Ok this I found hilarious.. My ex is dating a man who is 39 she is 25. People say age doesn't matter but whoa.. That's a bg difference.. Im not caring just wondering wow lol.

Some famous guy (actor?) stated that the perfect age match is where the woman is half the man's age plus 7 years??

That's crazy!!

Well you know if she ever gets into an argument with you you'll have that up your sleeve to play on her, I mean she CAN'T be proud of it, parading a 40 year old around, its really embarrassing.

I recently dated a 20 year old and that was pretty far fetched(I'm 29, well last week so 28 at the time) soits not asbad as this cause the guy is 40! Manthat just sounds bad, my b/f is 40!

Hahah. I know right.. Also her and I have a child, she left me for this guy, he lives in Florida and she lives in canada. It astonishs me that she brings my son there after only knowing him a short while. I don't care about her, I mean I do but I don't you know? But to bring my son in the mix.. NOT cool

She probably is attracted to him because he no longer crushes empty beer cans on his forehead, has stability in both his work and home lives, is financially secure, knows how to reach into a woman's soul, and can talk about something other than sports and cars.

I don't drink first of all. I work two jobs, and go to school. And still make time for my son. What she is attracted to is his money,

Bingo - "financially secure". He may have other endearing traits too...

BAH!

If she went for him cause he has money and security than what is she worth really? I would not ever want a girl to marry or date me cause I have money or that I am secure, those are all the wrong reasons.

I totally get the I care but don't care attitude. I mean yeah you liked/loved her and you had a child so there will always be a bond between you guys, but at the same time when you see them doing odd things than you know you have done what you can and whatever happens they will have to deal with it.

I don't see this lasting at all and you know yourself it is better for you, I mean a girl that would go tosomebody for money is not the fairy tale princess we hoped for when we were younger y'know.

40! Get the f'k out of here:)

My aunt is older than her second husband... in fact, when she married the first time (at 17 yr old) he was in second grade.

I've dated people as far as 10 years younger than me and 8 years older than me... which means one ex could have been 18 years younger than the other ex.

Though I think the younger person needs to be more careful and level, once you start to hit your later 20's to 30's, I think differences in age mean less.

I agree with kp. When a woman is 25, she has reached a level of maturity that males her age haven't. To her, an almost-40-year-old man is someone who has finally come into his own, has achieved stability in a career, is able to carry on interesting conversations, is able to satisfy emotional needs in ways that a younger guy hasn't figured out yet, and is an experienced and patient sex partner.

When you are 40, you will understand what I am talking about.

Well yeah the older you get the less drastic it seems, I mean 65-58, WHO CARES! 72-61 WHO CARES!

But what I'm saying is 25-40 will NEVER make it to that in this day and age. I mean my pops is 9 years older than my moms but they grew up in a different age, girls didn't sleep with guys until they were married and all kinds of other things. Nowadays people have slept with 10-15-25 people before theyeven get into a "relationship", don't like your wife get a new one, cheat and have fun mentality, mix that with the age and LATER!

I think comparing different ages is dangerous when applying it todifferent times,itmay have worked for a grandfather but not today, this situation IS NOT about love, in all probability she LOVES my man above but figures she is more secure with Gramps! It's called golddigging and its not fair for him to see her do that, especially with a child.

Also, while I think she should be ashamed of her behaviour, this guy should be strung up as well, I mean does he think he's cool? I mean your 40, coolness is OVA! No twenty something is gonnabe propping him up, its actually really gross. If I saw a 25year old with a guy that age I would laugh at both. But really, a guy with money and security should have a little more sense than to involve himself with a girl that young, she is in it for one reason and he is in it for another while neither realizes what impact this will have on the others life when it crashes. I thought I was a stud dating a 20year old(but c'mon that's a little cool) but I hope I isn't calling 20year olds when I'm 40, HONESTLY its embarrassing.

I agree with kp on this one. Once you start hitting your mid 20's and 30's you become "closer" in age to the people who are in there 40's and even 50's... in a sense. Although your ex MAY be after his money there could be other reasons she is with this guy... she may admire his personality, his charm, or whatever! It could be anything! There is an age gap here but I don't see it as a particularly huge one that is just hard to even imagine... It's definitely not like Huge Hefner and his "girlfriends." As far as bringing your son to see him? It really depends on if she is very serious with this guy or not; if she is, then it is important for you son to get to know and accept him. Have you talked with her about this?

