Married 14 years separated 2 I asked him to leave the home we have two children I use to be very over bearing would not compliment on anything always had something negative to say I have changed greatly I do want my husband back but I guess since I was so negative he doesn't believe me I have asked him numerous times when was he coming back he would say he wasn't ready, yet ,now looking back I now it would be hard coming back into a home like that now he says some days he wants to married some days he dones't he says he stuck in the middle , I told him we should file for divorce he says that's wrong and he really loves me it seems like I have been by myself forever there has never been any type of physical abuse or extra martial affairs that I am aware of he says even though we are not together he has not stepped outside our marriage , because that would cause him more confusion I want him at home but tired of waiting I am trying really hard to get off his back but it hurts so bad when he comes and goes I wonder if this marriage has been destroyed beyond repair also lately I have been thinking that I don't want to be married any more or just stick it out because love is still there and he will do anything for me and I would do anything for him as well he says he trying to work it out but I hope it's not a waste of time and it turns out in divorce I know nothing is promised but its killing me (he refuses professional help) I have prayed and asked for guidance but never get a answer please help

"Be still and know that I am God." Wait on the LORD until He gives direction. If no answer, keep waiting. He is refining you. Give up control to the LORD and let Him do the work in your marriage.
married 14 years separated 2 i asked him to leave the home we have two children i use to be very over bearing would not compliment on anything always had something negative to say I have changed greatly i do want my husband back but i guess since i was so negative he doesn't believe me i have asked him numerous times when was he coming back he would say he wasn't ready, yet ,now looking back i now it would be hard coming back into a home like that now he says some days he wants to married some days he dones't he says he stuck in the middle , I told him we should file for divorce he says thats wrong and he really loves me it seems like i have been by myself forever there has never been any type of physical abuse or extra martial affairs that i am aware of he says even though we are not together he has not stepped outside our marriage , because that would cause him more confusion i want him at home but tired of waiting i am trying really hard to get off his back but it hurts so bad when he comes and goes i wonder if this marriage has been destroyed beyond repair also lately i have been thinking that i dont want to be married any more or just stick it out because love is still there and he will do anything for me and i would do anything for him as well he says he trying to work it out but i hope it's not a waste of time and it turns out in divorce i know nothing is promised but its killing me (he refuses professional help) i have prayed and asked for guidance but never get a answer please help

It may be a good start to go to counseling on your own. In time, some answers may come and he may be willing to join you. As long as he refuses though, all you can do is try to help yourself.

Good luck to you.