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Lorsung23647
Sep 29, 2007, 08:23 PM
Ok, I had this school dance the other night, and I convinced myself that I was going to dance with this girl that I really like. And I wanted to wait until a slow song so that it didn't just seem like I was horny, because most of the dancing was just grinding... Anyway, as the first slow song of the night came up a friend of mine wanted to dance so I just thought that you there'll be another one soon, since the first one was like 30 minutes into the dance. Well I was just doing what I did before, waiting on the side, talking with friends, but watching the girl so that when a slower song came up, I could dance with her. Then she started moving from place to place every like 5 or 10 minutes, and every time a remotely slow song came up I couldn't find her. Finally the last chance I had, at the very end, there was 2 slow songs, I seen her the song before they started, then midway through that she left, and I didn't see her the rest of the night. And since I can't drive yet I had to wait for my dad to pick me up, like 1/2 of the other kids, and I never seen her leave which makes me think she left before I ever got a chance. Now I know I'm going to see her on Monday because she rides the same bus as me, but I want to let her know in a not cheesy or aquward way that I wanted to dance with her and that I like her. Also we are kind of good friends, she moved away for a year, then came back and we kind of picked up the friendship where it was. I know she can tell I like her, but I can't tell if she likes me back, if I should even move forward with this, anything.

marissabri09
Sep 29, 2007, 09:16 PM
Wow that really sucks. But I know what you feel. Last year I had the same thing happen to me. And well sort of still is. But anyway. How close are you to this girl? Is it more of a say hi in the halls or stop and have a conversation type of friendship?

Lorsung23647
Sep 29, 2007, 09:22 PM
If there's time stop and have a conversation because we are constantly running to different classes, but mostly eye contact, she waves and smiles, and we both say hi... But now that I'm thinking about it, she said hi earlier that night, and she knew I was at the dance, and right when I was walking over to her she was kind of looking around, then after that it was almost like she was avoiding me...

marissabri09
Sep 29, 2007, 09:23 PM
Have you ever told her you liked her before?

Lorsung23647
Sep 29, 2007, 09:26 PM
Never had enough time, I've always wanted to tell her, but I never wanted to blurt it out when the second I see her, I kind of want to start a conversation then move into that, but something always intrupts us...

marissabri09
Sep 29, 2007, 09:37 PM
Well if you are going to tell her you like her then, you should probably get her alone. [like not during school. Maybe like after school. Or like this weekend or something. Or talk to her on the phone. I wouldn't do computer things can be taken the wrong way on the internet. At least on the phone you can hear her. What ever way you feel comfortable doing. If you have to do the computer then you go ahead but avoid it as much as possible] yeah, just get her alone and slowly bring it up in conversation. If she feels the same way about you then she will tell you. Or she should. But if she doesn't then don't let it ruin your friendship. That's never good.
But if you just want to talk about the dance then, just be like "hey, i saw you at the dance, i was gonna ask you to dance but you disappeared on me before i could have a chance" just make it casual. Don't seem upset or angry or anxious or anything just be yourself.

Lorsung23647
Sep 29, 2007, 09:47 PM
I was thinking of doing that but since she seemed to be avoiding me I keep thinking she's going to keep avoiding me.

marissabri09
Sep 29, 2007, 09:50 PM
Well then I would confront her about it. Ask her if she was, and if so why. Well unless you don't want to know. But maybe she didn't realize she was, sometimes people do that.

Lorsung23647
Sep 29, 2007, 09:53 PM
I don't know, I'm not good at reading people, maybe she was just following her friends. I'll ask her, try and talk to her. Ty for the help :)

marissabri09
Sep 29, 2007, 09:55 PM
No problem and girls tend to do that. I know. Well good luck remember be cool about it.

Lorsung23647
Oct 10, 2007, 02:50 PM
Ok, I had to bring it to e-mail, but I got this response back like instantly.
"and i haven't been ignoring you. and im sorry that you felt like i was. and the truth is i was in a relationship and it left me heart broken so i made a pledge to me that i wouldn't go out with someone until i knew that i could look at him and not want to cry. and im almost there. but just before i read this e-mail he e-mailed me and i almost cried. so im sorry but im not ready for anything like that. but i would still love to be your friend. chatting in the halls or on the bus. and thanks for telling me and not having a friend of yours tell me. kudos to Jason.. lol"
So I think this means sometime, but not now... or am I like totally wrong...

marissabri09
Oct 11, 2007, 06:45 PM
That's okay at least you were able to do it. That's good. And that is good you told her yourself too, it takes guts. Well you are right that she means sometime. Don't push her cause it will make her not want to at all. Just let her well heal I guess. Let her know you are there if she needs you. If you want to be there. And in time she will get better, and everything will work out. I mean yeah if you like this girl that much then wait for her. But personally I wouldn't wait forever. If this is like a 3year long thing. And you find a different girl along the way then go for it. Don't wait forever... but anyway good luck and a happy life to you.:)

Marcus11
Oct 12, 2007, 04:02 AM
Being Cheesy is never a bad way to go bud :) I'm a simple sweetheart, and the past GFs and friends I have had enjoy my personality and how "different" I am compared to most "guys" hah. With that, confront her with what pleases yourself, no one else.

Saying you wanted to dance with her may not be the best route in my opinion. Girls thrive on confidence of another guy; saying what you wanted to do, given the opportunity but not ceasing it may be a turn off for her.

Have not been in high school for a while now :( (Thank the lord in many ways).
How I would approach this-

Ask her out on a date, nothing fancy (One of my favorites is Starbucks and a beautiful night ;) boy can some girls chatter up a storm with you if you let them :) ) and see how that goes. I would not advise bringing anything up about the dance, other then saying you saw her and she looked gorgeous, but remember you are on a see-saw with the confidence factor stating anything along those lines.

Best of luck to you though, and be yourself in whatever you do, girls can really easily see fake people.