Thauros
Sep 25, 2007, 02:59 PM
Hi
My age: 22
Location: Milwaukee, WI
Race: Hispanic
Her age: 18
Location: Kyoto, Japan
Race: Japanese
I had a long distance relationship with this girl on Yahoo for 2 years, but it fell apart a few months ago. The reason it fell apart was because I kept pressuring her to show herself to me using a web cam, and to talk to me using a microphone. This was between the first 6 months I have known her. I know it was bad of my part to keep asking constantly, but how would you feel if a person you like or love refused to show himself/herself to you? Well, it went on and on for around half a year, then the issue of "You don't trust me?" came up. What was I supposed to do? If I said no, she would get either mad, or depressed, or just plain leave forever. I did not want to lose her, so I stopped asking about the web cam and such. I started to slowly trust her little by little until I could fully trust her; It worked because she would always described in detail on what she did daily, and I believed her (still do). On Christmas day she showed me a picture of herself (so she says) as a present. I felt a bit at ease, but still bothered on how long it took her to just show one single picture. Does anyone else see something weird going on here?
Another 6 months past, this time the problem was that I was caring too much. Too much "I love yous", "I missed yous", ext. I had to stop doing that because she was getting annoyed.
Another 6 months past, this time it was jealousy. She has another woman in her house, sort of like a roomy. She's a nice girl that cleans the house and such, sort of like a housewife. The problem is that my ex said she was bi, and she was curious on how... well, you know the rest. I was shocked, speechless, and felt betrayed even though she did NOT do anything with her. She acted like it was another walk in the park kind of thing, and that I should not feel this way, or over-react about it. I told her how I felt about the situation and she kept saying that she did not see anything wrong with it. She eventually agreed to not do anything, and that she did not do anything with her in the past.
The last 6 months went OK, until I snapped. We had a bad argument about a subject I can barely remember, and she just left for the day, then returned the next day saying we were not together anymore, That she needed some time off the relationship. I agreed to it and bowed that I will not go out with anyone else until we are together again, she did the same.
To this day, I still chat with her daily, trying to get her back. I love that girl with all my heart.
But today something happened. She told me she kissed the girl she was living with on the mouth, tongue and all. Again, I am shocked, confused, and feel betrayed even though we are not together anymore. She does not see it as a big deal, but I do.
What should I do? I know I might be over-reacting, but damn...
My age: 22
Location: Milwaukee, WI
Race: Hispanic
Her age: 18
Location: Kyoto, Japan
Race: Japanese
I had a long distance relationship with this girl on Yahoo for 2 years, but it fell apart a few months ago. The reason it fell apart was because I kept pressuring her to show herself to me using a web cam, and to talk to me using a microphone. This was between the first 6 months I have known her. I know it was bad of my part to keep asking constantly, but how would you feel if a person you like or love refused to show himself/herself to you? Well, it went on and on for around half a year, then the issue of "You don't trust me?" came up. What was I supposed to do? If I said no, she would get either mad, or depressed, or just plain leave forever. I did not want to lose her, so I stopped asking about the web cam and such. I started to slowly trust her little by little until I could fully trust her; It worked because she would always described in detail on what she did daily, and I believed her (still do). On Christmas day she showed me a picture of herself (so she says) as a present. I felt a bit at ease, but still bothered on how long it took her to just show one single picture. Does anyone else see something weird going on here?
Another 6 months past, this time the problem was that I was caring too much. Too much "I love yous", "I missed yous", ext. I had to stop doing that because she was getting annoyed.
Another 6 months past, this time it was jealousy. She has another woman in her house, sort of like a roomy. She's a nice girl that cleans the house and such, sort of like a housewife. The problem is that my ex said she was bi, and she was curious on how... well, you know the rest. I was shocked, speechless, and felt betrayed even though she did NOT do anything with her. She acted like it was another walk in the park kind of thing, and that I should not feel this way, or over-react about it. I told her how I felt about the situation and she kept saying that she did not see anything wrong with it. She eventually agreed to not do anything, and that she did not do anything with her in the past.
The last 6 months went OK, until I snapped. We had a bad argument about a subject I can barely remember, and she just left for the day, then returned the next day saying we were not together anymore, That she needed some time off the relationship. I agreed to it and bowed that I will not go out with anyone else until we are together again, she did the same.
To this day, I still chat with her daily, trying to get her back. I love that girl with all my heart.
But today something happened. She told me she kissed the girl she was living with on the mouth, tongue and all. Again, I am shocked, confused, and feel betrayed even though we are not together anymore. She does not see it as a big deal, but I do.
What should I do? I know I might be over-reacting, but damn...