Hello there,

My name is Brunna, and I have 2 boys: 5 yr-old and a 9 yr-old.

Now, my 9 year-old whose started to speak at the age of 5, and had been under a lot of life changing experiences, like changing homes, having a brother, moving to different a country and the list goes on and on.

So, my son has a habit of telling me everything from the spoon that he dropped on the floor and then made sure he washed it before he ate, through the touching things even himself.

Sometimes I think he had just discovered that he has a body.

So when he comes and tells me that he touched his peepee every now and then I used to tell him that, what he was doing was normal and that all boys go through that, but after a long day at the museum today I just didn't have all the patience, I normally have.

I told him that when boys touch their PENIS, it is normal and that if he felt the need of doing that he should go to the bathroom and just touch himself there, I also told him that as he grows he will get hair down there and as he touches his penis he will get to a point where it will get hard and it will come out some white liquid out.

For my surprise he said that it had already come out that liquid in the past and that it came out just as pee.

Now, after all my explanation I told him that he did not have to tell me every time he does that.


MY QUESTION TO YOU IS: WHAT SHOULD I DO OR BUY TO EXPLAIN TO HIM IN A MORE SCIENTIFIC WAY THAT MASTURBATION IS A PART OF LIFE AND THAT HE WILL DO THAT AS HE GET OLDER, AND THAT IT IS OK?. BUT THAT IT IS NOT OK TO SAY IT OUTLOUD THAT YOU DO IT!

Thank you for the help,


Brunna

At all cost separate your boys, let masturbation take care of it's self. RUN, Run far away.

There is a book for boys about their bodies and life changes. There is a chapter on this topic. Check with local librarian or bookstore. It is for children, has cartoon drawings and everything.

When the two older boys of mine got to the maturing age I heard nothing about what they where doing with themselves. Oviously they were private... but as MsCrabTree said there will be books but if you can't get that find something on the internet and let him see it with your supervision.

I don't thing you have to explain anything when it comes masturbation, nobody told me and I have been doing it since I could remember and I never told a sole, and I think its genetically built in to almost everyone that telling people or even admitting they do it is a NO NO, think about it there are billions of people on this planet, and I'm pretty sure every parent is not going through the hassle your going through. Relax let him discover it for himself, I'm sure he'll manage.

I think it comes natural. You may not have to even explain

Two of my guy friends mentioned that they didn't quite get it. One had to be shown by an uncle, one by his brother. The point being that penises are, as part of the male body, something that can be discussed with a parent. Better you than someone you do not know. Talk to him about it when you aren't tired from a trip to the museum. Impress upon him that his body and its responses is his, not to be shared with just anyone. Although boys are usually much more open to discussing masturbation than girls are.

You should make shaw that he does it in private and u don't want him leaving sticky white mess every were so in the shower is probily best for him and then leve him to it but on the internet there is animated masturbation so show him one but check it first

First of all, understand that masturbation is normal.

Is their father in the picture? If not, is there a trusted male family member that can be available for them to talk to? A lot of times little boys don't want to talk to their mommy about this. For example my brother talks to a family friends son about 'boy things' because his father isn't in the picture.

You need to teach them that this is a private thing and should only be done ALONE and IN PRIVATE. And that NO ONE should ever touch him, nor should he ever touch someone else.


Also, you mentioned a lot of life changes.

This is a normal reaction to a lot of stress. Masturbation is a natual stress reliever. The added stress may have been what caused the trigger.

Also, I hope I do not offend you, but I also want to ask if your 9 year old boy has any developemental disabilitys. You said he didn't start speaking until 5 years old, this tells me that he is developmentally delayed, and this may cause confusion with him as far as his body and any stimulation is concerned.

Masturbation is normal. I think Jenniepepsi has some very good points. :)

There are a lot of books about this subject and he may have heard some older boys talking about it.

He now knows that if he touches or feels his penis he knows that it is nice to do this and I would not think at that age is ejaculating yet, he is finding out that he can have orgasms and that is about all he can do, I would tell him not to do it in front of his little brother as that would take longer to explain to a 5 year old about seaman and stuff..

Find a kids web site and they will have all the info you need.

It's normal. Just let them for it when they please