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lonely23
Oct 26, 2007, 08:50 AM
F the person you love likes someone else would you let them go or still try to get him/her, and he/she still has feelings for you but not as much.

Because I've heard "if you truly him/her you have to let go" but if you love them so much why would you want to let go?

disneygirl7
Oct 26, 2007, 09:16 AM
My ex left me back in July and about a month later hooked up with someone else. I tried to get back with her up until the point of her being with someone else. The only thing I could do is to let her go, as much as I love her and I still do I just needed to let her go. If she really does or did care about me or love me at all she will be back, but I am not waiting around for that to happen. She has a different life now, see she smokes pot and I didn't so she found friends that she could smoke with and dumped me. We were together for 2 years so it hurt like hell but after 3 months the hurt is starting to go away. I will always care for her but the best thing that I can do for myself right now is to let her go and do what she wants to do with her life and hope for the best.

Depressed in MO
Oct 26, 2007, 09:23 AM
I believe yes, if you love someone, let them go. If they come back, that's how you will know. It's in every song I've ever heard and every book I've ever read.
But when and if that point comes, you may be a different person then and you will have to decide if you still really want them back.

Depressed in MO
Oct 26, 2007, 09:24 AM
I believe yes, if you love someone, let them go. If they come back, that's how you will know. It's in every song I've ever heard and every book I've ever read.
But when and if that point comes, you may be a different person then and you will have to decide if you still really want them back. I've had to do that, took the person back, more than one occasion, and things just got worse and worse to where now-it makes it even harder to let go.

BMI
Oct 26, 2007, 09:24 AM
I think the phrase "if you love them let them go" is in relation to yourself. The more contact you have with them the more you miss them and the more it hurts. ONLY time heals you, not the returning of your ex or hearing she is single or whatever.

By chasing after them because your in love with them is not going to bring them back, either time will begin to heal you or time will bring them back, there is reallynothing you can do except heal yourself, again, this is done with no contacting them, hurts like hell but there is no pill to take for a broken heart, even if there was...

Jiser
Oct 26, 2007, 10:28 AM
Let them go experience life without you. Fact is though you probably won't care betime you here from them again. More like morbid curiosity

Vulf
Oct 26, 2007, 12:31 PM
I know just what you mean, I'm in a similar situation... Similar but slightly different. Iv'e thought about letting them go, I want to fight though, I always have. In this case it might be able to be saved. But the reasoning I came to is; If they love someone else, your feelings aren't going to make a difference. Whatever will be , will be. As said before, they may realise a mistake and come running back to you. I wouldn't torture yourself about it though, there's really nothing to be done. It's out of your hands.
The feeling of helplessness is killer, I know, but you need to come to terms with the situation and see it from a rational point of view. Be strong, take care and all the best