SHOULD I CALL THE POLICE ON MY DAD? He sold drugs in front of me, threatened his girkfriends, and a lot more things..

Will they do anyhting about it even though he sold drugs like two years ago? He still does it but I seen him do it two yrs ago..

I want them to do something about it but I don't want him to know that I did it.. but I don't even know where my dad is right now I just think that jail would be a good place for him right now because of the drugs and stuff.

I don't really know what I can do I just want him to... I don't know what I want...

What should I do?

Guys! Please help I know people are readuing this!

Hello scars:

Nahhhh. You shouldn't snitch on your dad.

excon

Uhhh... what he heak!

Why? Just because he's my dad doesn't mean $h!T!

He's still a regular person!

Hello again:

You shouldn't snitch on ANYBODY.

excon

Okay.. well I don't know why I should take advice from uh.. you.

But are you sure?

Scar, you just answered your own question... You don't believe in what excon is saying, which is, don't tell the cops, and you do not like his answer. So in other words the only thing that you can do that will make you happy is tell the cops. Hopefully this isn't to confusing

LOL its not..

okay.. well i dont know why i should take advice from uh.. you.Hello again,

I don't care if you take my advice. You asked for it. You got it. Do with it what you want.

excon

Okay I'm sorry I kind of blew up atya I'm just really stressed out right now..

Hello.

If it happened today and you thought he was going to hurt you or others by his actions then I would say call. BUT it was years ago and you don't even know where he is. It sounds to me like your hurt by him leaving and you want to see him hurt. The best thing you can do is forget about the Man, hold on to some of the good times and forget the rest. If he tries to come back in your life tell him that as long as he is doing and selling drugs you don't want anything to do with him.

Why are you stressed out today, it can't be from him selling drugs 2 years ago.

Dennis777

I know.. its my boyfriend, and a lot of other things I just want to cry and have someone here hugging me saying everythings goiung to be okay.

Scars

Sending you a Great Big Hug... Things will be better in the morning

Dennis777

Whatever stops you from cutting and having sex at your age.

i know.. its my boyfriend, and alot of other things i just wanna cry and have someone here hugging me saying everythings goiung 2 be okay.

So there are more problems than just your friends calling you a slut because you have on too much make-up and wearing the clothes your 'friends' give you.

Wow, it seems you have a lot on your young plate. And now there is a 'boyfriend' involved in here somewhere...

No matter what your Dad did two years ago, he cannot be blamed for every inconvenience in your life since then.

You obviously made some uncool choices that got you where you are right now and nobody can fix this except for yourself, with some help.

Check in your area for groups of young kids who talk about their problems, or ask the school nurse if there is a group around your area dealing with what you are going through. There is help out there, just takes a little looking.

Good luck dear, and get back with us. Until then, you'll get a lot of AHMD hugs until the real ones come along.

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Okay so back to the subject! What about my dad?

Hello?

okay so back to the subject! what about my dad?!

hello?

What about him? Is he around?

We've already suggested that you let a two year old incident go.

What would you personally gain by reporting him to the cops right now?

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He still sells the drugs!

And fakes his identity..

Hun it seems to me like you are crying out for help or attention in all of your threads. Chery is absolutely right, you need to talk to someone face to face. And your friends aren't always the best people to talk to about serious situations, they tell you what you want to hear, not what you need to hear. You can talk to people on the internet until you are blue in the face, but you won't get the personal affection that you need until you talk to someone face to face. Whether you need to talk about your dad, or anyone else, I would suggest talking to maybe a school counselor or someone like that. :)

We don't have a school counselor... just never mind the subject...

he still sells the drugs!

and fakes his identity..

I'm sure he is ashamed of the things he's done in his life, but if he takes what he still sells, and does not get help on his own, he will never change.

Faking identity is a means of not just running from the law, it's also an attempt to run from one's self.

You cannot and should not help him, but concentrate on helping yourself.

Stay with us, and go get face to face help

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_11_4.gifI'm a 56 year old grandma, so I'm sending you some love..
We really do care and want to help! I hope you realize this.

You got some great advice from Dennis, and I agree with him. Let it go. Whatever you do is your own decision, you don't need someone on the net to tell you its right or wrong. You will have to decide that for yourself.

Thanks guys...

Lotz..

Good luck and I wish you the best :)

we dont have a school counselor... just never mind the subject....
This last statement makes me sad.. don't be so impatient. We can't reach through the monitor and be there for you personally, but we do seriously care and want to help you in the ways that we can.

There are a lot of other professionals out there, to include police, firemen, clergy and nurses. Anyone will do for starters as long as they are physically there to help guide you in the right direction - with addresses and telephone numbers in your area.

Please don't give up on yourself so fast, others have done enough of that already.

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i know your right i am impatent im just really stressed out right now...

Okay, now, I haven't read the entire thread, most of it but not all, so forgive me if I am repeating anything.

Sweetie, revenge never helped anyone. What do you want to accomplish by turning your dad in? It won't help him... Addicts are not helped until they are ready to help themselves.

Now, you have been dealt a pretty cruddy hand of cards in your life. You seem to continue playing the victim. Turn that around. Don't grow up to be like THEM, be a SURVIVOR!

Take pride in rising up from the ashes, take pride in being better than they ever were.

