Okay, I get it. Young guys go out with older women for sex, then they use their new tricks to snare women their own age. Okay, great, now what do 34-year-old women do to pass our time? Because I'm getting a little sick of 24-year-olds. What's left for us?

So what happened?

Is he dating someone else? Or are just tired of his game?

I am surprised you fell for the way younger guy anyway. He won't be serious for a few years. I am sure it was fun.

What about long distance relationship. I know you find it hard to find good men where you live.

What about any social gatherings? Bars. Bowling. Theatre. Good restaurants. Any girl friends have any good me? Other teachers at school set up?

Truthfully, this guy didn't sound like a long term keeper anyway. Maybe think of it as a nice fling.

Not sure if that guy is a complete bad boy - but, maybe you see some of this in that guy.

Also - do you know the traits of the bad boy and why you and most woman are attracted to them?

And most of their traits are not good... and can almost destructive.

And most Bad Boy give woman massive heartache. You seem to have played well.

Woman love them because they are a challenge, think they are theones that WILL change them (nope), they are independent - no needy-clingy (unless you handle it right), they do not get emotially involved with you SO you DON'T have to worry about hurting them, they are wicked, they are usually dangerous, they seem to be grerat at sex BEACUAE it's a non-emotional act for them and they treat you really dirty.

BUT, most are verbally abusive, more than one woman, drugs, alcoholics, some go to jail, take major risks, spend all their money and yours, potential to be physically abusive - especially later in the relationship, hang wit hother rough crowd, their family is bad.

No, it's a different guy. He's 24. I met him last Friday night at a coffee shop, he called Saturday, I called back Monday (I was really tired Sunday I was in a triathlon). I don't know, he could be okay (except he's a musician), but I was just talking to some guy friends last night and they said what everyone says: guys like older women for the sex and that's it. I just can't seem to get anyone my age interested in me, and I'm telling you I don't look like a whore or anything.

I asked the original guy not to call me anymore and so far he hasn't. It was a fling that went on too long. (And he never said or did anything to me that was unkind.)

I'm going out with a "nice guy" tomorrow, and even he is young! (It's summer -- I met a lot of people last weekend.)

I'm just getting very disillusioned. The rest of my life is awesome, but I can't make this piece fit. Thanks again.

Ooooops - sorry. I thought you were talking about the other guy. I guess I got a little to deep.

Yeah - unfortunately you need guys around 28 or even older even. Most of those younger guys are still trying to sow their wild oates.

I am sure you are very, very attractive.

Him - a 'Nice guy' - what makes him a 'Nice Guy'.

BTW - what are you complaining about? You have two guys on the line.

Usually for me - when I am 'wanting' (womanese - ha!) - I never find. And when I least expect it or go out just to hang with the guys is when it happens.

Yeah, I don't mean to complain. I just see these "guys on the line" heading down the same old path. There is something about me that 24-year-olds like and then they don't know what to do with me. So I guess I'm not superoptimistic given the history. You are RIGHT -- I know -- about older guys, I just don't seem to find them.

The 'nice' guy called twice the day after we met and when I called him back he wondered if he had 'bothered' me. He just doesn't seem real confident.

Why am I complaining!! I want something real. Maybe this is a bad season to be looking for that.

(Yup I am 'very, very attractive!' HA! ;)

Yes, I saw he called the next day on a Saturday. Hmmmm, yes nice guy - then you said twice? Oh no. Then he wondered if bothered you? Why should he care?

What's the rush with the calls? Hopefully he mellows out. I think nice guys think that they have to get in there right away OR you lsoe interest - which is exactly the opposite. Then - wondering IF he bothered you? Man, that lowers interest level quickly.

I need to talk with him.

" they don't know what to do with me." - Yes - I can't see how you'd be interested in these guys at all. You'd like me now - but me at 24 and your age now you would have not liked me.

Yup, you need to talk to this new guy.

We went out yesterday and he called at 6:50 to see if I was coming (I said I'd meet him just before 7), and then he called again as I was driving home to say how he had a good time and looked forward to seeing me again.

Guys, please take a lesson and don't smother the ladies! Please call when you say you will, but other than that, whoa.

Uggggggggggggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! !

What's his #? Seriously!

Yuck!

What!

Dude! Let Turtle dream a little. Suspense! Yuck!

Get a life.

Why??

I awear to god! Give me his #. I will bne his dating coach!

He was so worried you may have been with another guy he was out.


Please!! Give me his #!