My husband and I am getting divorced after 10 months. There was drugs, pornography and abuse involved. I am 8 months pregnant with a girl. I filed for a divorce. He is willing to give my custody if I comply with his visitation request. I have no problem with his requests, but he wants access to the baby 3 or more times a week till she is 3 years old. Remember this guy is extremely abusive and there is an 8 year old (not his child) in the house. I am totally stressed about it, and the fact that he can become abusive when visiting and I'm not up for spending time with him because of the abuse. Is it a reasonable request of him to come and sit at my house in the evening 3 and more times a week especially when the baby is going to sleep as he works far and till late night. Won't this disturb the routine of the baby and what if he becomes abusive?

You have a history of him being abusive - why in the world would you allow him in your home and give him any opportunity to repeat any past behavior? Ask your attorney about this but I would want supervised vistations, done at a neutral place, such as Social Services. Why have him come into your home? This sounds like a control mechanism for him. NO, I would not allow him in the home. He could hurt you, take the baby, hurt your other child, and take off.

Are you documenting everything he is saying and doing to you? What is with this he is willing to give you custody? Willing?? The courts will determine this and you have excellent chances of obtaining custody, given his history. Hasn't your attorney told you that? This guy sounds like an absolute control freak.