Kitanie
Sep 10, 2007, 08:09 PM
I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 21, we've only been together 3 months (4 on the 25th). For a month and half he's been wanting to get married or at least engaged, I'm too young I tell him but has still saving up for the ring and everything he hopes to ask me on my 18th birthday but I can't tell him that I'm too young because he's so older than me that he can't wait.
So basically one of the many problems is I feel forced obligated to stay with him and every time I mention a time out just a little break he gets really angry at me and goes on a giant rant about us and what he's now going to do after we break up. He over reacts to everything little jokes he takes seriously and gets angry he's always getting annoyed with me. He makes me feel like everything is always my fault of course he never says that but he makes it clear that's what he thinks. I've got depression and so I get really bad some days where I can't really talk or respond very fast or right when he's talking to me which causes him to assume I'm keeping something from him. I've explained to him many times my problems but they mean nothing to him.
I'm only 16 and I want to have fun go out or stay home and play games, I'm a computer lover I love my computer games! But all my hobbies and everything I do he gets annoyed about says there a waste of time and then says that I'd rather play stupid computer and watch anime then spend time with him, which is usually only sex anyway. I don't get to see my friends only at school my weekends are always booked with him I never have any free time apart from when I got to go home after school but I normally don't go home till a few hours after I finish because he comes to my school to see me.
I remember once he came and sat outside my house all night because I'd managed to get some time to see my friends and I had them sleepover. He didn't tell me this till about a month later but it kind of freaked me out. He checks my emails a lot and is always asking me about guys I talk to and if he sees me glance at another guy or girl (I'm bi) he gets all upset and instantly assumes that I looked because I thought they were hot or something. Don't get me wrong I love seeing him I cried the other night because I wasn't able to talk to him for a couple of days (lost my phone). I like meeting up with him but I get scared before and during because I don't want him he get upset over anything I say or do, we fight all the time pretty much every time we meet up thought we're not really fighting it's me listening to him and adding little things to say back but it's like he never hears them or he finds a way to bend my words and the fight continues. Hes threatened a few times that it's either him or death a couple of times, he threatened me telling me i will have no one after him...He's really making me feel trapped I do love him though and I can't stand not being able to talk to him, problem is talking is find with me and meeting up every now and then but unlike him I got other stuff I need/want to do and he doesn't like any of my hobbies so I can't be with him and watch my shows and play my games I don't have any privacy can anyone help I'm really lost and could use some advise?
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So basically one of the many problems is I feel forced obligated to stay with him and every time I mention a time out just a little break he gets really angry at me and goes on a giant rant about us and what he's now going to do after we break up. He over reacts to everything little jokes he takes seriously and gets angry he's always getting annoyed with me. He makes me feel like everything is always my fault of course he never says that but he makes it clear that's what he thinks. I've got depression and so I get really bad some days where I can't really talk or respond very fast or right when he's talking to me which causes him to assume I'm keeping something from him. I've explained to him many times my problems but they mean nothing to him.
I'm only 16 and I want to have fun go out or stay home and play games, I'm a computer lover I love my computer games! But all my hobbies and everything I do he gets annoyed about says there a waste of time and then says that I'd rather play stupid computer and watch anime then spend time with him, which is usually only sex anyway. I don't get to see my friends only at school my weekends are always booked with him I never have any free time apart from when I got to go home after school but I normally don't go home till a few hours after I finish because he comes to my school to see me.
I remember once he came and sat outside my house all night because I'd managed to get some time to see my friends and I had them sleepover. He didn't tell me this till about a month later but it kind of freaked me out. He checks my emails a lot and is always asking me about guys I talk to and if he sees me glance at another guy or girl (I'm bi) he gets all upset and instantly assumes that I looked because I thought they were hot or something. Don't get me wrong I love seeing him I cried the other night because I wasn't able to talk to him for a couple of days (lost my phone). I like meeting up with him but I get scared before and during because I don't want him he get upset over anything I say or do, we fight all the time pretty much every time we meet up thought we're not really fighting it's me listening to him and adding little things to say back but it's like he never hears them or he finds a way to bend my words and the fight continues. Hes threatened a few times that it's either him or death a couple of times, he threatened me telling me i will have no one after him...He's really making me feel trapped I do love him though and I can't stand not being able to talk to him, problem is talking is find with me and meeting up every now and then but unlike him I got other stuff I need/want to do and he doesn't like any of my hobbies so I can't be with him and watch my shows and play my games I don't have any privacy can anyone help I'm really lost and could use some advise?
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