Am pregnant and I don't want to keep the baby because if I do the father isn't going to be there because of his new girlfriend, what should I do now

am pregant and i don;t wanna keep the baby because if i do the father isn;t going to be there because of his new gf, what should i do now
Do you have family and friends who will help you? If not, there's adoption. Abortion is out of the question. That's a human life you are carrying. If you cannot take on the responsibility of motherhood, there are many families looking to adopt who will love and care for this child. I hope you will think about this and pray about it, too! God Bless You.

Contact Catholic Charities or Lutheran Social Services; otherwise call your county's human services department. You would benefit from the counsel of a good social worker. Each of those will help you even if you have limited funds.

U need to keep the baby.have it and then give it to an foster parnet.u are a murder if u have it taken out

Please, please, talk to the father. If you are not ready to parent, please tell him that you are considering other options. Go and talk to someone. There are agencies out there that can help you with counseling. I'd be happy to give you some names if needed. Take care of yourself!

Don't make the decision to keep the baby based on weather or not the father is going to be around. You shouldn't bring a baby into the world under those terms.

I personally am against abortion... I feel if you are adult enough to have sex, you need to accept any and all repobsibilties that come from sex.

I took precautions... I was on birth control pills and still got pregnant when I was 18. Everyone told me I was too young and that I had tried to prevent getting pregnant, so I shouldn't have a baby... but I understood the risks of having sex, and even though I was being careful not to get pregnant, I did... I now have a beautiful 5 year old (soon to be 6) year old little girl that I would give my life for. I did it alone too. Single mom at 18.

If you can't be strong for your child and not depend on a man... then at least give that child a chance with parents that can.

Unfortunately a child doesn't get to pick their parents... but there are many many people out there who will take that child as their own.

How old are u first and... do you work?? Ru still living at home... I think you need to sit and think about u and not about the "baby daddy "and his new girl... its all about u and what would be best for that baby... good luck... hun;)

Whether to keep a child, adopt it out, or abort, is a very personal decision and should not be made according what anonymous people on the internet think.

If you think you can't keep the baby because there is no boyfriend, you are mistaken, many women are single mothers these days.

There will be repercussions no matter what you choose. Have you talked to the ex? Have you discussed it with your parents? They are the ones who know you best and can help you to make this life changing decision. No matter what decision you make, you have to understand that it will change your life forever.

I agree with J_9. This is a decision that will follow you for the rest of your life. Please think before you act. Talk to others and talk to the father of the baby. Although he is now with a new girlfriend doesn't mean that he shouldn't have a say in what happens to a baby that he helped create. My only advice is to think long and hard and to talk to everyone close to you. Whatever decision you make you will need the support and love of all those close in your life.
I remember my ultrasound when I was 8 weeks pregnant and I remember seeing how strong that little heartbeat was. The ultrasound tech labeled my picture baby because that is what she was. She was a baby, even at just 8 weeks, she was my baby.

Excuse me?

You people are telling her to give birth, not even knowing how OLD she is? What kind of irresponsibility is THAT?

Honey, we need more information if we are to help you. What you decide to do is YOUR choice, and yours alone. If you want that baby, there are agencies in effect that will help you keep and raise your child. If you don't believe in abortion, or believe that you personally can't abort--there is always adoption. There are several agencies out there that would help you with that. If you are very young, or think that going through with this pregnancy will harm your mental and emotional (to say NOTHING of your physical!) health, then you may want to consider abortion.

What I REALLY suggest to you is that you go to your local hospital. There are people there that can help you get in touch with a counselor that you can see for free. You need someone to help you decide what YOU want--and unfortunately pregnancy messes with hormones and emotions enough that you may not be thinking clearly.

This is YOUR decision, and yours alone. No matter what you decide, your life is changed forever. No matter what your age, you now have to be grown up enough to face that decision with all the information you can get, and look at it with open eyes.

Please--and I'm lumping myself in this group as well -- do not only listen to an anonymous group of people on the internet with agendas of their own. Please, please, PLEASE see a counselor, a doctor, a clergyperson--someone you can talk to.

I hope the best for you.

PS - people who suggest adoption as an "out" because abortion is against their moral code should really talk to people who have gone through the adoption process. It's not the easy choice of "well, if you don't want to be a parent, you can ALWAYS just choose adoption" - as if that's second rate to parenting, but at least better than abortion. Jesus--get a clue.

Oh, boy, here comes the age old dilemma, do I abort? Do I put up for adoption? Or do I keep it?

