okay, I am not sure at all how to explain all of this, and still keep it brief, but I'll try...anyway, two years ago I met a girl named Jessica. we became friends very fast, and at one point, I was there to help her with a patch of depression she was going through. during this time she told me things such as "I'm so thankful that you're my friend; we've been through so much.", "I know I can always count on you no matter what", and "I'm glad to know I have such a good friend as you"

.........never before had someone spoken to or of me this way, and it was one of the most touching things ever, to me. I of course, developed romantic feelings for her, but, as the idiot that I tend to be, never acted on them for fear of ruining the friendship. So I went on to have other girlfriends, and my feelings for her, in that sense, faded.

...until recently. I am currently single, and have for the past several weeks been thinking about this girl alot. Her and I have drifted apart alot, due to each of us becoming busy with certain things in life, as well as the fact that she transferred to a different school in a nearby town. Right now, I'm missing her so much that it kind of hurts.

Bottom line is, I want to talk to her about these things, see if there's a chance for her and I, and just explain how I feel without sounding like a creep or a wuss (for want of a much better word)...I want to tell her everything, because I know that If I keep on pretending that nothing's going on; that everything's okay, then nothing will ever happen. I am a senior in high school, and in my mind, the time I have to talk to her is increasingly diminishing. Once I move out on to college, things would get even busier and...idk...

I just want to talk to her, so my question isn't if I should or not, but rather, how to go about it? How do I bring it up when I call her? should I suggest hanging out sometime and then while we're hanging out, sometime towards the end, just mention that I want to talk to her? I am just so confused here....

...she is just too far amazing of a girl for me to risk losing from my life forever. Im not saying she's perfect, since as any human being, she has her definate flaws, but she is all in all, a wonderful, beautiful girl.

so, thanks for you time. I appreciate it.

Right, 7 views, no replies.

Seriously people, I need help.

Awwww that's the cutest story ever. My fiancé and I kind of happened the same way. The best way to go about something like that is to just go for it. How will you ever know if it could have been unless you just jump on the horse as my grandma would say. Don't set your hopes to high because disappointment sucks. Be positive and honest. Speaking to her in person would be the best option.

Go for it.I was in the type of same situation with a guy... and believe me you only know what you could have had after she leaves you.So go for it and ask her if she feels something.
U may start with something like... try to be with her alone or with your best friend and look at her and when she looks back make eyecontact and laugh a bit.If she laughs back probably she feels the same way... and then bring up the subject and if you like you can send your friend to buy you something or he can make up that his friend is waiting for him somewhere so you and this girl have sometime alone.(do this friend thing after you laugh if you think it will be easier for you and this girl to talk).
Hope I helped & let me know .
Good luck ;)

Awwww thats the cutest story ever. My fiance and I kind of happened the same way. The best way to go about something like that is to just go for it. How will you ever know if it could have been unless you just jump on the horse as my grandma would say. Don't set your hopes to high because disappointment sucks. Be positive and honest. Speaking to her in person would be the best option.
Haha thanks :).

I suppose you're right, there's no way of knowing unless you really just go for it.
I am just really nervous and scared about it; worried she'll think I'm weird or creepy, or whatever, espically for waiting this long to talk to her about it.

But maybe I'm just being paranoid. Anyway, thanks for your advice, I really appreciate it. :)

Go for it.I was in the type of same situation with a guy...and believe me you only know what you could have had after she leaves you.So go for it and ask her if she feels something.
U may start with something like...try to be with her alone or with your bestfriend and look at her and when she looks back make eyecontact and laugh a bit.If she laughs back probably she feels the same way...and then bring up the subject and if you like you can send your friend to buy you something or he can make up that his friend is waiting for him somewhere so you and this girl have sometime alone.(do this friend thing after you laugh if you think it will be easier for you and this girl to talk).
Hope I helped & let me know .
Good luck ;)
True, only after things have faded and distanced themselves apart can you really see what you had/could've had...

