I've been dating this girl for a year and 9 months, but a few months ago, things started to change from my side. It's like other girls interest me more than my girlfriend. My mind keeps racing over the Question, "Is this the person I'm going to sleep with the rest of my life?" I love my girlfriend with all my heart but I'm not sure if the flame is gone... I can't imagine my life without her, or the heartbreak that I'll cause if we were to split. Please Help me!

First of all if you are interested in other women you should tell your girlfriend. Honesty is the best policy. If you feel the spark is gone in your relationship and you want to save it you should start doing things that once excited you both.

I'm not sure you would want to tell her. If that were me, and we were just dating, I'd probably end it there. Honesty is the best policy, but silence is golden. Saying something like that would only hurt her feelings and possibly cause her to not trust you. If say, you cheated, than yes, you should confess. But just being attracted from a distance... I'd personally rather not know.

Try lighting the spark again to help you gain perspective. Take her for a romantic date, try new things... see if your passion is there but perhaps its gone by the wayside. Especially when you're younger, its easy to put sex on a high pedestal and to wonder if you're ready to be with someone FOR-EV-ER. The emotional attachment is always more important though, because the sexual side of your relationship can be worked on. Once you have a deep emotional bond, you can work around all those other issues that come up. So you have to decide if it CAN be worked on, or if it might be better if you broke up... maybe even remain friends.

At your age (i'm guessing you are under 25) its normal to question your relationship's lifetime potential.

You are seeing the world - literally and figuratively.

I think it's ok to look. and know that EVERY..every..every relationship requires work and compromise...so, you are not alone...

BUT - If you think you cannot go on with this girl or want to date others - request time off to be on your own... ASAP.