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confused311
Aug 12, 2005, 09:43 PM
Any advice on getting over an affair ?
fredg
Aug 13, 2005, 07:53 AM
Hi,
Anything like this is never pleasant. Has it happened only one time?
Talk with your spouse, and maybe try to work things out. If this is a promise that it will be the last time, then try to put it behind you.
You could also talk, confidentially, with your minister, or preacher, or a good friend who is also married, and talking about it always helps.
Best of luck,
fredg
secretinlife
Aug 19, 2005, 07:15 AM
... is to get professional advices, which means ask your partners to go to couple conselling.
shenda
Aug 19, 2005, 07:51 AM
IF you stepped out... forgive yourself, identify why... what did you seek... what did you find
If your spouse stepped out... forgive; Search within yourself to know if you had a hand in this, I am not stating that you were the cause, but know with certainty, that you did not lend a hand. If you are innocent, seek understanding, hear your spouse; however, do not keep the affair alive in your mind and heart by simply mulling over it. If there is something you can do, do it; otherwise, know that until your spouse awakes to the value you place in heart, nothing will change, it will continue until the person has a change of mind/heart. So if you are willing to truly forgive, forget, hang in there///