My mom put this program on and now she knows when I am on the computer and she knows how long I have been on the computer.and I just need to delete the program as as possible.

Who bought the computer?

You have to be kidding! You really think we are going to help you get rid of or get around controls imposed by your parental units?

Get real!

I have the same thing on my computer at home.

Even if I were unethical and immoral enough to tell you how to defeat the program, I couldn't do so without knowing her username and password for that program.

But even if I knew, I wouldn't say, since it's there for your discipline and protection.

Who bought the computer? My mom bought the computer.

You have to be kidding! You really think we are going to help you get rid of or get around controls imposed by your parental units?

Get real! yes I thought u would help.

My mom bought the computer.Then she runs the show. When you have your own money and your own internet connection then you can make the decisions.

yes i thought u would help.

Well then you were being foolish or naïve.

Your mom will know the codes to turn it off or delete it, just ask her.

My mom put this program on and now she knows when i am on the computer and she knows how long i have been on the computer.and i just need to delete the program as as possible.

And, there is also a very good likelihood that your mom knows where you have been on the computer as well as the Internet.

I am sure that one of the things your mom is concerned about is who you might meet up with on the Internet.

I am glad that you mother cares about you enough to put that kind of program on the computer. Be thankful. Not all parents are that caring about their children. We have some kids who are on this site way past a logical and reasonable time when they should have been in bed in order to get up for school the next morning. Their parents obviously don't have as much concern for them as your mother does for you.

If you really want to blow Mom's mind next time she checks the computer, don't use the computer for several days, unless it is needed for school work.

Imagine her dismay and the confused look on her face when she learns you been reading books, mowing the lawn, cleaning your room, helping with the household chores, playing outside getting exercise, and only using the puter for useful purposes like homework.

Imagine the day she can actually begin trusting you to do the right thing.

Don't look at the monitoring program in a bad way, your mum cares enough to put it on, anyway I trust you wouldn't go on any innapropriate sites.

Dont look at the monitoring program in a bad way, your mum cares enough to put it on, anyway I trust you wouldn't go on any innapropriate sites.I know my mom cares about me but I don't want my mom to care what and where I go in the computer.I just want her to let me go any where on the computer without her saying don't go here don't go there.I miss the chat room so much I wish I could go to the chat room now.I wish she could just forget I was even living in the house so I could do and go where ever I feel like going.The chat room is safe and I can't get through to her and let her understand that it is safe.When I get someone who is good @ computers I am going to ask the person to delete that program she has on the computer then I will be back on the chat room.I am going to try to get some over to my house when my mom is not home and let them help me with the computer program.

Who bought the computer?My mom bought the computer.

When i get someone who is good @ computers i am going to ask the person to delete that program she has on the computer then i will be back on the chat room.I am going to try to get some over to my house when my mom is not home and let them help me with the computer program.

This is why your mother put the program on the computer in the first place.

You may think you don't want your mother to care but think about that for a second. Would you want her to completely not care about you? Not take you to the doctor when you are sick, buy food and cook meals for you, keep a neat house, pay bills or taxes, leave you alone by yourself all the time, her never being there when you need your mom. You only say you don't want her to care because you want to be in some chat room which was probably taking your attention away from school and your reality. Your mom sounds like a pretty awesome mom to me.

Actually many chat rooms are not near as safe as many teens believe they are

i know my mom cares about me but i don't want my mom to care what and where i go in the computer.I just want her to let me go any where on the computer without her saying don't go here don't go there.I miss the chat room so much i wish i could go to the chat room now.I wish she could just forget i was even living in the house so i could do and go where ever i feel like going.The chat room is safe and i can't get through to her and let her understand that it is safe.When i get someone who is good @ computers i am going to ask the person to delete that program she has on the computer then i will be back on the chat room.I am going to try to get some over to my house when my mom is not home and let them help me with the computer program.
I'm sorry to inform you that kids with this type attitude, that invite strangers to their homes that they have met on the internet, are at risk of getting abducted, having terrible things done to their body by some pervert, and usually end up in a ditch somewhere.
Think it won't happen to you?? Better think again, it happens to kids everyday.
Your mother is trying to prevent this from happening to you.
No where on the internet is safe.

This is why your mother put the program on the computer in the first place.