Now, correct me if I am wrong, but you are in Illinois right? If so, you do have school counselors, they just may not be at your school every day. Some of these counselors have to travel from school to school. So talk to your principal or vice principal, a trusted teacher. They are the ones that have to set you up with a counselor.

I'm in California,.

im in california,...

Then I know you should have school counselors. I was born and raised in California and attended school there my whole school life.

In that case, my advice doesn't change. You still have counselors, chances are they just have to travel from school to school. Talk to a teacher.

Not my school... it sucks..

I'm not in high school.

not my school... it sucks..

im not in high school.

Even in Jr. High we still had counselors. Have you tried asking someone? Like J_9 said, they may not be there 24/7. When I was in school, they traveled to all of the schools in the whole district.

not my school... it sucks..

im not in high school.

Yes, they do have them. Maybe not IN your school, but your school district does have them, they travel from school to school.

They have them for high school, middle school, even elementary school.

Hu..

Well I talk to you guys.. and believe it or not I've gotton better...

I know its not enough but I can't go to a real counselor because I don't have insurance...

And I live in villa park... theres none that are local and even if there was my grandma can't drive..

If you are in school, they have couselors there to help you, every public school has them, all you have to do is ask.

The school counselor can help you work on that though. Talk to a teacher

It was two years ago and you say you don't even know where he is right now. That said, I'd just let it go. The authorities are probably on to him already anyhow and are probably all poised to arrest him if and when they locate him. You probably wouldn't be able to tell the cops something they don't already know anyhow and any testimony you'd give in court would likely be ripped apart by the defense, due to the time span since the events in question occurred and your tender age at the time. According to your other thread you're 12 now, which means you were only 10 when all this stuff that you're now referring to happened.

I'm in a private school... sooo... there isn't a counselor okay?

And okay I get it about my dad.. he's a jerk anyway.

And the cops are looking for him.

Sweetie, if you are in a private school your school has access to better counselors. They do have them, you've just never had to use them.

im in a private school...sooo... there isnt a counselor okay?

and okay i get it about my dad.. hes a jerk anyways.

and the cops are looking for him.

I'm not exactly understanding this. You are acting like you need help, and when someone gives you a suggestion, you brush it off.

Most all schools, private or public (trust me, I've been to both) have counselors. It would probably help you in the long run to talk to someone, but its your choice. If you don't want the help no one can force you to get it.

No, don't get me wrong I want to talk to someone but I'm telling the truth about he counseling thing.. we don't have one and the school is only three years old and its small so I guess they don't think that they need one or something..

no, dont get me wrong i want to talk to someone but im telling the truth about he counseling thing.. we dont have one and the school is only two years old and its small so i guess they dont think that they need one or something..

Wow. That is actually unusual. I wonder if you told them that you needed one if they would bring one in for you.

Who knows..

You well I will find someone.. hopefully...

who knows..

ya well i will find someone.. hopefully......

I hope you do too. Releasing all of your emotions while talking to someone actually does help. It usually makes people feel ten times better. ;)

Its kind of imberissing going because I don't want people 2 think I'm like crazy...

Inno it sounds so immature and people don't tyhink that and I shouldn't care what other people think as long as I'm happy.

But I don't want to tell someone all the things I went through and have them not believe me and think I'm just calling out for attention..

its kinda imberissing going because i dont want people 2 think im like crazy...

inno it sounds so immature and people dont tyhink that and i shouldnt care what other people think as long as im happy.

but i dont want to tell someone all the things i went through and have them not believe me and think im just calling out for attention..

That is why you should talk to a professional rather than just talk to anybody. A professional will always take you seriously. And don't be embarrassed, just because you need to talk to someone doesn't mean you are crazy hun. It just simply means, you need to talk to someone other than your friends or family. Kind of like you need an outside opinion, you know what I mean?

You I know what you mean..

Thanks!

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Hey, I really don't think that telling the police on your dad the right thing to do maybe you could talk to someone else 2 sort this out. Jail is not a place for anybody is doesn't teach people anything he will just carry on as soon as he gets out and there's still plenty of drugs in jail for him to take. If you can just dn't get invovled it's the best way 2 go. Plus snitchin on your parents is pretty harsh without you wouldn't even be here

no, dont get me wrong i want to talk to someone but im telling the truth about he counseling thing.. we dont have one and the school is only three years old and its small so i guess they dont think that they need one or something..

Any teacher worth their money knows that the mental health of their students is important and I'm sure he/she, when approached, is capable of finding a solution for a student seeking help. All it takes is that one step.

SHOULD I CALL THE POLICE ON MY DAD? he sold drugs in front of me, threatened his girkfriends, and alot more things..

will they do anyhting about it even though he sold drugs like two years ago? he still does it but i seen him do it two yrs ago..

i want them to do something about it but i dont want him to know that i did it.. but i dont even know where my dad is right now i just think that jail would be a good place for him right now because of the drugs and stuff.

i dont really know what i can do i just want him to... i dont know what i want....

what should i do?
I think you should call the cops.
If he's been dealing for that long he's most likely to get good jail time
But if your dads your only "gaurdian" child services might get into it and u'll have to live with someone else relative maybe either way I think you should call the cops

Okey.. well I don't think I should anymore so yay! He is trying really herd. Though I don't think he will stop I still love him and I'm not going to tell the cops..