My wife and I are in our late forties, formerly divorced, and we live 3 hours apart. We've been married for 2 years and dated for 6 months prior to getting married. At first I drove to see her every weekend, now she does the driving to see me every weekend. This is due to the increase in gas prices (we both have to be in my home town every weekend)and the change in child custody. Her two (2) kid are grown, my five (5) kids, who are all home with me now, are all teenagers except for the 1st grader. For some reason I can't get it out of my head that my wife is having an affair. I don't really believe that she is cheating and there is no evidence that she is, but because she is so beautiful, and she doesn't communicate that effectively about things, especially when things she do just don't add up, I can't get past my feelings. I know I'm insecure, but I have a tremendous amount of self confidence. I'm a black male, middle class income, with and a strong job history. I have a lifelong experience in christian faith, and so does she. Both of our moral and christian values run very deep. But I can't get rid of the suspicious thoughts that she is in the closet with a secret lover. Can you help me?

I am a little confused on some things, are you guys divorced or still together? And if you guys are together then why do you live apart and so far apart? I would love to help you out but you have to be a little more clear on some things.

I would certainly recommend living together, but I'm assuming your circumstances don't allow it for some reason?