That's actually a pretty good idea there, I actually was thinking of inviting her to hang out with my best friend and I this weekend, so that might work. I don't know...
I'll see how it goes, if she does hang out with us.

Thanks though.:)
I really appreciate it.

go for it u guys sound like both or you were meant for each other ;)

go for it u guys sound like both or you were meant for each other ;)
Haha, I don't know about all that, if we were really "meant for each other" I'd think she would make more of an effort to not drift apart from me, or want to be with me or something.

But who knows, I sure don't haha. Thanks though.

haha, I don't know about all that, if we were really "meant for each other" I'd think she would make more of an effort to not drift apart from me, or want to be with me or something.

Better try before you say that... nothing happens so easily... and everything has it story and memories.

Better try before you say that....nothing happens so easily....and everything has it story and memories.
Maybe...

You're right I guess, nothing happens that easily.

okay, I am not sure at all how to explain all of this, and still keep it brief, but I'll try...anyway, two years ago I met a girl named Jessica. we became friends very fast, and at one point, I was there to help her with a patch of depression she was going through. during this time she told me things such as "I'm so thankful that you're my friend; we've been through so much.", "I know I can always count on you no matter what", and "I'm glad to know I have such a good friend as you"

.........never before had someone spoken to or of me this way, and it was one of the most touching things ever, to me. I of course, developed romantic feelings for her, but, as the idiot that I tend to be, never acted on them for fear of ruining the friendship. So I went on to have other girlfriends, and my feelings for her, in that sense, faded.

...until recently. I am currently single, and have for the past several weeks been thinking about this girl alot. Her and I have drifted apart alot, due to each of us becoming busy with certain things in life, as well as the fact that she transferred to a different school in a nearby town. Right now, I'm missing her so much that it kind of hurts.

Bottom line is, I want to talk to her about these things, see if there's a chance for her and I, and just explain how I feel without sounding like a creep or a wuss (for want of a much better word)...I want to tell her everything, because I know that If I keep on pretending that nothing's going on; that everything's okay, then nothing will ever happen. I am a senior in high school, and in my mind, the time I have to talk to her is increasingly diminishing. Once I move out on to college, things would get even busier and...idk...

I just want to talk to her, so my question isn't if I should or not, but rather, how to go about it? How do I bring it up when I call her? should I suggest hanging out sometime and then while we're hanging out, sometime towards the end, just mention that I want to talk to her? I am just so confused here....

...she is just too far amazing of a girl for me to risk losing from my life forever. Im not saying she's perfect, since as any human being, she has her definate flaws, but she is all in all, a wonderful, beautiful girl.

so, thanks for you time. I appreciate it.
Just go for it it might turn out that she's into you to but she never thought you would ever have feelings for her because you were too busy with your life and like you said you were with other girls but if you helped her out then I'm sure she appritates it and it sounds like she's a great girl I hope everything works out <3

just go for it it might turn out that shes into you to but she never thought you would ever have feelings for her because you were too busy with your life and like you said you were with other girls but if you helped her out then im sure she appritates it nd it sounds like shes a great girl i hope everything works out <3
Haha yeah, "just go for it" seems to be the piece of advice I'm consistently getting on here. I wish it were that easy, and I wasn't a nervous, shy dude haha.

Im pretty sure she knows I have feelings for her, or did at one time, as I got her a beanie baby once to help her feel better after a friend of hers she used to know died in a car accident, and I included a note with it that was pretty, haha, I don't know, sweet... so I don't know. Not to mention one time she filled out one of those myspace friendship survey things I posted, and one of the questions was "would you ever kiss me" and she answered with "idk"... so I doubt she was ever in to me... and I know she isn't in to me now.

But then again, another question on that survey was "have you ever wanted to tell me something but couldn't?", and she answered with "eh, yeah." so... who knows what that thing she couldn't tell me was...

