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want to be mccarts babys
Sep 4, 2007, 03:01 PM
Hello well this is my story. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year, I don't know why but every time he wants to have sex it makes me feel sick. I don't enjoy it with him anymore! Am I getting tired of him or do I just want to be with somebody else that has recently came back into my life? I have recently been in contact with a friend that has been in the marines for the past 2 years we were really close so when he got back I went to visit him and my boyfriend thought that I was cheating on him! I have started talking to my friend behind my boyfriends back because he does not like me talking to any of my friends boys or girls!! I don't know if I want to be with him anymore I want to go out have fun instead of being home all day doing nothing at all! What should I do I'm so depressed and scared to end up alone!! Me and my friend have talked about being together but we don't want any problems with anybody even though I know there will be especially with my family!! Help me I'm scared to end up on the street if nobody wants me and I don't want to be with him anymore what should I do??

danielnoahsmommy
Sep 4, 2007, 03:03 PM
End it now before you hurt your boyfriend any further than you already have. You are not with him emotionaly anymore so you might as well end it physically

Skell
Sep 4, 2007, 03:45 PM
Yep sounds like you have made your mind up on leaving him and are just looking for confirmation. As the poster above said please have the respect to end it with your boyfriend before you cheat on him. And be honest even if it is brutal. It will be the best for you both in the long run.

CorrieNB
Sep 4, 2007, 04:25 PM
First things first you should not have to talk to your FRIEND behind your mans back now if you really are wanting to be more than friends then you should tell your boyfriend that instead of dragging things out. It sounds to me like he is J. If you don't want to deal with him and you have fellings for another man talk to him (your boyfriend) Tell him the truth.It will only make things worse for all involved to keep telling the lies.You deserve to be happy and so dose he but it doesn't sound like you are happy together. So kiss good bye and go your sep ways. Quick question why would you end up on the street. Do you live with your parents and they don't like the new guy?

s_cianci
Sep 4, 2007, 04:28 PM
Are you living with this guy and depending on him for support? That's what it sounds like. Why are you in this situation? Are you currently unemployed? Your statement "I want to go out [and] have fun instead of being home all day doing nothing at all" suggests that you are. You need to get a job and become self-sufficient. Then you need to move out since he is obviously such a control freak. Find a female friend or a family member to move in with. Then you can consider seeing this marine friend of yours along with other guys.

talaniman
Sep 4, 2007, 06:28 PM
End this current relationship, and then your free to do as you please. If you can't make up your mind what's best for you, and go about doing things the right way, then you should leave all the guys alone, and live with Mom until you get more mature in the ways of healthy adults, handling their personal business.

br_hjs
Sep 4, 2007, 06:32 PM
Hey my brothers in the Marines and a girl was talking to him behind her husbands back. Lol. Anyway, you should be with who you love and if you are going to do anything behind there back then you probably don't love them too much. Ive been with my boyfriend over a year and almost feel like I am getting tired of him. Let me tell you something though... I will never give up if I love someone... NEVER. He doesn't really let me have any friends. Or he didn't now he says he doesn't care as long as they are girls and we made an agreement. But you should decide yourself what you want to do. Be with who you love and don't do anything behind their back. You wouldn't want them doing that to you and if they find out they may leave you.

CorrieNB
Sep 5, 2007, 07:27 AM
Never depend on a man to suport you.Get a good job pay you bills.(on time) Your credit score will go up,then you could eventuly look into buying a house. Good luck to you I hope everything works out for the best.:)

want to be mccarts babys
Sep 6, 2007, 04:05 PM
Well I have been living on my own since I was 16 years old I am a divorced women I do have a job and I am living with my current boyfriend. I have lived on my own for some time while I was getting divorced. Its not that I'm afraid of being on the street by myself it that sometimes I do have fun with him and I don't know what I want to do yet I have been saving money so that if I ever decide to move I won't be flat broke I will have my savings. The guy in the marines has written me and has called me several time and has asked me to move with him! I am waiting to get my g.e.d so that I can go into the marines myself! My current boyfriend refuses to listen to me when I tell him that I want to make my own career. He says that I a women and women belong at home! Which I don't believe so I have gone behind his back and have started taking g.e.d classes while he's at work and I will go into the marines as soon as I get it! And no my parents do not like the guy from the marines because before he went into the marines he was always getting into trouble but know that he's in the marines he stays out of trouble and is doing good by his own will!!

think_pink
Sep 6, 2007, 04:16 PM
Sounds like you don't want to be with your boyfriend no more . And if he's bossing you around and you don't want that then don't be with him , besides the guy in the marines told you he would like to move with you , your parents will come along afterwards . He got in trouble before he probably grew up so I don't think he would go into trouble no more as you said he stays out of trouble!
Just do what your heart says.

Homegirl 50
Sep 6, 2007, 04:23 PM
I think you need to move out of the place with your current guy. Get by yourself and work on getting your GED. Leave both of them alone until you have reached goals for yourself. Jumping from one relationship to the next is like jumping from the skilllet io to the frying pan.
Get yourself together first, you might just find you don't want or need either one of them. But you'll be more sure of yourself.

talaniman
Sep 7, 2007, 03:32 AM
After a divorce, and then moving in with a boyfriend, and now you want to move in with someone else?? Get yourself together first, instead of jumping to another relationship. Could this marine be distracting you from working on the relationship your in now?? You will never be happy, unless your happy with yourself, and should really stay out of any relationship, until you know more about you, and what you want. How well do you think you know this marine? Can't be that well.