You may think you don't want your mother to care but think about that for a second. Would you want her to completely not care about you? Not take you to the doctor when you are sick, buy food and cook meals for you, keep a neat house, pay bills or taxes, leave you alone by yourself all the time, her never being there when you need your mom. You only say you don't want her to care because you want to be in some chat room which was probably taking your attention away from school and your reality. Your mom sounds like a pretty awesome mom to me.If I have a great mom I am still not seeing it but when I talked to people on the chat room I talked to the chatters and the mods and admins there and they said to talk to my mom and tell her that it is safe and that if my mom wants to go to the website to check she can do that.I have talked to pervs on the chat but I think I can handle it I handle it more then one time when I was in the chat room.the only thing I am seeing with my mom is that I think she's way to over protective with where on the computer I go.I know that she's doesn't want me to get hurt but I would say it's my problem if I get myself in trouble.I know I am risking my life in the chat room but it's my problem to deal with and I agree with some people when they say that if there child was on the chat room that they were going to watch what they say I would hate that but @ least if my mom did that I would be able to go on the chat room.I know I would sneek on to the chat room even if she's not here to monitor me.I here people say that yeah she's a great mom.yeah I guess that's great that she's trying to protect me.:confused: :confused: :(

And, there is also a very good likelihood that your mom knows where you have been on the computer as well as the Internet.

I am sure that one of the things your mom is concerned about is who you might meet up with on the Internet.

I am glad that you mother cares about you enough to put that kind of program on the computer. Be thankful. Not all parents are that caring about their children. We have some kids who are on this site way past a logical and reasonable time when they should have been in bed in order to get up for school the next morning. Their parents obviously don't have as much concern for them as your mother does for you.Um... uh... yeah

Um....uh..... yeah

Clough is right hun. You should be happy that your mom cares so much.

I know we can get mad at our parents sometimes, but the reason they do things that make us mad is because they love us and don't want anything to happen to us. Her reasoning more than likely isn't what you are doing on the internet, but more about who else is on the internet with you, you know what I mean? We can sometimes give out too much information without realizing it. A person in a chat room can seem friendly and can seem like they have good intentions, but we can never tell through a computer screen. All we can see is the words that are typed. Trust me, chat rooms are not all they are hyped up to be anymore. They are filled with spam and bots that can hurt your computer, and I'm sure you don't want to hurt your computer, you want to get use out of it, right?

I have talked to pervs on the chat but i think i can handle it i handle it more then one time when i was in the chat room. i would say it's my problem if i get myself in trouble.i know i am risking my life in the chat room but it's my problem to deal with. i know i would sneek on to the chat room even if she's not here to monitor me.
This is exactly why your mother has put the block on the computer.
Your way of thinking is not only immature, but it could also endanger you.
I'm sure you won't want to "deal with it yourself" if a sex predator got ahold of you... think about that... because it happens daily.
I know you don't understand your mothers reasoning right now, but you will when you get older.
Just know that the block is in your best interest.

Now, I'm just curious, if you didn't put the troll alert avatar on there, then who did??
You know what that means, right?

ii don't want my mom to care what and where i go in the computer.I just want her to let me go any where on the computer without her saying don't go here don't go there.

Sorry, but you have 5 years to wait. When you are 18 and can support yourself, you can make such decisions. Until then, that's what parents are for, to make these decisions for their children because they are older and wiser and more experienced.

So many teens think they "can handle it" with online chatters. Must be why another teen girl ran away with a 46 yr old man she met online, who turned out to be a registered sex offender.

I'm going to trust the avatar assigned to that member. :)

NK, I would as well ;)

I am surprised this simple issue has gone 3 pages. It seems you have problems accepting wise advice. Good for your mother.

I'm going to trust the avatar assigned to that member. :)
Me Too :D

When i get someone who is good @ computers i am going to ask the person to delete that program she has on the computer then i will be back on the chat room.I am going to try to get some over to my house when my mom is not home and let them help me with the computer program.

NO BRE1028 don't get anyone to take the program off,that will just cause arguments in your household when you're mum finds out.
Chatrooms aren't something you should rely on, I'm around you're age and I don't go on chatrooms and don't want to, Its more important to make friends with people who you know and who you can go shopping with, not people you have never seen.
Jack

Your mom will know the codes to turn it off or delete it, just ask her.she is not going to give me the pass word.