Anyway, thanks for your reply. :)

AWW that is so sweet. I bet if she read that she'd love you! Lol.. but anways in all seriousness.. go for it! You will never know until you try. If you go for it and it doesn't go good, then don't worry about it because at least you will know you tried and you will finally be able to get over it. Just ask her to hang out or something. Maybe to lunch, a movie.. nothing very expensive just something casual. Then get on the subject of maybe a good memory that you two have together.. maybe something funny that happened.. then tell her you miss spending time with her.. let it progress from there. I hope I helped somehow.. good luck! You seem like a great guy :)

AWW that is so sweet. I bet if she read that she'd love ya! lol.. but anways in all seriousness.. go for it! You will never know until you try. If you go for it and it doesnt go good, then dont worry about it because at least you will know you tried and you will finally be able to get over it. Just ask her to hang out or something. Maybe to lunch, a movie.. nothing very expensive just something casual. Then get on the subject of maybe a good memory that you two have together.. maybe something funny that happened.. then tell her you miss spending time with her.. let it progress from there. I hope I helped somehow.. good luck!! You seem like a great guy :)
Haha, thanks.

That is true, if it doesn't end up well, then I can at least know I tried, instead of doing absolutely nothing. I can imagine hanging out with her would be really fun, and yes, there are plenty of memories I could bring up for us to laugh over haha. I'm sure it'd go fine from there.

In fact, on the 26th my band is playing at a starbucks in town, and a lot of kids I know are going, maybe I could invite her to that and hang out with her a little then as well?
I'll have to see how it all goes... thanks though, I really appreciate it.

haha, I don't know about all that, if we were really "meant for each other" I'd think she would make more of an effort to not drift apart from me, or want to be with me or something.

but who knows, I sure don't haha. thanks though.

i agree with Funky, I really think that u should try it before u begin to judge......it might really work if not than just move on there are many fish in the sea:)

I'd like to know what occurred in your life that all of a sudden you're wanting to get with his girl. Are you just lonely and bored.
I ask this to say, talk to her if you like, but don't start engaging her on a whim just because you're in between girls.

i agree with Funky, I really think that u should try it before u begin to judge......it might really work if not than just move on there are many fish in the sea:)
Yeah, I guess so.

I'd like to know what occurred in your life that all of a sudden you're wanting to get with his girl. Are you just lonely and bored.
I ask this to say, talk to her if you like, but don't start engaging her on a whim just because you're in between girls.
Nah, it's not just from being bored and loney/between girls. Really.
What occurred was me just thinking about my life to this point, and after a night of hanging out at a ball game with my best friend we began talking about the "old times" and all that, and really feeling that she is really important. It's hard to explain I guess...

But really it's not just because Im between girlfriends.

So it's a nostalgia kind of thing, thinking about your life and old times.
Sure, give her a call, ask her out for lunch and talk. See where it goes.

So it's a nostalgia kind of thing, thinking about your life and old times.
Sure, give her a call, ask her out for lunch and talk. See where it goes.
Yeah, that's a pretty good way of describing it.
So I'll give her a call, see how it ends up I guess.

Just wondering, does anyone else have any advice/input?

Well Ive tried calling this girl several times (the one I talk about in my other thread) and every time I call her phone it's either turned off, or sometimes though, it just rings several times until I get her voicemail. I haven't called her phone that many times but it's happened where it just rings twice now.

However I tried calling her home phone and asking her dad who answered if I could speak with her and she talked to me for a while there, and didn't sound like she was trying to avoid me. She sounded happy to talk to me and we joked around a little... so I don't know.

Im just wondering why I wasn't able to get ahold of her via her cell phone or why she didn't call me back if she saw she had a missed call? I don't know... I have no idea why she'd be ignoring me and I really doubt she would... I'm prob. Just paranoid.

Okay, so now I have another question everyone...
I tried calling her last Sunday, but it just rang and I got her voicemail. And I suck at leaving messages so I didn't leave one... anyway she never called me back over this past week, though I'd think she would since her phone would alert her to having a missed call.

Anyway, I tried again last night and same deal. Only I left a message this time. So I'll have to see if she gets back to me, but I have a bad feeling she's ignoring me for some reason. Though I have no idea why she would, and she really has no reason to...

