a little feelings for his ex. What should I do? :confused:

Now, keep in mind that I'm giving you this answer assuming that you treated this guy very nicely the short time you were together:

The faster you walk away from this guy, the better. Never, but never spend a minute of your precious time on a man who isn't falling over himself to be with you. Not knowing anything about you or him makes it hard to say why he did what he did. He may not be the committed type, he might be wishy-washy, rebounding, or he may just be so hung up on his ex that he couldn't stand the thought of being with anyone else. Either way, this DOES NOT mean that there is anything wrong with you! It means that he realized what he really wanted and decided not to take up anymore of your time. Consider it a blessing that he didn't drag this on for 3 or 6 months, or as you may see on this forum for years!

Move on, have fun with your gal pals. When you least expect it, the right guy will come around, but really, what's the hurry?

well my boyfriend and i just started going out about a week ago and now he's sencond guessing weither we shoudl stay together or not because he has a little feelings for his ex. what should i do? :confused:Dear, get used to it, and be glad, as Momincali said, he at least is one person who respected you enough to not let you dangle. Unless there is something you are not telling us, he did the right thing. Welcome to the world of dating, and falling in and out of lust first, then love.
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Do you really have to ask that question. Honey if you don't leave that boy and stay away from him then you have no self esteem. You don't need some little boy putting you in 2nd place.

Hi,
You have a boyfriend, of just 1 week, and he is talking about his ex-girlfriend?
You deserve much, much more than this. Your boyfriend is not worthy of you, doesn't respect you, and if he is thinking about his ex while with you, then you don't want him.
Find yourself a boyfriend who cares about YOU...
It will happen, and all you have to do is to keep talking with boys. Meet new ones, and before you know it, you will find someone right for you.
I do wish you the best, and good luck.

This guy is obviously on the rebound and still has lots of feelings for his ex. It has only been a week so it's good you found out sooner rather than later.

This is not going anywhere - best to get out - he will only drag you down otherwise!

You've only been together for a week and he seems to be carrying a torch for his ex. I'd back off at this point. If he confronts you as to why, say something like "Well, I know you still have feelings for your ex, so it's only fair that I give you time to work through them before going on any further with this relationship." This will serve two purposes: 1.) it will make him realize that you do not do "rebound" relationships and 2.) it will force his hand in that, if he does care for you and wants to pursue something with you, then he'll put out the torch for his ex, once and for all and focus on you." Either way, you'll come out the winner and preserve your dignity and self-respect. Good luck!

First, one of the questions I have about this is how much do you really like him? It seems that everyone's advice is great in here and it is, a great group of people and I pale in comparison, however when I was reading the replies, I wondering if there was anything left to say, I got to this question. HOW MUCH DO YOU LIKE HIM? Most everyone on here is saying that you can easily dispense of this guy, and I hope you can only if you want to. I am going to try and explain this guy's point of view, and how you might want to approach it, after all it's advice. Anyway, this guy doesn't sound like a bad guy, just he probably went through the ringer and his ex didn't give him a good break up, because if a break up is good than there is no second guessing involved for anybody.And maybe you like like him, so you might want to work it out. And I think someone already said this, but I don't know if it's best to give him an ultimatum, because he might perceive you as snotty and pushy if you do it wrong. So my advice is that you should sit down with him and talk about it, and try to see what his problem is because you probably are friends with him and he might need someone to talk to, and ask him if he will really put his heart and soul into your relationship. If he says no than at least he was honest and your better off, if he says yes then you have hopefully passed this speed bump, and are ready to progress with your relationship. Anyway, I hope you have the best of luck and that my advice has helped.

Another example of immature guys running the ladies off.And they wonder why girls need a break!I was ready to tell you to be compassionate ,but to tell the truth this story is getting to old so,tell him real straight to call you when he's ready and see if you'll still be there,then stick to your word!you have a right to make yourself happy so do so, and let his mama tell him where he went wrong ,this is not your job to raise him.Having said that be compassionate and understanding, but do be firm and honest.Hope it works out for both of you. :cool: :) :rolleyes: ;)