Jm5
Sep 22, 2007, 01:27 PM
Well lets start by telling everyone where my ex-boyfriend, alex, and I met. It was my freshman year of highscool (im 21 right now) and he was djing my cheerleading competition at school. We started talking and then eventually went out a few times (to the movies, he apartment etc.) after a few months of that he got a girlfriend and I just moved on as well. After I dated my next boyfriend, Joe, for about a year Alex and I decided we should really be together. I broke up with Joe about 4 and 1/2 years ago for Alex. We have been dating ever since. About a year ago I realized I was being completely smothered by Alex so I asked for a little bit of space, not to break up but just time to myself and to spend with my friends. He didn't like that idea and we fought A lot about it. But no matter what, I knew I needed that space. Alex and I still hung out once a week and talked 100x a day! He was always my best friend, I told him EVERYTHING!! We went on vacations together and planned on getting married after I finished school in about a year or so. Well Alex started hanging out with this girl Sara from work behind my back. Not to be mean, but she was NOT an attractive girl what-so-ever! So I never really was concerned about him hooking up with her. One day I was on myspace and I went on her page and there was a picture of her at his house and underneath it said "morning after mardi gras" and of course I flipped out and he fed me a lie that I believed. Well do make a REALLY long story short, he kept lying about hanging out with her so I said I needed time away from him. We didn't talk for almost 2 months and then we decided to go grab a drink somewhere and he told me he loved me and he still wanted to marry me and that he hasn't been with anyone else in the last 5 years. Stupid me, believed him! Then TWO days later, I went to this bar where I knew Sara hung out. Well she and I had a few words for each other and drinks started fliying. She told me she has been sleeping with my boyfriend for the past year. She called me the next day to apologize for fighting with me but she said she wanted me to know what a scumbag Alex really is. So she told me about 8 girls he had hooked up with in the past year!! All behind my back, one including a married mother! And also a 40 year old women! And then of course Sara, and many others. Well he FINALLY admitted to everything and at first he said this can be a fresh start because now I know the truth. Its been about a month now since I found out and I talked to him once and it was only because I sent him a mean text and he called me back. I just feel like he should be begging for me back and blowing up my phone!! But anyway, I REALLY REALLY miss him! Im sooo miserable without him and I barely do anything. I guess my question is, should I EVER take him back? I really love him. But I just don't know how socially acceptable its going to be if I take back a scumbag, even if he did change. Is it possible for him to change? He is human... and he makes mistakes but 10x? I just don't know. I just don't want to be this miserable anymore. Any help??