Oh and I tried sending her a text on Friday but got an error message that said something like "Delievery failed, Invalid number: [her phone number here]"... so I don't know what that means... Im pretty sure she still has a phone, I mean, if she didn't wouldn't I get some kind of message if I called her number saying that it doesn't exsist anymore?

I am so confused here... :(

I think your being a little bit paranoid and I think you should ask her why she doesent answer her phone

Brace yourself, I could be she is just not interested and is busy. But just out of courtesy she should return your call.

Brace yourself, I could be she is just not interested and is busy. But just out of courtesy she should return your call.
Yeah... could be. I just don't know though... but thanks for the reply, anyway.

okay, I am not sure at all how to explain all of this, and still keep it brief, but I'll try...anyway, two years ago I met a girl named Jessica. we became friends very fast, and at one point, I was there to help her with a patch of depression she was going through. during this time she told me things such as "I'm so thankful that you're my friend; we've been through so much.", "I know I can always count on you no matter what", and "I'm glad to know I have such a good friend as you"

.........never before had someone spoken to or of me this way, and it was one of the most touching things ever, to me. I of course, developed romantic feelings for her, but, as the idiot that I tend to be, never acted on them for fear of ruining the friendship. So I went on to have other girlfriends, and my feelings for her, in that sense, faded.

...until recently. I am currently single, and have for the past several weeks been thinking about this girl alot. Her and I have drifted apart alot, due to each of us becoming busy with certain things in life, as well as the fact that she transferred to a different school in a nearby town. Right now, I'm missing her so much that it kind of hurts.

Bottom line is, I want to talk to her about these things, see if there's a chance for her and I, and just explain how I feel without sounding like a creep or a wuss (for want of a much better word)...I want to tell her everything, because I know that If I keep on pretending that nothing's going on; that everything's okay, then nothing will ever happen. I am a senior in high school, and in my mind, the time I have to talk to her is increasingly diminishing. Once I move out on to college, things would get even busier and...idk...

I just want to talk to her, so my question isn't if I should or not, but rather, how to go about it? How do I bring it up when I call her? should I suggest hanging out sometime and then while we're hanging out, sometime towards the end, just mention that I want to talk to her? I am just so confused here....

...she is just too far amazing of a girl for me to risk losing from my life forever. Im not saying she's perfect, since as any human being, she has her definate flaws, but she is all in all, a wonderful, beautiful girl.

so, thanks for you time. I appreciate it.
Dear Funky1, If You Really Devolped That Much feelings For This Girl I Think You Should TAlk Toi Her.
Ask Her To Hang Out And Give It Time Like After You Guys Hang out For A Couple Weeks And Reconnect Bring it Up And tell Her How You Truly Feel.

Sincerely,Cassie
Good Luck

Dear Funky1, If You Really Devolped That Much feelings For This Girl i Think You Should TAlk Toi Her.
Ask Her To Hang Out And Give It Time Like After You Guys Hang out For A Couple Weeks And Reconnect Bring it Up And tell Her How You Truely Feel.!

Sincerly,Cassie
Good Luck
Haha, well my username's OurGreatestYear, but eh its cool, small mistake.
Thanks for your input though. I really appreciate it.

i think your being a little bit paranoid and i think you should ask her why she doesent answer her phone
Yeah... I don't know how I'd ask her, since she doesn't go to my school, and she hasn't been online since the 14th of September... which is something I noticed yesterday and am actually a little worried about... idk... I just get really worried about things

Any further thoughts? Thanks.

If she doesn't give you an excuse to rush off the phone, or otherwise avoid you. I wouldn't worry about it too much. She may have her phone off, or may have reached her minute count already.
Good Luck!

Thinking way to far into it bud. Many number of reasons her phone could be doing that, if she was avoiding you she would not be talking to you via the house phone :)

Hell, last week I had a rutcus of situation because my phone decided it would no longer take phone calls while on master volume. Try having the whole world ( ;) not really ) upset with you when you have no idea why.

