OK..
I'm 11 years old and I'm in love with a 16 year old.
Can I date him without one of us getting in trouble?
We don't want to have sex.
We just want to hangout,hold hands, hug and a kiss every now and then,
That's all.
What do I do?
I love him so much and he loves me back.
Can I date him?

Oh my, what interest does a 16 year old have in an 11 year old other than sex? (what interest does a 16 year old boy have in anything other than sex? :rolleyes:)

What do your parents say?

11... 16 totally different spectrums! I would steer clear from this guy until your are older, then see what you still think of him sweetie!

At 11 hun, this is not true love. This is what is referred to by us adults as puppy love.

Have you asked your mom and dad if they will let you date him? They probably won't. The age of consent in your state is 16, which means that he is above the age limit and can very well get in trouble if you two did something behind your parents backs and they found out.

Now as far as a 16 year old loving an 11 year old... hmmm, this makes me wonder what he really has on his mind.

Hi I'm 17. U have to see what you really see in him and see if you really like him and if he's really feeling you like that. Because he might not and just want sex but if you have to trust and know that you two won't be doing anything else. But its ealyl your decision because all the advice won't help you. Youhave to decide for yourself because you're going to do what you want in the end, but di you really love him??

Hello Sstarlady, or more like Stargirl.

She is 11 years old for heaven's sake. She can't trust that they won't have sex, boys have a way of talking young girls into that. They have a way of manipulating the innocent into believing that they love them, that they will be with them forever. 11 year olds just do not grasp that it is all talk to get them into bed.

You say:


but its ealyl your decision

No, it's not really (is what I think you meant to say) her decision, she is 11. It is her PARENT'S decision. She is too young to make a decision of this proportion.

You need to take your mom's sewing machine and make some new dresses for your dolls Oh wait a min. you might not be old enough for the sewing mc. NO YOU CAN'T DATE ANYBODY AT 11.

ok..
I'm 11 years old and I'm in love with a 16 year old.
Can I date him without one of us getting in trouble?
We dont want to have sex.
We just want to hangout,hold hands, hug and a kiss every now and then,
Thats all.
What do I do?
I love him soo much and he loves me back.
Can i date him?
No, you are not emotionally matured. I know you might think you are but you're not. Wait a few years, if he's your true love, you'll find him again

There is no way an 11 year old needs to be dating. Period, I do hope your parents would not even think of allowing it.

Oh my, oh my, oh my... this is scary...

What happened to the age of innocence? I am 23, and I can remember being 11 not so long ago... I was playing with Barbie and watching Saturday morning cartoons... boys were the last thing on my mind, and it wasn't until around this time when I saw the family dog mating with the neighbours that I asked about sex... without that incident it probably wouldn't have even entered my mind!

This is wrong on a couple of levels - One... An 11 year old should NOT be thinking about relationships, sex, love... and a 16 year old should have no interest in an 11 year old!

There is NO way this relationship should be allowed to begin.

Quit trying to play grown up and go play with your Barbie dolls.

Wooooooooooooooooowwww! First thing's first: a slap in the face by reality. Hunni, you're 11 years old. You barely know what love is, you barely know what love means. Not when it comes to boys anyway. Maybe when it comes to family and friends and toys (not trying to be mean, cause I still love my teddy bear). Look, you should enjoy your youth... you're not even a teenager yet. You should enjoy life instead of rushing through it, because it's going to go by sooo fast as soon as you hit 15. Trust me, it's a bad idea. More importantly, what do you think an 16 year old has in mind to be doing with you? Just stay away and be careful...

ok..
I'm 11 years old and I'm in love with a 16 year old.
Can I date him without one of us getting in trouble?
We dont want to have sex.
We just want to hangout,hold hands, hug and a kiss every now and then,
Thats all.
What do I do?
I love him soo much and he loves me back.
Can i date him?
I am no expert but a 16 year old should not be desiring an 11 year old... something is wrong on numerous levels. You're 11, you should be thinking about other things. I feel bad even responding because I think you may need a lot more help than what is available here.

I agree with you but she's going to be the one who chooses in the end so she can take advice or leave it. I'm just saying from my view that there are a lot of young ladies who have much older boyfriends that aren't just in it for sex, but you never know.

o0o and she should talk to a family memebr she trust's that's an adult, it doesn't have to be her parents but someone she's close to in the family.

iight I understand and don't jump on me! What I am saying is that no matter what advice we give, because in the end she can be like "i "love" him and im going to do watever i want", she's go'n 2do what she wants. If anything, she's needs to talk 2 someone she trust and it doesn't have to be her parents just an older family member. I would wna to protect her if I was her mother but put'n her in a cage and straping her to a seat won't help because she's going to rebel if she really wants to be his girlfriend. But NO I understand in a mother perspective that she shouldn't be dating a 16 year old

It does have to be her parents, they are responsible for her.

You are barely a teenager and you want to kiss and hold hands already? Wow!

