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copelia
Jul 29, 2007, 04:15 AM
My boyfriend, kell(19) and I have been together for 6 months, he's so handsome and popular, he's 2 years younger than me, and the days we spent together were great until 3 months ago, he said I were only his elder-sister to his friends in some community. I got upset, we had a little quarrel about this, then I understand this community not allow him to have relationship with me now, well, this sounds crazy but it's happened to us. Well, I'm not going to explain about this non-sense community, he said, he'll leave the community since they always complain about our relationship, but he also still got some jobs to do there, so he asked me some time to finish his jobs there. But I know, they won't just let him go, and since that time, at least once in a month we had an argument about this, and it ended up with my tears.
I felt so tired and so bored, we had arguments only about this thing, and not yet find the conclusion. I love him, but I'm afraid one day I can't stand anymore. He knew this, and he asked me just to trust him more than anyone else.
Well, the second problem, I'm in my last semester, I'll graduate next year, and he'll graduate in 2010, I'm afraid that he'll leave me when he's graduated, he'll come back to his hometown, and I spend this 3 years just in vain. When he knew about this, he laughed a lot, said he won't leave me, he said he does love me, well he never had a relationship more than 3 months, he's got too many ex :( can I trust him?
I always ask whether he true love me or not, and he always said he does love me whether not why he still stay in my side.
Beside this two cases, he treats me well, when I need him, he'll be there to help me, he's such a "mr. right" for me but nowadays I doubt at him. People who don't know about that silly community say that he's so perfect for me. And he always said, how lucky he is to have me, well same thing goes for me but I can't show him, and I confused what should I do?

Do you think he's serious with me? Can I trust all his words?

talaniman
Jul 29, 2007, 06:52 AM
When there is this much confusion, its best to slow down, and examine things closer. I admit to being curious about this "community" thing. What's that all about?

bushg
Jul 29, 2007, 07:00 AM
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copelia
Jul 29, 2007, 08:49 PM
Well, it's one of the Christianity community, they said they wanted my boyfriend to grow and become a worker, something like God-servant, actually it's not problem, but when they set that when he serves God, he may not have a relationship with a girl.

Haplo
Jul 30, 2007, 09:31 AM
Before we start examining him motivations, let's talk about yours...

Why do you doubt him so much? Because of that one issue with the community? I would guess there's more to it. Please fill us in why you have such a hard time believing in him?

copelia
Jul 30, 2007, 09:38 PM
Yea, because of that issue, and he ever told one of them the reason he had a relationship with me only to avoid his "fans". And maybe I also don't have confidence in loving him, because he's so popular, and sometimes he told his friends in the community that I'm just his sista...

I know, beside the community, he behaved so sweet, he told his friends that I'm his g/f, he'll hold my hands when we walk together, but, when he sees one of the persons in community, he behaved like that :(