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sugarcookie
Jul 29, 2007, 03:46 AM
So I met this guy in the marines a couple of weeks ago, and I thought we really really hit it off. We were able to hang out a few times before he left for Iraq~but he didn't call me a few days before he left.. just texted me that he was sorry that he didn't get to see me before he left because things were so crazy. I know he had a ton of stuff to take care of, and I can only imagine what he has to deal with.

So I'm trying to keep that in mind but honestly I don't know if he is still interested since he didn't call me before he left. Also, I sent him an email and he hasn't responded yet. I know he's been online because he posted a general bulletin saying where he was. I feel a little selfish even feeling this way but at the same time would like to know if he's lost interest. Any opinons/suggestions? Anyone been in this situation before? Thank you! :p

XenoSapien
Jul 29, 2007, 04:09 AM
Give him some time; see if he responds. Absence does make the heart grow fonder.

XenoSapien

Lotz_of_Questions
Jul 30, 2007, 10:40 AM
Only time will tell you if he lost interest. Give him that time.
I'm sure he'll get in contact with you one he has settled.

Good Luck :)

GlindaofOz
Jul 30, 2007, 10:43 AM
He probably had A LOT on his mind. He is being shipped out to fight in a war. He was probably focusing on seeing people he has known for a long time in case he comes back in a body bag. He may have been interested but clearly the timing was off.

Don't be so hard on yourself. Keep yourself otherwise occupied and maybe he'll call you when he gets back and you guys can pick up where you left off.

victoria_mitchell
Jul 30, 2007, 11:31 AM
Well I would agree with GLINDAOFOZ when she says he probably had A lot on his mind. I know that it can take days weeks or even months to get back to someone especially when you are in his conditions. But something that I thought about while reading your post, that I think you might want to consider, maybe he doesn't want to lead you on. I mean what would happen if you talked ALL the time and fell HEAD OVER HEELS for this guy, I would bet you that he would feel guilty that he couldn't be there for you in person. All I am saying is with his limited amount of time on the phone computer etc. maybe he doesn't want to lead you on.. Whatever the case may be I wish you good luck!

jrb252000
Jul 30, 2007, 07:40 PM
I really can't say how he feels but when you are over in Iraq you are lucky when you can get time on the net. I was there for a year so I know how the conditions are. He might like you however was not looking to get in a relationship before he left. Try to stay in contact and see what works out when he returns.

SuperFudd
Jul 31, 2007, 05:44 PM
I'm sorry, I've just got to say it because I'm Air Force... your first mistake was picking a Marine ;-) Anyway... I've deployed 3 times now and know how it goes and I'll tell you, he likely doesn't want to have to think a lot about home. If he's deployed before he could very well be steeling himself for 8-9 months (I think that's what Marines are deploying for now) being away from home and all of his loved ones. He's got a lot to deal with and if I were you I wouldn't hang on too tightly. He may come back a different person (I've known personally a lot who do). Write him emails and letters if he gives you his address, but try to move on, because honestly you've only known him a couple weeks.