mom2nck
Nov 6, 2007, 10:18 AM
My husband and I have been together for 13 yrs, married for 12 yrs. We have some serious ups and downs in our sexual relationship over the years. The most recent and problematic times have been the last 3-4 yrs. He was working in the shipping industry and gone from the home for 1-2 months at a time then home for a month. Well, the night he comes home... the sex is on, but then that's it! Nothing... until the night before he leaves to go back out on the ship. Occasionally we might have sex once in the middle of him being home but that was pretty rare. I have asked if he was seeing other women, he says no. He only wants me... but that is not how it looks to me. He just doesn't seem to want it except when he comes home and when he leaves. It is devastating for me emotionally. I feel like I am not attractive to him anymore and its just a quick sex thing before he leaves and the night he gets back. I am sick of it. I have tried on many occasions to talk to him, get through to him that something is going on and he needs to share with me what's happening with him. He says nothing, he always finds an excuse of why he doesn't want to have sex. I have done different things that I know gets him turned on and it seems to not help what so ever. HELP!! I just do not want to give up on my sex life with my husband. Everything else in our life/relationship is fantastic... where did we go wrong? I feel like I have done everything I can to make sure to keep him interested in the bedroom and it seems to not have worked. I am 35 and he is 32, I am in my sexual prime, could it be wrong timing for him? Oh I just don't know, I just need some help/advice on my situation.