This may sound stupid, but I'm just wondering;
If a straight guy receives "sexual favors" from a gay male, does that make him gay.
And in your opinion, does this happen often?
The area that I live in is unfortunately very anti gay as is a lot of places, but I have always been curious about that. Would love some in put

No, it doesn't mean that he is gay. It does depend on the age of the person receiving the "sexual favors." Maybe the person who is receiving them is just experimenting. Maybe they both are. Maybe the person receiving them has some bi-sexual tendencies.

I have no idea if this is something that happens often.

How old is the person receiving the favors?

Hopefully, others will come along and post their insights and advice also.

I don't think it is very common, I have a lot of gay friends and a couple of straight ones and I have never heard of this. Then again could just be my circle of friends/ I don't hear as much gossip as I thought.

If the 'straight male' really enjoyed said sexual favour more than from a woman then maybe he is a bit gay. Personally I believe that most people are not 100% gay or 100% straight but like most things in nature there is a continuous gradient. Maybe the receiver was just bi curious, nothing wrong with that.

However there are always circumstances in said situation which would alter the conclusion. If someone lost a bet for example.

There is not a lot of info in the question, I think the circumstances would definitely affect the answer. Why did it happen?

I should have explained.
When I was in high school, I was really struggling with who I was. Actually I knew who I was, I just didn't want to be that person. Anyway, I met this guy and became good friends and before I knew it, we were doing stuff. I'm not sure how detailed I can get on here without getting kicked off, lets just say he got what he wanted in many different ways. But to this day he professes to be straight. In fact he is married with children and seems to lead a normal life. By the way, the weird relationship we had lasted 3 yrs...
Maybe he is bi, or maybe he is just a straight dude that thinks that getting off is getting off, regardless of who the partner is..

i should have explained.
when i was in high school, i was really struggling with who i was. actually i knew who i was, i just didnt want to be that person. anyway, i met this guy and became good friends and before i knew it, we were doing stuff. im not sure how detailed i can get on here without getting kicked off, lets just say he got what he wanted in many different ways. but to this day he professes to be straight. in fact he is married with children and seems to lead a normal life. by the way, the weird relationship we had lasted 3 yrs.....
maybe he is bi, or maybe he is just a straight dude that thinks that getting off is getting off, regardless of who the partner is..


Regarding the sexual favours, what favour was he returning? Had you painted his garden fence or swept his driveway? If it was something really big like tiling his roof he may have felt duty bound to stick his finger up your bum, or whatever the favour was, and therefore maybe he's not gay, just a man with an obligation. Alternatively, perhaps he just likes having sex with men. Which suggests that he may be at least a bit gay.

If the straight guy was receiving oral with no other action on his part it doesn't make him gay (close your eyes and it could be anyone). Now if it was more than that it might make him bi if anything.

If the straight guy was receiving oral with no other action on his part it doesn't make him gay (close your eyes and it could be anyone). Now if it was more than that it might make him bi if anything.


Unless he accidentally backed onto it?

Now if anybody is slipping it in anybodies back door the line was crossed.

Now if anybody is slipping it in anybodies back door the line was crossed.


Perhaps one was giving the other a piggy-back. The carrier stumbled and fell over. As he did so his loose-fitting trousers fell down. At this time he was commando and he was thus on the floor, face-down, spread-eagled, naked from the waist down.

The carry-ee (i.e. the person being carried) had already left his flies undone having previously been to the lavatory. He had become aroused during the piggy-back ride because of the vibrations he experienced whilst being carried. As a result, his penis was already, and completely by accident, poking out of his flies.

Earlier in the day, having chaffed his penis on his zipper, the carry-ee had applied vaseline to his penis, to ease the chaffing.

As the carrier fell to the floor on his front, revealing his naked bottom, the carry-ee fell on top of him. His erect penis (caused by the vibrations, remember) fell exactly at the point that the carrier's anus was. Given the lubricant effect of the vaseline the carry-ee had used to ease his penile pain, his erect penis (completely by accident) entered the carrier's anus.

The carry-ee tried on several occasions to remove his penis but, each time, because he was off balance, he fell back into the carrier and re-entered him. This happened on thirty occasions until the carrier's wife returned home from shopping.

When the carrier explained the story to his wife she was perfectly placated. They then all sat around the kitchenette table and had a cup of tea while they laughed about the previous confusion.

I stand corrected - apparently it is more common than I would believe, now I know...
[sigh] now my boyfriend and flatmate are flirting

The straight guy (him?) receives sexual favors from a gay male (you?)


lets just say he got what he wanted in many different ways. But to this day he professes to be straight. Did you get what you wanted during this three year period?

To me, it sounds like this "straight guy" was/is bi-sexual and probably very 'satisfied' with himself.


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Id say he was bored and bi

Now... well, he might well be straight and that is that...

He could have considered the gay lifestyle, been bi-curious for a little (okay a lotta) while, and come to the conclusion that he prefers the straight lifestyle. I would generally think that one or two experiences, and not three years worth would be sufficient, but maybe he really really really wanted to make sure. Or, he could just be deluding himself.

I know a girl who likes guys, dates guys, and wants to be with a guy. She's been with girls off and on over a few years when younger. She would tell you absolutely, no doubt, she is committed to being with a man as a partner for life.

Bi? Bi-curious? Les? Whatever.

Even though your question is about the label, I think the real question isn't the label, but its more about whether his attraction to men is gone, faded, repressed, etc...

In my friends case, id say her desires for same sex are mostly gone, or at least not as strong as her desires of heterosexual relationships.