No you cannot date a 16 year old, you can't date anyone. You could get him in a lot of trouble from your parents, and the police, or anyone who catches you holding hands or kissing.

Ok. First of all. Your 11 years old and you do not know what love is. This is just a crush you have. And how can he love you when your not fully developed you're a baby still. I say wait unti your older and if he loves you he would wait.

iight i understand and dont jump on me! what i am saying is that no matter wat advice we give, because in the end she can be like "i "love" him and im going to do watever i want", she's go'n 2do what she wants. if anything, she's needs to talk 2 someone she trust and it doesn't have to be her parents just an older family memeber. i would wna to protect her if i was her mother but put'n her in a cage and straping her to a seat won't help because she's going to rebel if she really wants to be his girlfriend. But NO i understand in a mother perspective that she shouldnt be dating a 16 year old



Nothing a good smack on the a** or a girls home won't take care of. When you as a parent can't lay the law down in your own home with an 11 year old, something is wrong with your skills as a parent.

I fail to see how you can seriously love someone who's 5 years older than you when you're 11. I think you're just having a crush. Two very different things. A crush is like being visually attracted. Love is more complex and hard to understand at a young age without experience. 21 dating a 26 is one thing but 11 dating a 16 is well.. simply put... wrong.

There are many cases where the guy 5 years older is in "love" with the girl, and then just uses her for sex. This is just online advice from people with experience. Keep in mind that we don't know anything about this guy, but ask yourself.

"How will I live knowing that I was used when others told me it was going to happen."

All this may sound unfair and unjust to you because you're 11 and you "can't make your own choices." Yeah it sucks we've all been there, but there is a reason. Age comes with experience, and knowledge. It's not just a number. Everyone who's giving you advice is an individual who knows what they're talking about because of what they went through in life.

Enjoy your life while your young because now it is simple and fun. When you're older you will regret not being 11 and wanting to grow up to soon. Trust me on this one :). Have fun and don't worry about relationships now. Remember, sometimes your heart is like a child that needs to be put in place by the mind.

Honey, my daughter is only 2 years younger than you and I won't tolerate dating until she's 16. And I'm sorry, but at 11, trust me, you really don't know what love is. It's more like lust. Please wait! I know it sounds like fun and 'adult like', you're not. You're still a child.

I think its up to you. Although Cation: coming from an 11 year old guy you should trust me, don't get too close or he will get annoyed and dump you, and don't get used to it because he might feel weird about dating an 11 year old and leave for someone his own age.

I am 18, and at 16 neither me nor any of my friends had interest in someone that young. I'm sorry, but even if his intentions are noble, something about this just doesn't sit right. I'm not sure if you really love him or if you just think that you do, but either way you should wait because you are living in two completely different worlds

Yes you can I know that you said you do not want to have sex, but if you ever decide to make sure he has not turned 18 yet so that he does not get in trouble you will not get in trouble no matter how old he is

Please take the time to read this.


5 years difference? Sorry, but at 11, you really do not know what love is. He must be after only one thing if he is willing to want a relationship with someone still in elementary school. And that one thing is sex. I am not trying to rain on your parade here, I just don't want you to give yourself away to someone who is only after one thing, no matter WHAT he says. He will say he loves you, he will say everything he thinks you want to hear. So in the long run, he can get in your pants. Sorry babe, but it is not a good idea to date someone at your age. Especially a 16 year old who is horny and wants sex and doesn't care who it is from. I do not even know if I have much more to say, because it isn't like you are going to listen to us anyway. You are going to say "no they're wrong, I really DO love him and I want to spend the rest of my life with him." No hun, in about 10 years if you are still with him, give us a call and tell us how wrong we were.

What do your parents say about this ? Do they even know ? Or do they think you are going to your friends house, which may be his little sister? I am sorry I am coming down so hard on you, but this is serious and now is not the time to ruin your life. If you do decide to date this boy, and your parents are okay with that, DO NOT have sex with him, save yourself for marriage. I am sure all of us have made the mistake of giving ourselves away to someone we don't even talk to anymore.

Give this time and thought because you may think you know what you want, but you still have your WHOLE life ahead of you.

You may not want to listen but oh well I will say it anyway given his age he is probably only after what is between your legs and he will say anything to get what you have that he wants and just think about this if he does you like I am saying how many others could he have done the same way

I'm 14 and never dated anybody.I think that I am still young but I would date somebody if he's OK and if I know him for about a month yeah.But at the age of 11 you shouldn't!! Your still way to young to date even an 11 year old guy! He's 16 and you think he is kind and gentle but you might find him very different.If I was you I wouldn't date him.I know you're thinking that you have what you want and nothing can be better but when you hang out with a group and laugh and have a good time I'm sure you'll have a MUCH BETTER time(from my experience)... 16 year old guys just don't want an 11 year girl to fall in love with.Get away and enjoy your teenage years... you'll have a lot time to love!

