Hi ill suppose ill start at the start (always I good place he he)
Well I meet this girl she was a sister of a friend a couple of years younger than me, but we hit it off straight away. I used to call over to my friends house not to see him but her I really enjoyed her company. One day we kissed and it was great I knew I wanted to be with her. I soon found out that I had made a girl pregnant through a one night stand and I knew myself that I had to be there for the child but I didn't want a relationship with this other women I wanted the girl I was seeing at the moment. Anyway I told her and see said that she would stick by me and that she loved me.

While the other girl was pregnant we didn't really talk about her cause when we did she would get upset, I know now that this was a mistake. Anyway the girl had a little boy and I would not see him that often but I still did and then it came to the christening and I said that I was going to go and she said that OK u can go to the chruch but that's it and I said that I would have to go to the bar after with my family seen as though my brother was godfather and all. Then she broke up with me that was hard to deal with but not compared to what is happening now.

So we had broken up but still used to call and text each other and meet up and have sex and we went to the cinema and dinner and stuff but she still always said that she couldn't have a kid in her life but that she still loved me and didn't want anyone else. Now it wasn't just me who texted or called it was her sometimes too.

Well anyway I used to find out that she kissed others in night clubs but at the same time begging me not to do it and like a fool I didn't. But she always said that it was a mistake and that she wanted me and didn't feel anything for these guys.

We kept meeting up and she was telling me there was no one else then we didn't speak for like 2 weeks and we met at an event and she said she wanted to be with so I said yeah. And then over the next couple of weeks I was finding out off her friends that she was sleeping with other people while still sleeping with me and telling me that she didn't feeling anything foe these people. So I tried to get over it and move on but I used to get so upset over it when I thought about it and found out that she slept with someone who I used to be a bit jealous of but she always said that he was just a friend. Then I found out that while saying to me that she want ed to be with me she was saying it to another guy also (not the same guy she slpet with but she also slept with this guy) so when I asked her about him she just said that she was lonely and wanted to be with someone. I also found out that she slept with more than these in the space of a couple of months while still sleeping with me.

And recently she has been going to the pub with lads who she said were friends so I got jealous and a bit angry and she said that I had to trust her. Eventually 2 weeks ago she broke it off with me and said that it was my jealousy that broke us up and then the same day she did that she was off down the pub with those lads again and ever since has been out with them. I'm so hurt and when I have talked to her she keeps saying she is fine and that she knew it was going to happen.

I didn't think I would be writing on this but I can't talk to my family or friends about her cause they don't like her for the reason we broke up before.

Please some advice would be great

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Read the very first post on this thread if you have not already done so.. It will give you some insight of what you will be going through on the way to healing.

Now that I've given you this to look over, I'll settle back and read what you have to say and get back with you.

Don't give up, you are not alone.

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OK, I've read what you have written. The most important thing that cropped up in my mind was to suggest you see your doctor and get a clean bill of health. Sleeping around can be dangerous and produce more than just a child.

Second thought was that you are far better off without her. She will probably not stop testing you or anyone else in her life right now and you don't need the heartache.

Your family might be justified in their opinion of her, so I would take their advice also.


Work on what you want in life, other than this 'woman' and set some serious priorities.

Until next time, good luck.

hi ill suppose ill start at the start (always i good place he he)
well i meet this girl she was a sister of a friend a couple of years younger than me, but we hit it off straight away. i used to call over to my friends house not to see him but her i really enjoyed her company. one day we kissed and it was great i knew i wanted to be with her. i soon found out that i had made a girl pregnant through a one night stand and i knew my self that i had to be there for the child but i didnt want a relationship with this other women i wanted the girl i was seeing at the moment. anyway i told her and see said that she would stick by me and that she loved me.

while the other girl was pregnant we didnt really talk about her cause when we did she would get upset, i know now that this was a mistake. anyway the girl had a little boy and i would not see him that often but i still did and then it came to the christening and i said that i was going to go and she said that ok u can go to the chruch but thats it and i said that i would have to go to the bar after with my family seen as though my brother was godfather and all. then she broke up with me that was hard to deal with but not compared to what is happening now.

so we had broken up but still used to call and text each other and meet up and have sex and we went to the cinema and dinner and stuff but she still always said that she couldnt have a kid in her life but that she still loved me and didnt want anyone else. now it wasnt just me who texted or called it was her sometimes too.

well anyway i used to find out that she kissed others in night clubs but at the same time begging me not to do it and like a fool i didnt. but she always said that it was a mistake and that she wanted me and didnt feel anything for these guys.

we kept meeting up and she was telling me there was noone else then we didnt speak for like 2 weeks and we met at an event and she said she wanted to be with so i said yeh. and then over the next couple of weeks i was finding out off her friends that she was sleeping with other people while still sleeping with me and telling me that she didnt feeling anything foe these people. so i tried to get over it and move on but i used to get so upset over it when i thought about it and found out that she slept with someone who i used to be a bit jealous of but she always said that he was just a friend. then i found out that while saying to me that she want ed to be with me she was saying it to another guy also (not the same guy she slpet with but she also slept with this guy) so when i asked her about him she just said that she was lonely and wanted to be with someone. i also found out that she slept with more than these in the space of a couple of months while still sleeping with me.

and recently she has been going to the pub with lads who she said were friends so i got jealous and a bit angry and she said that i had to trust her. eventually 2 weeks ago she broke it off with me and said that it was my jealousy that broke us up and then the same day she did that she was off down the pub with those lads again and ever since has been out with them. im so hurt and when i have talked to her she keeps saying she is fine and that she knew it was gona happen.

i didnt think i would be writing on this but i can't talk to my family or friends about her cause they dont like her for the reason we broke up before.

please some advice would be great
How can I say this nicely? MOVE ON! =) Your child will always be a part of your life. Women come and go - until you find one who can accept you for who you are, and accept that you have a child with another woman. She may not be ready for a commitment - let alone a commitment with someone who has a kid. You have your responsibility to look out for (your son) and a small word of advice - if your family has TOLD you they don't like her, they are only looking out for your best interest. If it were one family member that said that I'd shrug it off - but if it's more than one, I'd start thinking there is an issue and that maybe they are right and see more than you do - being love struck can make you blind to a lot of things and make you do some dumb things.

do what is best for your son, and find someone that can help you make a stable loving environment. Besides, you deserve that too!

Is it just one person in your family who does not like her, or more than one? If it's more than one that should probably make you wonder about her. As for her not wanting to commit to you, or commit to you and your son, maybe she's just not ready and needs to grow up some more before attempting the relationship thing again. You have a kid now, you have to look out for him and his best interests. You should keep looking until you find a girl who can help you to create a healthy loving stable environment for you and your son.


She may be the one, but she may not be ready yet.

It is all my family and all my friends. See I know all of you ar right in what you ar saying but lucy you made a good point love is blind and I think that is the case. I know I should move on and find someone else but this girl has drained all my confidence I used to be someone who could easily talk to girls and I was pretty popular, but now friends won't talk to me and I don't go out anymore while she has moved on so quickly. God even writing this I sound like a spoon, I know what I should do but its so hard

Bit of an update. She is now going out with one of those lads. So should have I be been right or did I drive her to it. I must not have meant that much to her.