I'm going to trust the avatar assigned to that member. :)

Good idea! Me too! :D

NO BRE1028 dont get anyone to take the program off,that will just cause arguments in your household when you're mum finds out.
Chatrooms arn't something you should rely on, im around you're age and i dont go on chatrooms and dont want to, Its more important to make friends with people who you know and who you can go shopping with, not people you have never seen.
JackI need to go back on the chat room.I want to go back on the chat room.If I was on the chat room I know that everyone from the chat room would be very worried about me because I haven't been there for awhile.I know the people in the chat room care about me.they told me that they were worried about me.when I was on the chat room I didn't give out my address or my phone number so I don't think I have anything to worry about when people on the chat rooms ask me for that information.people have asked me the strangest stuff and I know I have gave the right answers and that I can talk to the mods and monitor and they know what to say and what to tell me.I don't think my email would be something personal and not everyone @ the website have my email.I was in this relationship with this guy on the chat room.I have been in 3 relationships on the chat room.I have this friend on the chat room and he said that online relationships don't always work and that's true.I had a few crushes on some guys but I wasn't with all the guys I liked.when I talked to a few people they told me that I was flirting with guys.I was shocked.I don't know a lot about relationships but I was going to marry the guy who told me he was 17.he asked me if I would marry him and I said yes.and I also talked to his sister and his sister was very happy.I think's didn't work out.I still want to be with the guy.my friend told me to break up with him.it was my friends ex boyfriend.I just hope someone @ the chat room will give him my email so I can still email him.when I was in the chat room he wasn't in the chat room for awhile.I just hope he e-mails me soon.I know I am only 13.and he said he's 17.yeah 13 and 17 r far apart but still I think I was meant to be with him I just have to fix a few things with him.the bad news is that I have a crush on a person @ this website.I feel like I fit in a chat room then @ my school.I feel like I have a life in the chat room.

Hello bre1028,

Do you know why you have the avatar that you have?

I need to go back on the chat room.I want to go back on the chat room....
was meant to be with him i just have to fix a few things with him.the bad news is that i have a crush on a person @ this website.i feel like i fit in a chat room then @ my school.I feel like i have a life in the chat room.

Now we start to see the true story. You have an obsession about this chat room. At 13 your judgement is already under question, add an obsession to it and its not hard to understand why your mother is using a blocker.

You NEED to get counseling to learn how to deal with your issues. You are living in a fantasy world that is becoming more real to you then reality. And that is a recipe for disaster.

Scottgem hit the nail on the head. Bre1028, you are totally out of control with that chat site. You should be glad your mother still allows you internet access!

My son has a filter and a timer. When he maxes out his time for the day, he finds other things to do. I would suggest the same for you.

Find a club at school or take dance/gymnastics lessons or something that will enrich your life. A chatroom just rots away hours you can never get back.

How, about asking your mom to join in your cyber activities. Or better yet turn it off and ask you mom to spend time with you.

Hello bre1028,

Do you know why you have the avatar that you have?no I don't know.

How, about asking your mom to join in your cyber activities. Or better yet turn it off and ask you mom to spend time with you.Ha ha spend time with me?Every chance I got I pulled away from my mom.My mom doesn't have time to spend with me she has work and she tired.I have a sport that I play.I love my sport.I am just glad that my mom knows I was on the chat room and she doesn't allow me to go there and I happy I can't go to the chat room.I have had a friend who warned me about the chat room and I didn't believe her.she told me what could happened to me and she told me what happened to her when she was on the chat room.I just ignored my friend when she told me what happened.I read this story about this girl who was on the chat room and reading it just made me really scared and I think I gave personal information without even noticing that I did.when I read the story I did a little of what the girl did.I am scared.
:( :confused:

Scottgem hit the nail on the head. Bre1028, you are totally out of control with that chat site. You should be glad your mother still allows you internet access!

My son has a filter and a timer. When he maxes out his time for the day, he finds other things to do. I would suggest the same for you.

Find a club at school or take dance/gymnastics lessons or something that will enrich your life. A chatroom just rots away hours you can never get back.That's horrible that he has a timer.That would be torture for me and maybe for him too.Me out of control with the chat room?Ha ha wow!Really Emland?:confused:

That's horrible that he has a timer.That would be torture for me and maybe for him too.Me out of control with the chat room?Ha ha wow!Really Emland?:confused:

Emland is a responsible parent, just as your mother is, and just as I will be when my kids get that age. Your mother monitoring your computer is for your own good.

Hello bre1028,

Do you know why you have the avatar that you have?Thanks for the advice.and I am not going to waste anyone else time.sorry about that.

Clough is right hun. You should be happy that your mom cares so much.

