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Lil Frigger
Sep 4, 2007, 12:13 PM
:confused: I've been with my girlfriend for 8 months now.She went away for a weekend to visit her sister which was fine. However she's come back and she feels different and thinks that we are drifting apart.She also works and is going back to school and takes on too much of a workload and gets stressed out so I don't know if this is effecting our relationship.So Im confused and she wants to talk and was wondering if anybody has any advice on what to say.

Thanks Lil Frigger:confused:

Skell
Sep 4, 2007, 03:50 PM
There isn't much you can say other than the truth. Ask her to be honest with you and listen intently. You really need to get the truth from her no matter how much it may hurt and you must be willing to accept what she has to say like a man.

In time like these honesty is the best policy but sometimes that can be hard to hear.

Good luck.

Wondergirl
Sep 4, 2007, 03:55 PM
Here's what she said:
1. she feels different
2. she works
3. she is going back to school
4. she takes on a big workload
5. she gets stressed out

Read that list at least twice.

Her conclusion is: "We are drifting apart."

Think about it. What is she really saying?

s_cianci
Sep 4, 2007, 04:23 PM
She thinks you're drifting apart. How do you feel? That's the key issue here. If she has a heavy school/work load like you're suggesting, that can be hard on a relationship. You may need to be prepared for the possibility of laying low for a while until she gets things under control. You also need to consider the possibility that she may be looking for an out from your relationship and may be using school/work as a scapegoat.

talaniman
Sep 4, 2007, 06:37 PM
She is drifting apart as her world looks attractive, to a single and free female. Let her drift all she wants, as if you look around, your as free and single as she is.