AustProd6
Nov 21, 2007, 05:39 AM
WOW, I must say my intentions for no contact were selfish to get ex back but 4 1/2 monhs down the track at it certainly has changed my life. Here is a brief run down.
Last 18 Years: Left me 13 times (Borderline Personality Disorder) with our 3 daughters always a midnight flite.
July 17: Again left me while I was 200kms away at a 2 day Meeting. Gutted House left me with bugger all.AM DEVASTATED EVEN SUICIDAL THOUGHTS. HEAVILY DEPRESSED. Now I need to be strong and pick myself up financially and emotionally as I have done in the past. SHE (EX) goes into hiding without letting me know here kids are.
July 21: sent her an email outlining that that was it. No more. Time to get busy living. SHe "gives me permission to speak to girls on Middle Daughters Mobile only. Girls are controlled and monitored when talking to them.
August 1: Change address, Mobile Phone, Home Phone, Email Address. Basically went off the face of the earth. Only Middle Daughter has new Mobile number.
August 3: Ex in car accident as passenger, in hospital for week. Fairly serious. Absolutely nothing from me. NC means NC.
From that point, many texts, and contact from Daughters to new mobile. Many exts from her trying to reach out. NOTHING FROM ME
September 21st: Meet younger (35) beautiful lady with 2 fanttastic kids 14/16 who really like me. She likes me and as much as we don't want to rush into anything things move fast.
NOW
Have spoken to ex twice when she has tricked me to think it was the girls calling. I was polite, friendly but quick and to the point about things. Refused any niceties like reduction of Child Support etc.
I am falling deeply in love with new lady who absolutely thinks I am the catch of the century. She has awoken the romantic in me and brings out the best of me. Her kids have
really taken to me. Think I am great because I treat their mother "right". Financially head above water, moved into a really nice 3 bedroom unit and decorated it to feel like a home I could bring anyone home to. (No TV on a Milk Crate LOL stuff).
I HAVE BROKEN FREE OF A CONTROLLING PERSON.
I feel fantastically happy, Financially free, Mentally stable, Happy at Work, Wanted, needed, loved, Stress Free. I have regained my life and happiness.
NO CONTACT: DO IT. You may start trying to get your ex back, but man do you really stumble across true happiness.
What I thought was happiness was actually co dependency and a controlling relationship.
She may have dumped me but it helped me find mental freedom.
You feel depressed, hurt and rejected now. But let me say NO CONTACT does help YOU. It gave the choice of being happy or accepting her reach outs. I chose happiness.
DOWNSIDE
I don't have my girls anymore in my life.
Last 18 Years: Left me 13 times (Borderline Personality Disorder) with our 3 daughters always a midnight flite.
July 17: Again left me while I was 200kms away at a 2 day Meeting. Gutted House left me with bugger all.AM DEVASTATED EVEN SUICIDAL THOUGHTS. HEAVILY DEPRESSED. Now I need to be strong and pick myself up financially and emotionally as I have done in the past. SHE (EX) goes into hiding without letting me know here kids are.
July 21: sent her an email outlining that that was it. No more. Time to get busy living. SHe "gives me permission to speak to girls on Middle Daughters Mobile only. Girls are controlled and monitored when talking to them.
August 1: Change address, Mobile Phone, Home Phone, Email Address. Basically went off the face of the earth. Only Middle Daughter has new Mobile number.
August 3: Ex in car accident as passenger, in hospital for week. Fairly serious. Absolutely nothing from me. NC means NC.
From that point, many texts, and contact from Daughters to new mobile. Many exts from her trying to reach out. NOTHING FROM ME
September 21st: Meet younger (35) beautiful lady with 2 fanttastic kids 14/16 who really like me. She likes me and as much as we don't want to rush into anything things move fast.
NOW
Have spoken to ex twice when she has tricked me to think it was the girls calling. I was polite, friendly but quick and to the point about things. Refused any niceties like reduction of Child Support etc.
I am falling deeply in love with new lady who absolutely thinks I am the catch of the century. She has awoken the romantic in me and brings out the best of me. Her kids have
really taken to me. Think I am great because I treat their mother "right". Financially head above water, moved into a really nice 3 bedroom unit and decorated it to feel like a home I could bring anyone home to. (No TV on a Milk Crate LOL stuff).
I HAVE BROKEN FREE OF A CONTROLLING PERSON.
I feel fantastically happy, Financially free, Mentally stable, Happy at Work, Wanted, needed, loved, Stress Free. I have regained my life and happiness.
NO CONTACT: DO IT. You may start trying to get your ex back, but man do you really stumble across true happiness.
What I thought was happiness was actually co dependency and a controlling relationship.
She may have dumped me but it helped me find mental freedom.
You feel depressed, hurt and rejected now. But let me say NO CONTACT does help YOU. It gave the choice of being happy or accepting her reach outs. I chose happiness.
DOWNSIDE
I don't have my girls anymore in my life.