Ater many years with my husband. I am all of a sudden unable to orgasm!! I am very frustrated. Help!

Ater many years with my husband. I am all of a sudden unable to orgasim!!!! I am very frustrated. help!!
Kind of know that feeling, my husband doesn't isn't passionate at all and its to fast for me. Us women need lots of lovie/dovie if you know what I mean. I've spoken and told that for me slower is better though it's like not possible for him.Grrr at times I hate this feeling.
Did you try to talk to your husband? Is he to fast or not enough playing time?
I Hear you really let's talk.