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gem0550
Nov 22, 2007, 05:56 PM
I have been with my boyfriend for around 1.5 years, we moved in together recently and it seems to have brought out my insecurities. I have always believed he cheated on me in the beginning of our relationship. The other night he had left his email open and I couldn't help but have a look. My suspicions were confirmed and I confronted him about it. He know is extremely angry and doesn't know whether the relationship can carry on or not. He says I went out of my way to find something, and I suppose in a way I did. I have such a fear of losing him, and jealousy its killing my relationship, is there any way of fixing this? Or is my relationship doomed...

Fr_Chuck
Nov 22, 2007, 06:08 PM
So he is blaming you for finding out he was cheating.
So was he cheating, and what did he have to say about cheating.

Chery
Nov 22, 2007, 06:13 PM
That depends on the both of you.

Are you willing to regain his trust?

Is he willing to forgive the intrusion?

If you have problems communicating without professional help about this issue and your jealousy, are you both willing to seek help?

Was he in reality 'cheating on you' again?

The first step is talking about this to each other and solving it together one way or the other.

Good luck dear, I hope it does not take too long to solve this.

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Bassdrop
Nov 22, 2007, 06:15 PM
Just playing devil's advocate here, but I've been accused of cheating based on penis spam/junk mail before and I wasn't... but same sort of deal, she went out of her way to find something and did... are you absolutely sure he's cheating on you?

gem0550
Nov 22, 2007, 06:37 PM
Yes he was, he isn't any more, but he did. And has admitted doing so. Says he was confused,didn't know where we were going. He cheated, I invaded his privacy and that's what's he is mad at. Says he can't stand the scrutinizing anymore.

gem0550
Nov 22, 2007, 06:39 PM
Thanks, that was helpful x