Okay we've been together for about 10 months now. Both of us are going through a lot of personal problems lately, her with school and her grandmother on the brink of dying, me with financial situations and school as well, and we both have been in bad moods now for a few weeks. Me and her have been pretty much the perfect couple, never fought and we really do love each other, but the last couple weeks we been fighting about everything and getting on eachothers nerves. Then on Wednesday we got into a fight and I lost my temper and flipped out on her and took all my anger out on her verbally and said a LOT of stuff I didn't mean and it really hurt her. Since then she has been insanely mad at me. I apologized to her a million times and I really did mean it, I love this girl and don't want to lose her. I told her that we won't ever be normal again until she can forgive me, as I told her it was my fault and I am sorry. I told her to take a few days to cool down and forgive me. Then today she calls me and tells me she wants to go on a break. Now we all know what happens when girls go on a break :-\ She said she hung out with her friends over the weekend and had so much fun and felt great, and she didn't feel like that with me so she needed to think about things. I think this is crazy considering for 10 months we never fought, except for little nonsense arguments we had for the past 2 weeks and then one big fight. I told her no to the break because in the end I know she's just going to want to breakup. She promised me she will wait till tomorrow so we can hang out and talk about it face to face. I don't know what to do or say, I just am afraid I am going to lose her. I know that was really long, but I'm just scared :(

Ps: her friends said bring her flowers and a card, she's big on the card's, not sure if this is the right time to give her these?

Hey pork,

Sometimes when a person loses his cool, he says something he does regret. That's why when you get upset, its best to walk away so you don't put your foot in your mouth.

You have 2 options, one in each way. First way is to give her space and hope she realzies she loves you and comes back.

Another option is to go after her and show her how much you still care about her. Send her flowers, or something else that she likes. I'd vote for option 2, but that's your call.

CaptainForest is right you do have two options but there is no reason why you cannot combine them.

I think you should not smother her (as she does need time to think) but just let her know you are still there and you still care. Take her friends Idea about the card. Find a beautiful card with a wonderful poem that says how you feel about her. All you need to write is something simple and brief as the gesture will say so much more. I would not bother with the flowers (thats going a bit over board and she won't take kindly to it in this situation. You need to make an effort but not try too hard.



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Hi,
I agree with the sending her a card once in a while and some flowers.
Otherwise, leave her alone for now.
If you two are really in love, it will last through this. Give her some time to get over being mad so much. My first wife and I did the same thing, many yrs. Ago. Broke up, then got back together after a few months, got married, then divorced after 7 years!
My second marriage is going on 29 yrs now!
Life is full of good and bad experiences; and it's all in how you react to them.
Give her some time to make up her mind. Hopefully, it will all work out OK.
I don't see anything else you can do right now. Give it a couple of months.

Pork - how are things? Isn't heard from you - just wondered if any of us made any sense to you and had been able to help you out??

Drop us a line soon yeah?

Actually, taking a little break probably wasn't such a bad idea. The two of you need to regroup and pull yourselves together again. You're both under a lot of strain right now. Unfortunately you took your frustrations out on her. If one takes your post at face value and this was in fact a one-time incident, then in the long run it shouldn't matter as it can be forgiven and you can move on with your relationship. If it's a habit, on the other hand, you taking your frustrations out on her, then I can she why she'd want to break up and stay as far away from you as possible. My best advice to you at this point is don't ever do that again. If you need to take your frustrations out on something then kick a chair ; don't go off on her. If it does happen again, then you'll probably lose her forever, and rightly so.

Hey I know its been a long time since you posted your Q but I have a tip for your dating...
If you ever break up with a girl and she says the famous quote," Can we still be friends?" I don't care if it may be the rudest answer but simply say no and walk away.

Not convinced this is the best way?
Well here's the idea...
She has lost her feeling for you so she's breaking up with you (or whatever the reason is).
In order to not hurt her still slightly kept feelings for you she wants to keep some interaction...
You need to make her make a choice...
Keep you or not.
That is why you will learn by doing this weather or not she actually loves you.

Now if she never asks if you can be friends then quite frankly you are screwed my friend.

Hope things go well with your gf/Xgf.

(Don't ask for my source of knowledge [it's not experience]):D