As I stated before, not anyone on this site can give you the right answer for you. You are the only one that can do that. We do not know you, we do not know your morals, or your beliefs. But we CAN push OUR beliefs down your throat. And apparently, from what I have read so far, that is what is happening.

This is a decision only you can make. And nobody who is pro-life or pro-choice should influence your decision.

Sure you are going to hear from people who tell you to take responsibility for your actions... Sure you are going to hear the pro-lifer's tell you it's murder... Yup, you will even hear the pro-choicers tell you that abortion is okay.

But ultimately it is your choice, and no matter what choice you make, it will most likely be the right choice for you at your time in life.

Tatyanna, this is not against you, but it really bothers me when people come here asking what they should do in a situation like this because you end up getting everyone else's opinions shoved down your throat and made to feel guilty for whatever decision you make. Please do not feel guilty for making the decision that is right for you right now.

Keeping a baby when you are not ready raises the risk of child abuse. If anyone wants to argue with me, I have facts and figures to back it up.

Almost exactly like macksmom, I to was pregnant and alone at 18. I had taken all of the precautions. I won't lie to you and tell you that its easy, because its not. But its possible. And there is nothing in this world that will make you feel as good as you do when you hold your child for the first time. I don't believe in abortion, but my beliefs are my own, and I do understand that there are certain circumstances in which some women feel that that is their only option. I just want you to know that you DON'T need a man to raise your child, but he does have every right to know that you are carrying his child and the options that you are looking at. You have time, to figure out what you want to do. But remember that there are couples out there that would give their right arms for a child, and would provide that baby with a nice home and a loving family, if you decide that you cant.

Tatyanna,

You said you didn't want to keep the baby, but you didn't mention adoption, or abortion, so I'll assume you don't know.

Personally, I think its brave of you to admit your feelings. Its not a popular choice, but only you can make the decision that will impact the life of you and your baby. I must say, I don't personally agree with abortion, but its also not my right to tell you what to do there.

I would highly recommend Planned Parenthood (http://www.plannedparenthood.org/). They are qualified to help you make the decision that you will have to live with for the rest of your life.

Good luck to you.

I really feel for you hun. How old are you? Are you working? What's your homelife like?

I too had to make this desion many years ago and I don't regret it - I terminated knowing that I wasn't capable of caring for a child as they deserve. I now have 2 girls and trying for my 3rd.

You need to see your GP or speak to someone who can advise you of all your options, weather it be termination, adoption or keeping the baby.

Just remember its your choice and you are the one will have to live with it.

Best of luck and hope it all goes well.

I think you should talk to the father tell him. And he tell you that it might not be his just tell him you will do a blood test when the baby is born. But don't kill the baby give the baby a chance to live. It was meant to be. And if you don't want to take care of it. They are people who can't have baies and would love to have one. I'm 18 and have a 1 year old daughter and she gets me mad but she is my life. And forget his new girlfreind it got nothing to do with her. Its you and your baby father.be strong don't let no one put you down or control u. step up and tell him stright up. If he don't want to keep it and you do child suport. And maybe later kicj his lol:) ;) :D

i think u should talk to the father tell him. and he tell u that it might not be his just tell him u will do a blood test when the baby is born. but dont kill the baby give the baby a chance to live. it was ment to be. and if u dont want to take care of it. they are people who can't have baies and would love to have one. i'm 18 and have a 1 year old daughter and she gets me mad but she is my life. and forget his new girlfreind it got nothin to do with her. its you and ur baby father.be strong dont let no one put u down or control u. step up and tell him stright up. if he dont want to keep it and u do child suport. and maybe later kicj his lol:) ;) :D


Placing a child for adoption because there "are people who can't have baies and would love to have one" is NOT a good reason, not in totality.

There are tons of options out there for infertility. Placing that guilt on a woman --shame on you! That they can't have babies isn't HER problem!

I really freaking hate that argument for adoption. If you were close to ANY part of that triad, you would understand that you are suggesting a very serious choice, with extremely painful lasting consequences for everyone involved.

I don't care what your stance on abortion is--suggestion adoption as an alternative to "murder" is extremely condescending, and is another form of coercion.

Choosing to place a child for adoption should be a loving choice, because it is in the CHILD'S best interests, and the birthmother's best interests. It should have absolutely NOTHING to do with the fact that there are people (people who could EASILY adopt older children) who will settle for nothing less than an infant.