jolienoire
Nov 7, 2007, 08:34 AM
I had to post this as this is something I am experiencing, I was in a relationship with someone about 10 years ago we broke up because of our decision to join the military. Anyway there was no contact between the two of us for those 10 years he married and divorced with no children. I married and divorced with two children.. Sometime last year we reconnected on a personals site, and from that day we have spent everyday together, even did things with my children, they love him dearly and he have treated them as if they were his children. We totally knew eachothers situation and he accepted the fact that I made it clear my children are first. We even talked about remarriage and if this was to ever happen will I be open to have more children.
Okay so within this year he was going through a lot, from work problems, gambling, addiction to prescription drugs. He was really unstable. I was his motivation, I helped him to find a new job helped him with his gambling, his addiction, made him always feel like he was someone even when he didn't feel good.
He is in his 30's still living at home with his parents. They knew him and I were dating and they knew and loved my children. But when I would go home he often would have fights with his parents because they would often ask what is he doing with me and why do he want to be with someone who already have children, Not only did they didn't approve but also because I am of mixed background. They wanted to see him with a nice Italian woman. He told me everything his parents said but assured me he was in total control of the situation.
He comes from a wealthy background and his father told him that if he thought about marrying me he wouldn't leave him a dime to support him and some tramp who has two children. This really upset my boyfriend, he felt torn between me and his parents, but in the end he choose his parents. Well I made the decision for him, because I didn't want to convince someone that I am the perfect woman. He doesn't even know if he could have children..
I on the other hand have a house and a very stable career but never belittled him in any way. I often showed support and offered to get him back on his feet. I don't come from a wealthy background but I am wealthy at heart and spirit, I made a very good life for myself I have accomplished a lot and still will continue to do much more.
I haven't called him or contacted him since the breakup, I am hurting because of the fact that we got along great! Never fought. I gave him his space we had a lot in common. My reason for writing this blog is that I don't understand why do parents punish their children for loving someone different.. I am also upset with the fact that they forget all the problems their son had far worst than mine. And he indeed is no saint, they were willing to push him off when he was doing bad, and loved me for getting them off their hands, and once he became stable again they are being supportive.
I don't intend on calling him or contacting him but I am indeed hurt, Hurt because I felt I waisted my time. I felt used and mistreated. There is a likelihood of him wanting to get back together. He is a mess right now since the breakup he has been drinking, and going out to get me off his mind. My thing is I don't know how to respond if he wants to get back together because I really love him, but I don't think I want him now especially if his parents are going to run his life...
Any advice??
Okay so within this year he was going through a lot, from work problems, gambling, addiction to prescription drugs. He was really unstable. I was his motivation, I helped him to find a new job helped him with his gambling, his addiction, made him always feel like he was someone even when he didn't feel good.
He is in his 30's still living at home with his parents. They knew him and I were dating and they knew and loved my children. But when I would go home he often would have fights with his parents because they would often ask what is he doing with me and why do he want to be with someone who already have children, Not only did they didn't approve but also because I am of mixed background. They wanted to see him with a nice Italian woman. He told me everything his parents said but assured me he was in total control of the situation.
He comes from a wealthy background and his father told him that if he thought about marrying me he wouldn't leave him a dime to support him and some tramp who has two children. This really upset my boyfriend, he felt torn between me and his parents, but in the end he choose his parents. Well I made the decision for him, because I didn't want to convince someone that I am the perfect woman. He doesn't even know if he could have children..
I on the other hand have a house and a very stable career but never belittled him in any way. I often showed support and offered to get him back on his feet. I don't come from a wealthy background but I am wealthy at heart and spirit, I made a very good life for myself I have accomplished a lot and still will continue to do much more.
I haven't called him or contacted him since the breakup, I am hurting because of the fact that we got along great! Never fought. I gave him his space we had a lot in common. My reason for writing this blog is that I don't understand why do parents punish their children for loving someone different.. I am also upset with the fact that they forget all the problems their son had far worst than mine. And he indeed is no saint, they were willing to push him off when he was doing bad, and loved me for getting them off their hands, and once he became stable again they are being supportive.
I don't intend on calling him or contacting him but I am indeed hurt, Hurt because I felt I waisted my time. I felt used and mistreated. There is a likelihood of him wanting to get back together. He is a mess right now since the breakup he has been drinking, and going out to get me off his mind. My thing is I don't know how to respond if he wants to get back together because I really love him, but I don't think I want him now especially if his parents are going to run his life...
Any advice??