This has nothing to do with "time periods" and anyone's grandparents.

Crushed doesn't know for sure that it's only about money. In fact, I would guess, having been a female all my life, that this "older" guy brings a lot of emotional satisfaction to the relationship. And the reactions from younger guys in this thread show EXACTLY why she is attracted to this guy.

Sorry I just caught Wondergirls Post!

You seem to be portraying this dork as some sort of successful, caring, emotionally stable, patient lover, wonderperson! All B.S when you consider why he is dating her, a 25 year old, I'm SURE its love, more like the fountain of youth, OR to satisfy his emotion INSECURITY. If anything this guy involving himself with a girl that age is that heis not mature at all, or emotionally advanced, or caring for that matter, just using her for his own purposes, you can be sureon that.

Like I said, when I'm 40 I hope I have matured and grown to a respectable person to realize that 25 is just a kid and may not have her head on straight (which is obviously the case, maybe its for her son, who knows),but I doubt Romeo is taking that into consideration at this point, he likes the attention he gets, feels young and in a position of power... yeah some romantic love God we got on our hands here(eye roll).

That's my word!

Sorry BMI... I don't think you get it. I TOTALLY agree with wondergal on this one! 25 is not that much of a difference to 40... especially on a woman/man comparison.

The age of 40 is not old--and she is not a kid.

If she were 15 and he 39, I would worry. If he were 60 and she 25, there would be cause for concern that he is being Mr. Moneybags, but 25 and 39 is no big deal.

And yes, he may be a "successful, caring, emotionally stable, patient lover" kind of guy. Do you know for sure that he isn't?

Have you decided in your jealousy that he is no good simply because he is older than you are and was able to attract the interest of the mother of your son?

ON THE DOT Wondergirl!. gotta spread the rep

OK, OK we get it bmi...

You don't agree with some of us. We get it.

Really!

But this is about the OP asking for opinions. You can dominate the thread if you want... make it all about you.

The truth is there are more perspectives and the OP should hear them. I know of a few regulars here wholl take your side, assuming this doesn't become all about you.

NONSENSE!

I DON'T GET IT??

25-40 is not that big a deal?? Lets go 16-30, how about 20-40, how about 17-35, when do you people draw the line??

Stop saying that this 40 year old is all this and all that and that he provides her with all the emotinal, financial security that she needs, what does she provide him PRAY TELL hmmm?? Does she provide him with what he needs? What does he see in her? A girl at 25 can do some stupid things and can be very emotionally troubled and STILL very impressionable especially when you involve a child,this guy seems to be feeding her that.

You know, all this talk about keep an open-mind and this and that can be very dangerous and I do believe this thread is a shining exampleof that, yeah true love will find you in the end regardless if he's as old as my dad and stuff. I mean it is NOT socially acceptable and nor should it be to condone this behaviour. You may think he offers her all this great stuff but in reality I'll tell you what SHE OFFERS HIM, a nice @$$, rack, and something to be proud of and strut when he walks downthe street, yeah he's the man all right.

Today's society too often plays the no look, don't judge card and this is why society is the way it is. Shocking that so many people in here agree with this situation,thatsnota good sign to be sure. HONESTLY, 25-40 is no big deal, PLEASE tell me what you have against 20-40, or 17 and 40, what's the DIFFERENCE!! Couple of years?? Maturity?? PU-LEASE PEOPLE, if you cannot tell that this girl is not in her head than you need to look deeper and if you cannot see whatthis guy sees in her is her physical appearance and that this may very well be his ego filler than I'm not sure what is going on.

Excuse me, I'm in training for firefighting. Im a very responsible young man. Im doing what I have to do to take care of my son.

Oh sorry, WOuldn't want to DOMINATE the thread KP, last I looked you have 123727 posts to my under 200. And what has this got to do with me, actually the ONLY one who has agreed with me is the ORIGINAL POSTER if you forgot to read from the start (or maybe you only read my posts so it seems like I am"dominating" the thread) If crushed agrees with me and disagrees with all of you than is that not why he posted in the first place, if not for me all he would have is "your just jealous cause he's older than you", yeah great perspective!

