How can I get a girl?? :confused:

How old are you? The techniques vary depending on your age.

14 years-old

Are there any girls at school or church or in a club that interest you? Have you noticed any girls who are shy but look interesting, like someone you'd like to meet?

(Are you in the U.S. )

Don't be anyone but yourself. Girls are not generally impressed by guys who overdo their personality or come on too strong. Be natural.

I'm jonathan matthew wyatt if some people go to magnolia jr. high school and see this. To most people think I am ugly and so do I. I can't play sports I'm afrid if I play like football,basketball because I will mess up and everyone will laugh at me or my own teammates will beat me up.and I'm not all that strong.and I don't know how to ask a girl out.I can't spell hard words.and I think I am really dumb.I let my famliy down,I let my friends down,and I let myself down.

Wow ladiesman, I'll tell you a woman's number one turn-off: a lack of confidence. You are just 14, and you already have preconceived notions on what a girl wants. I suffered from a lack of self esteem similar to this, especially at your age. I want you to do the one thing that helps me the most, at the hardest of times. When you wake up, I need you to say that you are special, out loud, and in a confident voice. Now before you laugh at me, think about it this way. Some people are meant to be athletes, some people are meant to be spelling B winners, and all those people have strengths that reflect them. What you may not realize, is that these people all have weaknesses. Again, I need you to realize what your are good at, even only a little bit. Perhaps you are good with chemistry like me, or like to draw.

If you wake up every morning and say your special, you will begin to believe yourself. I need you to take me seriously, because only after this can you do what I'm about to tell you. When you begin to believe yourself, you will begin to show other people, through action and words that you are a confident young man. Confidence is sexy, but the most important part of this increase of confidence is this:

You may get rejected. If you take this as a personal hit every time, you won't be able to stand up on your two feet and try again. Think about it this way for me ladiesman, if you don't ask, she will never go out with you. But if you do ask, there is a chance she will say yes, and wouldn't that reward far outstrip the feeling of rejection: being loved back?

I'm sorry for such a long post but I really want you to succeed, so I'm going to give you examples:

The first girl I asked, was on the phone, because it was easier for me to ask, because I didn't have to see the look of disgust on her face. Guess what? She said no. I was sad for a little while, but I left it at that, and in a note a week later, she told me why. I asked again, this time on paper, and she said yes. Just because she says no, doesn't mean that it has ANYTHING to do with YOU. In fact, in this case, it was her mother, who didn't think she was ready to date. Years later, I was more bold, and I skipped the asking part with another girl(based on how I felt she felt) and just held her hand while we were walking. It was non-committal and helped me gauge how she felt about me (she was comfortable holding my hand). I kissed her goodbye when we finally got to her house, and now, two years later, we're married and our first child will be born in a few days.

Bottom line, ladiesman, if your are confident, you will know how to ask a girl out, and if you believe you're special, you will know you are special, and others will know by your action and words. I believe this should be very helpful to you, and I wish you the best of luck.

Take Raine seriously. Not only did he get the girl but he will get a baby soon too.

Now, Jonathan, what are you GOOD at? List five things for me.

P.S. We ALL think we are ugly etc. when we are 14. You should hear the cheerleaders talk when no one's listening! They are the WORST at thinking they are fat and ugly.

And you know what? Kids put others down, not because they are so much better or cooler, but by putting someone down, they give themselves permission to think they are so much better. If they didn't put anyone down, they'd have to admit to themselves that they aren't so great after all, but are just like everyone else.

Don't listen to him, you know there are the occasional trolls on every forum. What we need to focus on, are those 5 great things about you.

how can i get a girl????:confused:
Uhhh well what works on me is to be funny and really nice don't forget outgoing!!

Well you don't straight up ask them out, just introduce yourself, get to know her, hang around her, then after you become close friends ask her out.

Hm, not always the best idea, there is an element of timing to that. If you become good friends, she may just say no because she doesn't want to lose you as a friend. But do get to know the person!

If your asking where to meet girls, bookstores, library, museum, food stores. Compliment the girl tell her you like her smile or hair, or whatever, just don't come across to gay. Best thing is to just jump in and ask want to go get something to eat. Mostly the fear is in your head, and once you ask you won't feel so anxious about it.