One thing I've seen when some girlfriends have returned from NC - and they do come back if you don't run them down, or run them off - is that is that they often date in the interim.

Well, it's a free country. And a few months is a few months... And we're not married -
Still, when I break up with a girl I take a while to be ready for someone new.

But... It seems that a method of cheering up/self-esteem often includes accepting a dinner date and conversation not long after a break. And in some cases "more"... even if it means nothing. And then they come back when they just want what we had... Surprise. Sometimes I welcome a girl back.
Sometimes not.

*If I'm the breaker, I just don't come back :-)

So, how does a woman compartmentalize this? Be intimate and date, while still in love with someone else?
How can it be done without passion?
What function does it serve?

One theory, perhaps the rebound guy is a mental bridge.

OK girls... here's our chance.

I will definitely elaborate on this one, but unfortunately not today. My grandson is coming soon and I plan on a nice long visit.

But this is a thread that I do no plan to let out of my sight.

C.U. later..


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If people break up when they are not mature enough to love others, they would not come back to the start point. Even they understand many things later, they would meet much better person with a much better self.

So, are you saying they will meet a much better person... If what?

I don't follow.

I think she is aying she would find someone better when she feels better about herself. Yet some girls teke time to realise what they gave up is exxtly what they wanted yet they were to immature at the timeto handle it. Could work both ways

But I guess what I wonder is how do women compartmentalize-when stilll in love with another guy -? To what end? To what purpose?

A break up has some intense feelings, and sometimes we may not be over a person, but get someone else to help with those feelings, a crutch so to speak, and over time it goes no where, because we haven't dealt with the real feelings, in the first place.