cantgiveyoumyname
Oct 30, 2007, 06:34 AM
Hello,
I thought I would write about my situation and hope for some advice. Here goes
I moved to the UK from America to be with my husband. This could turn into a terribly long story but I will try to be brief. Basically he is not the same person I met. I have been here for almost two years. I don't know anyone. I stay at home with my children. My husband has on occasion stopped buying us food because things were not going well between him and I and has said he will leave. (If he leaves then my visa will not be renewed and I will have to leave the country.. If I was forced to leave then I would be homeless in America as I do not know anyone nor do I have family) I feel that my husband is using his power to get what he wants. I can't really disagree with him much because he might become too distraught and not be able to handle things and leave. In the past he has threatened suicide if I leave. (He said he would kill himself if I didn't come here before we were married.. I know I should have seen it coming then but I didn't) He had an organ transplant when he was young and has stopped his medication when things were shaky between us. Right now I am not sure why he has stopped taking them. I am quite confused and struggle with depression. My previous partner did a number on my head and myself confidence is still pretty shaken. I just don't know what to do. I want to leave but I don't want to put my kids (and myself) through the hell of not having a home. I hate my husband sometimes. I feel manipulated. I feel like he sabotages things.. for example I gave up school when I came here with the understanding that I would start once I was here... He does everything to make sure the means are not there. It's very hard to explain exactly what he does which is extremely frustrating. I hope I have made a little sense here.
Thanks anyone for any advice you can throw my way.
I thought I would write about my situation and hope for some advice. Here goes
I moved to the UK from America to be with my husband. This could turn into a terribly long story but I will try to be brief. Basically he is not the same person I met. I have been here for almost two years. I don't know anyone. I stay at home with my children. My husband has on occasion stopped buying us food because things were not going well between him and I and has said he will leave. (If he leaves then my visa will not be renewed and I will have to leave the country.. If I was forced to leave then I would be homeless in America as I do not know anyone nor do I have family) I feel that my husband is using his power to get what he wants. I can't really disagree with him much because he might become too distraught and not be able to handle things and leave. In the past he has threatened suicide if I leave. (He said he would kill himself if I didn't come here before we were married.. I know I should have seen it coming then but I didn't) He had an organ transplant when he was young and has stopped his medication when things were shaky between us. Right now I am not sure why he has stopped taking them. I am quite confused and struggle with depression. My previous partner did a number on my head and myself confidence is still pretty shaken. I just don't know what to do. I want to leave but I don't want to put my kids (and myself) through the hell of not having a home. I hate my husband sometimes. I feel manipulated. I feel like he sabotages things.. for example I gave up school when I came here with the understanding that I would start once I was here... He does everything to make sure the means are not there. It's very hard to explain exactly what he does which is extremely frustrating. I hope I have made a little sense here.
Thanks anyone for any advice you can throw my way.