cherrycherry13
Oct 5, 2007, 09:19 AM
Hi everyone, I need some help and advice with my relationship...
I have been seeing my girlfriend for about nearly 9 months now, this is the longest relationship I've had in 7 years (im only 26). I love her to bits, and think she is the one. At present I am under a lot of stress due to work and haven’t been the nicest person to be around as I have a bad temper and can be cheeky and snap sometimes.
I have a few insecurities and its making me worse I think, basically my girlfriend and I were out a few months ago and we bumped into her x in a club and I told her to go over and say hello, (She was seeing him for 4 years and they only broke up, her choice at Christmas, about ¾ weeks later we started going out)when she did I found myself getting really angry and when I seen her all happy and smiley around him I cracked and left and went home, when she came back later on, we had a massive argument and I call her some really bad names which has really hurt our relationship since.
She has issues with sex, so we don’t have it much and this makes me feel that she doesn’t want to. (at the start she told me that her x and her did it all the time) As a man this is really getting to me and fuelling my insecurities.
She is always trying to change me and tell me to calm down, but she usually makes it much worse, if she would just let me vent for a minute and said nothing all would be fine but she just makes it worse by getting at me…
I don’t want it to end but she we both aren’t very happy and I'm not sure how to sort things out.
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I have been seeing my girlfriend for about nearly 9 months now, this is the longest relationship I've had in 7 years (im only 26). I love her to bits, and think she is the one. At present I am under a lot of stress due to work and haven’t been the nicest person to be around as I have a bad temper and can be cheeky and snap sometimes.
I have a few insecurities and its making me worse I think, basically my girlfriend and I were out a few months ago and we bumped into her x in a club and I told her to go over and say hello, (She was seeing him for 4 years and they only broke up, her choice at Christmas, about ¾ weeks later we started going out)when she did I found myself getting really angry and when I seen her all happy and smiley around him I cracked and left and went home, when she came back later on, we had a massive argument and I call her some really bad names which has really hurt our relationship since.
She has issues with sex, so we don’t have it much and this makes me feel that she doesn’t want to. (at the start she told me that her x and her did it all the time) As a man this is really getting to me and fuelling my insecurities.
She is always trying to change me and tell me to calm down, but she usually makes it much worse, if she would just let me vent for a minute and said nothing all would be fine but she just makes it worse by getting at me…
I don’t want it to end but she we both aren’t very happy and I'm not sure how to sort things out.
Be blunt
Be honest[/B][/B]