I'm 24 and recently got divorced because I married at 19. I am in a new relationship in which I feel he is the love of my life. I had never felt this way even for my ex husband. As time has gone by in this relationship the more I care the more jealous I get. I have looked through his cell phone and through his stuff searching for something that's not there. We are together 24/7 he's amazing with me and gives me no reason to act this way. I'm a nurse and get a lot of attention from men in my field and still that seems not to be enough for me I'm very insecure. I have researched over and over and it seems to stem back to the fact that my father was not around for me. As that is the first relationship a girl has with a man. I have acknowledged the problem. Where do I go from here? Are there any books that are not religious regarding absent fathers? I have looked over and over and they all seem to be guided towards religion. I respect religions but I can't be expected to believe in some MALE higher being if I have such distrust in the ones here on earth.

Honestly there is nothing wrong with being protective, jelous, or cautious towards your boyfriend. I am just like you, never had a great relationship with my father and I am very protective now towards the guy I am with because I am scared that he will abandon me just like everyone else. Slowly with time patients and a lot of effort you will be less and less concerned. I am much better now and I think that you will be one day too. Just give it time you can't rush something like this.


P.S. It is not Gods fault your Dad left/wasn't there...