I know we can get mad at our parents sometimes, but the reason they do things that make us mad is because they love us and dont want anything to happen to us. Her reasoning more than likely isnt what you are doing on the internet, but more about who else is on the internet with you, you know what I mean? We can sometimes give out too much information without realizing it. A person in a chat room can seem friendly and can seem like they have good intentions, but we can never tell through a computer screen. All we can see is the words that are typed. Trust me, chat rooms are not all they are hyped up to be anymore. They are filled with spam and bots that can hurt your computer, and i'm sure you dont want to hurt your computer, you want to get use out of it, right?Yes I want to get us out of the computer.

Scottgem: srsly dude, you don't have to be rude if she needs help I think we should give her help not be cruel and rude. But anyway, yeah its not bad it just shows she cares about u. why do you care if she knows? I mean as long as your not doing anything bad, just ignore it.

scottgem: srsly dude, u dont have to be rude if she needs help i think we should give her help not be cruel and rude. but anyway, yeah its not bad it just shows she cares about u. why do u care if she knows? i mean as long as your not doing anything bad, just ignore it.

Excuse me? Where was I rude? Where was I cruel? I've tried to help here. And dude, this isn't chat or texting. We type in real words and sentences here. Using chat speak IS rude.

Boy you sure are a lucky girl!!

I have a 13 year old girl myself. If she were ever in a chat room we would not have any program on our computer, we would not have internet access. PERIOD!!

Look hun, your mom is doing the right thing for you right now. She has your safety in mind.

Have you read this hun?


A thirteen year old Southampton girl and an only child, Michaela Montague, disappeared for five days after visiting an internet café on Valentine's Day.
Michaela's mother, Sasha Bryant, had banned her from using chat rooms at home after becoming concerned about who her daughter was making contact with.

Michaela is refusing as yet to tell police or anyone else what exactly happened to her, saying she was just with a 'friend'. However, it is strongly suspected that she was abducted by a paedophile she 'met' on the internet. Not only was she seen shortly before she disappeared talking to a man in a car near where she lived, but a stranger telephoned the family home while she was missing, apologising profusely.

Ms Bryant, voiced her concerns about the ease with which paedophiles can make direct contact with children via then web, saying, 'My fear is that meeting someone on the internet sparked this off in the first place. There is every possibility she met up with someone she contacted via a chat room. Michaela learned her way round the internet very quickly, like all children her age do. She was very keen on the word wide web and when we first got a computer at home she was always logging on. Then she discovered chat rooms. I warned her about the dangers of them because you just do not know who you are talking to. People can pretend to be anything they seem when you cannot see them.'

I had a friend abducted when I was in high school, before the internet as it is now... She was never found, that was more than 25 years ago.

How do you know who these people are that you talk to on the chat room? You don't. I could easily sign up here under another name, with another pic, and be your friend.

There are people out there, in chat rooms, that can easily pinpoint your address through your IP address, you don't even have to tell them.

You know how I know that? Because I have done it. We had a member here who was very depressed and suicidal, I got a little info out of him, very little actually just his last name, and was able to locate him, his address and his phone number.

You are playing a very dangerous game. One that could kill you if you continue on this path.

Again, you are lucky you still have internet access.

Boy you sure are a lucky girl!!!

I have a 13 year old girl myself. If she were ever in a chat room we would not have any program on our computer, we would not have internet access. PERIOD!!!

Look hun, your mom is doing the right thing for you right now. She has your safety in mind.

Have you read this hun?



I had a friend abducted when I was in high school, before the internet as it is now......She was never found, that was more than 25 years ago.

How do you know who these people are that you talk to on the chat room? You don't. I could easily sign up here under another name, with another pic, and be your friend.

There are people out there, in chat rooms, that can easily pinpoint your address through your IP address, you don't even have to tell them.

You know how I know that? Because I have done it. We had a member here who was very depressed and suicidal, I got a little info out of him, very little actually just his last name, and was able to locate him, his address and his phone number.

You are playing a very dangerous game. One that could kill you if you continue on this path.

Again, you are lucky you still have internet access.I thought I knew who I was talking to when I was in the chat room but I really didn't know.And just reading that really scares me.J_9 when I was on the chat room I gave out my information about like what I do on saturdays and like other stuff.I don't know what I was thinking when I was on the chat room.I hope the people in the chat room can't find me and if they do I don't know what I am going to do.I am glad I can't go to the chat room cause my mom blocked me from the chat rooms and that's great.I knew what could happened to me but at the time I didn't care but now I do care.