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cutie pie
Aug 30, 2007, 04:13 PM
Hi.. me and my boyfriend have been dating for 9 months... I'm very much in love with him as he is with me... he does everything for me.. but my problem is that he always talkes about marriage and stuff.. and it really bothers me cause I'm still young and not focusing on that stuff.. and I donno where I'll be in the next couple years.. you I really hope to be with him but I just hates when he says that I dono why.. :confused: also he gets really jelouse easy I talked to him about it and he's starting to get better.. is jelouse a bad thing..

Homegirl 50
Aug 30, 2007, 05:15 PM
Jealousy IMO is a sign of insecurity (which may be why he is so possessive with you)it is a big no no in a relationship and when tolerated or overlooked it often gets worse.
Maybe you should let him know the talk of marriage bothers you so that he will know. It could be you don't see a future with him, and that's OK. You're young, you don't need to be thinking marriage.

cutie pie
Aug 30, 2007, 06:51 PM
Thank you

LearningAsIGo
Aug 31, 2007, 06:55 AM
Jealousy is a bad thing. If he was a secure, confident person he would trust you and the relationship you have together. When a person is jealous, there is nothing you can say or do to change that. When you talk to him and make him feel better, its just a way for him to get more attention from you and possibly manipulate you. This behavior will continue until HE becomes more confident.

Talking about marriage at this young age is drastic, but partly a fantasy. I'm sure you love each other but things will change in both your lives as time goes on. Tell him thinking about marriage creeps you out right now but it doesn't mean you won't be together.

cutie pie
Sep 3, 2007, 01:29 PM
Thanks