If I don't want to be divorced and my wife does how do I get a woman like that to talk to me to work out our problems? :) :p

Give her the space she needs. Tell her the two of you can separate for a little while and see how things turn out. If she doesn't want that and demands the divorce, give it to her and get on with your life. She will either move on as well or things might work out between you two. That is what happened between me and my ex-husband. Our divorce was final in June and we have been dating since then. I moved back home at the end of September and things are going great. Its kind of weird that it took a 6 month messy divorce for us to finally get along.

Good Luck! ;)