Technology will always mess-up in someway, don't worry about anything :)

If she doesn't give you an excuse to rush off the phone, or otherwise avoid you. I wouldn't worry about it too much. She may have her phone off, or may have reached her minute count already.
Good Luck!
Haha wow, I hadn't even thought about the minute count. Thanks for your reply. :)

Thinking way to far into it bud. Many number of reasons why her phone could be doing that, if she was avoiding you she would not be talking to you via the house phone :)

Hell, last week I had a rutcus of situation because my phone decided it would no longer take phone calls while on master volume. Try having the whole world ( ;) not really ) upset with you when you have no idea why.

Technology will always mess-up in someway, don't worry about anything :)
Haha yeah, I tend to think way too far into things and get really worried; start thinking in worst-case-scenario terms haha. It's a definite problem of mine.

Anyway, that's a good point, and pretty insane about your phone doing that haha.
Thanks for your reply man :)

A few more replies would be nice, haha.

Thanks :)

Yeah. It's a tacky thread title, haha. But it's seriously what I am in need of.

See, tomorrow night my band is going to be playing at starbucks in town and the girl I'm really in love with will be there (anyone who read my previous thread should remember her haha:p) anyway... what are some "cute" or "comfortable" (as in, not weird) ways could I flirt with her?

I know, I know, this sounds dumb as hell. But I've always been shy and awkward and never good at flirting. At all, haha.

Anyway, thanks for your advice. Greatly appreciated. :)

Lol flirting isn't dumb, just some people need to 'master' it. I think you should be yourself... or compliment on her shoes or whatever you find nice about her. Being yourself is the best way to go.

Haha, nah, I don't think its dumb, I just thought that I sounded dumb asking for tips on something that SHOULD come naturally to me, but it doesn't haha. Im usually pretty awkward.

But yeah, I see what you mean. Thanks for the input.

Well, first of all, be yourself. Don't act out of the ordinary. Being a little playful and sarcastic is a good way to flirt as long as you don't take it overboard... this will give her a chance to react back. Again be yourself but just add a little "flirtiness." Poke, tickle, joke, and make her want to poke you back. You'll be fine!! Good luck!

Cool, thanks a lot for your reply. :)
I'll keep your advice in mind.

Just be polite curitous offer to buy her a drink and don't be CHEAP! That's a big no
Just show her how nice you are tell her she's buetifull but don't say hot and it will all work out

This is coming from a 14 year old

Haha buy her a drink is out of the question, unless it's a cola or a coffee, as I am 18 and she's 16 haha.

But anyway, thanks for the advice. I'd def. never say "you look HOT" to her, ever. That'd just be tacky, rude and dumb. But I'm all for telling her she looks beautiful.

I get this "she hasn't called, texted me, emailed me days, is she ignoring me or mad at me, etc in a lot these questions.

You know, it's the holidays, people are with their family and don't want to be bugged.

I have this woman that I like and I called her and left her a message and she hasn't responded... yeah, I'm curious if I might have done something or said something inappropriate or offended her, scared in a way, but I'm not going to keep thinking that she's pissed or anything until I know for sure by what she says when she does respond or when I talk to her again. Communication is so overlooked these days.

I had one question on another site that said... I sent her a Facebook message and she hasn't replied, what do I do or It says she's in a relationship on her myspace/facebook but she flirts with me all the time, what's going on?

Uh... first off, don't read too much into it, because you will spend HOURS beating yourself up not knowing, which could be something as little as, no internet access at home, or was on the road, no internet access at the hotel. She hasn't checked or updated her Facebook, etc.

The best bet is to play it like she has a boyfriend until you know for sure she doesn't.

Back to your question: If you know she has no boyfriend, talk to her. Don't call her every damn day, she has her own life, let her live it. On the other hand, don't wait two weeks between connecting with her.

I know this may be a new concept to people but TALKING with her is the BEST bet. Ask her, what's up, what she's been up to the last week or the last time you two connected... you better be genuinely interested though, otherwise why waste your time?

Hope that helps
-Matt