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sdc719
Nov 21, 2007, 08:20 PM
I have a 4yr old and the father refuses to give up rights. I have heard around town (I live in a small TX town) that he is using drugs and things of that nature. He has three other children plus my son and I' m worried about my child and the other children's safety. We have a sttandard visitation order in the state of Texas and child support is not constant. He hasn't seen his son in about 2 years and is usually in arrears with the child support but will quit jobs and bring up to the attorney general's office that he has a wife and 3 other kids to support so they will not take him to jail. I know that at anytime he can just pop in and decide this is the weekend he wants to take him but I'm not sure what the condition I will be like at his home with the 3 little kids and possible drugs in his fathers system. My son also has issues with dealing with change which directly affect his behavior and he already sees a counselor that works with him 1-2 times a week until he is old enough to test for ADD or ADHD or ODD. Is there anyway I could contact CPS(Child Protective Services) to investigate the situation before my son ends up going? And since my son is somewhat "special needs" is there a way legally that I could change up the visitation if his father ever takes him?? Possibly terminate parental rights?
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N0help4u
Nov 21, 2007, 08:28 PM
Talk to your case worker about possibilities of revising the visitations. I doubt they will go for termination of rights and I believe the father has to agree to it.
Tell your case worker all three concerns --the drugs, his never bothering to keep visitations and your sons problems with change.

Fr_Chuck
Nov 21, 2007, 08:32 PM
Most times complaints to social services from "ex's" are not taken that serious, they as a norm complain against each other.
But again they may, but you will need real problems, kids not being fed, being beat, being hurt, being left alone. Some real abuse to look at

You can if you get real proof good enough to use in court, to require him to take a drug test and if found positive he may have to do supervised visits. You also need to be forcing the child support.

sdc719
Nov 21, 2007, 08:41 PM
Most times complaints to social services from "ex's" are not taken that serious, they as a norm complain agaisnt each other.
But again they may, but you will need real problems, kids not being fed, being beat, being hurt, being left alone. some real abuse to look at

You can if you get real proof good enough to use in court, to require him to take a drug test and if found positive he may have to do supervised visits. you also need to be forcing the child support.




The child support is already done through the attorney general's office and they garnish his wages but since he goes from job to job it takes 6-8 weeks for processing and by that time he quits. His wife was physical toward my son before and he has a scar by his eye where she struck him and it is still visble from an injury obtained nearly 2 years ago during last visitaiton. At that time visitation drop off and pick up was done at a visitaion facility where they are supposed to check the child for injuries or bruises at drop off and pick up and no one documented it since one of their distant relatives worked there. ( I live in a little Texas town with, not to be racist, there's a large hispanic population and nearly all of them are related somehow) That was the whole point of using the facility.

Fr_Chuck
Nov 21, 2007, 08:45 PM
So he is behind, take him back to court to get a new order to pay more for arrears, see about getting his Drivers license taken away ( I think they do that in Texas) maybe a few months in jail will help him pay faster.

But it is hard without direct evidence to restrict visits.

JudyKayTee
Nov 22, 2007, 10:43 AM
The child support is already done through the attorney general's office and they garnish his wages but since he goes from job to job it takes 6-8 weeks for processing and by that time he quits. His wife was physical toward my son before and he has a scar by his eye where she struck him and it is still visble from an injury obtained nearly 2 years ago during last visitaiton. At that time visitation drop off and pick up was done at a visitaion facility where they are supposed to check the child for injuries or bruises at drop off and pick up and no one documented it since one of their distant relatives worked there. ( i live in a little Texas town with, not to be racist, there's a large hispanic population and nearly all of them are related somehow) That was the whole point of using the facility.


If your child was unmarked when dropped off and injured when picked up I would have gone to the Police.

It may not be too late now but if you think there is abuse you owe it to your child to do something. Go back to Court and attempt to limit visitation to supervised situations.

Failure to receive child support and having your X's wife abuse your child are two entirely different matters.