Well let me tell you how they met. She works as a waitress at a strip club. He was in there for his friends B day. He was down visiting form Florida. He picked her up in the club and then a week later we broke up. She is all about moving there. And yes this man might give her a sense of all of these things but please don't undermine me. Ive been working my to provide a life for her and I and our 2yr son. This guy can't offer what I can for many of reason. Im not trying to get her back, I'm going to let life take its course. I just find it funny that she told her friends he is 36 when really he turns 39 this weekend. So please ladies, I'm happy for your input but a age like that does mater

POINT PROVEN!

There's you ladies knight in shining armour, providing NOTHING to what Crushed has provided! Talk about that,young man going to school looking out for his child and still has a bond by the way him and his girl, sowhat more can you wanting someone, whatis he giving that crushed isn't, Gee, you think it could be money... I WONDER?

Why does crushed wait until page 3 of this thread to "reveal" details that should have been part of his original post?

And my opinion still hasn't changed about a 25-39 age spread.

Hmmm...

Yeah... I'm still working on the mindreading skills.

You never want the 60 line OP thread starter with no breaks in the writing, but its nice to have relevant details on the front side sometimes, not that it changes the broad question.

Uh... crushed... if you are here to vent that's fine. You asked if age matters and apparently it was a rhetorical question. Some of us thought it was asking for opinions. I'm a guy by the way.

I have a 21 year old step-daughter. Would I be alarmed if she dated a man 15 years her elder? Maybe. Maybe not. Actually, my wife is older than me and had her at a young age, so my daughter by marriage is just 15 years younger than me... so shed be dating a guy my age.

Would that freak me out? Again, completely depends on the guy and the situation. To paint it with a broad brush means you've just made up your mind and that's that. OK. Your prerogative.

Bmi- I seem to be in a mood today so if my take was wrong, ill buy first round. Seemed to me that you were interested in pointing out how others opinions were not valid opinions. Perhaps I was wrong. I'm irish. Male. Its been known to happen.

Uh... so the question now is about intent. I mean what if it was a 35 year old waitress? Would that suddenly be OK? Does the fact she's a waitress in a strip club have anything to do with anything? It was OK for you apparently... would it be better if she fell for a 20 year old? What is suddenly the acceptable thing? You are obviously hurt or frustrated or just confused or maybe just amused... but the OP wasn't about your relationship with her including the details... it was about whether the age diff is an outright problem.

Obviously we still don't know all the details about the relationship, the noise, the history... blah, blah, blah...

Just don't ask a question on a public forum like this if all you want are nods of approval and agreement. I say the answer isn't always yes or no.

As for lying about age... I have a woman friend who has had several "anniversaries" of her 35th birthday.

Yeah, she might think its strange, she might even be embarrassed a little, thinking that others won't support her. Hmmm... I get a sense that maybe some people wouldn't support her, no matter how good the relationship might or might not be.

39 and 25 is still a bit of a gap. Give them another 5 or 10 years and the age difference really won't be an issue.

In fact that 10 years later will be the real difference s_ciani , when all hormonal love goes down , and the woman will have only 35 (still young) and the man will be then really a grandpa. Only than will be a really gap in this relation .

A grandpa at 49? Surely you jest! You must be very, very young, Saintas. (I used to think people at 29 were old.)

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/good-idea-like-older-guy-141045.html
Take a look at here . I'm not too young and I came from two experiences (from lasts years )
Like these .

Yes, you're young. Forty-nine must seem ancient to you. (I finished grad school about that time... )

No it doesn't seem too me but for this girl will look like this at one point . Trust me .

Maybe.

Omnia vincit amor.

Sorry to tell you : Only in the movies , only in the movies .

Ah, not true, not true. I have been blessed.

Ah, you're the exception which confirm the rule . It happens 1% of cases .

I can't believe everyone is so worked up over age differences. Well here is some fuel for your fire. I am 19 years older then my ex and we had a great relationship for 7 years. Which is somewhat longer then most of the ended relationships on this forum. I've never in my life been more compatible with another person and everyone that knew us always said they envy'd us because of how well we got along and how much respect and love we had for each other. So I'm speaking from experience and obviously some of you aren't

BTW I am female if you didn't know

Sorry to tell you but the key word is EX !

Sorry to tell you but the key word is EX !

Yes EX is correct, as is with most everyone on this site. My point is I've read many posts on here and 8 out of 10 of the breakups were same aged couples that had rocky relationships, or some of the ex's left them for someone else. I just know that my ex and I had seemingly fewer problems in our 19 year age span then a lot of you same aged couples. So if age is such a major problem why was my relationship so good for so long?