At 11/16 the age difference is HUGE. 30/25 no big deal. If he doesn't now, he will very soon want to have sex with you. Ready to be a mother?

I think you scared of me.
U know what, every time I read somethine like this, I wonder what do your parents answer about your question?Will they be fightened?
I personally think that's not true love, too early to date no matter how old the guy is.
It's just too early.

Oh my, oh my, oh my.......this is scary....

What happened to the age of innocence? I am 23, and I can remember being 11 not so long ago.....I was playing with Barbie and watching Saturday morning cartoons....boys were the last thing on my mind, and it wasn't until around this time when I saw the family dog mating with the neighbours that I asked about sex.....without that incident it probably wouldn't have even entered my mind!

This is wrong on a couple of levels - One.....An 11 year old should NOT be thinking about relationships, sex, love.....and a 16 year old should have no interest in an 11 year old!

There is NO way this relationship should be allowed to begin.

There is also laws that prohibit this from happening for example in some states the age of consent is 16 so it could be considered statuatory rape if you were to have sex, there is also the romeo and julet law in Georgia.

All I can say is at age 11 I was playing with my Little Pony and Barbie. Sure I thought my brothers friends were so cool and so cute being that they were 14. But they wanted nothing to do with an annoying 11 year old.

This guy is bad. What does your mom think about this? I imagine since you are so mature to date a 16 year old that you are discussed this with your parents?

A 16 year old has serious problems if they really want to date an 11 year old. The age gap is way way to big, 11 year olds should not date regardless.

[QUOTE=answers_16]yes you can but it is not a good idea to have sex until marriage

[QUOTE=answers_16]yes you can but it is not a good idea to have sex until marriage

You are actually saying its okay? What interest could a 16 year old possibly have in an 11 year old? When I was 11, I was in 5th grade, when I was 16, I was a sophomore in high school. That doesn't sound like a huge gap to you? The age is bad enough, but the school year gap is huge too! Do you think it would sound good for a sophomore going around telling everyone his girlfriend was in 5th grade?

k, 11 year olds don't play with dolls anymore, believe me. I know this because I'm pretty close to your age hunn, and you have to go what with your heart tells you, I've always been intrested in older guys, if you go out with him, make sure your safe and one I was taking to an older guy, it got into too much, if he ever wants to make you do something you don't want to do, then walk away form him right away k? I hope this is helpful.

You shouldn't date.

That simple.

Im 22 years old and you know how many times I tought I was in Love once too many... I think you should not date him first because he is 5 years older than you and apparently he is in high school and trust me he is not thinking just about holding hands and kissing every now and then... I think you should give yourself time... pretty soon when you are 15 or 16 you can start dating.

You should never be thinking about guys. You should be playing outside with your friends

Hunny when you want the answer to something like this be specific on what age range you want it from
Ex. 14-18 && 18-25 && 25-dirt

Because the older people have different views then us unger people just because they are parents they think they know everything about relationships and young people's feelings

hunny when you want the answer to something like this be specific on what age range you want it from
ex. 14-18 && 18-25 && 25-dirt

because the older people have different views then us unger people just because they are parents they think they know everything about relationships and young people's feelings

Just a quick FYI : Some people do specify what age range they want to answer their question, but this is a public forum and anyone is free to answer. :)

Not saying that your not but I don't want to give her advise and have people yelling at me for it

Don't think about him go out with your friends. Avoid him

Why don't you go out with this guy to the library check out "Harry Potter".
Read it together...
Then tell me about it?
:D

That's what you can do with him, no more than that okay, hunny? :)

And don't forget to tell me about the story of Harry!;)

not saying that your not but i don't wanna give her advise and have people yelling at me for it

Would you let your 11 year old daughter go out with a 16 year old? Alone? :mad:

hunny when you want the answer to something like this be specific on what age range you want it from
ex. 14-18 && 18-25 && 25-dirt

because the older people have different views then us unger people just because they are parents they think they know everything about relationships and young people's feelings

No we don't think we know everything, but we do KNOW a lot more than a little girl. You forget that we have lived through what you children are now going through. We have the benefit of experience that you just don't have. We also come at questions like this from a more realistic and secure perspective. People ask questions here because they want advice from people with experience.


not saying that your not but i don't wanna give her advise and have people yelling at me for it

You get "yelled" at for bad advice. So try respecting and learning from your elders instead of dismissing their advice as coming from old fogeys.

One of the major problems with our society today is that children are not being allowed to be children. They are being forced to grow up WAY too soon. There bodies are developing earlier, their heads are filled with a romanticized concept of love and relationships. They are being fed false examples through movies and TV that they are being encouraged to emulate before they are emotionally and mentally ready.

An 11 year old, even in today's climate is NOT emotionally ready for a serious relationship. Such a child needs to be protected for a few years more, before they can fly on their own. The social development process needs to take time and proceed in stages. At 11 a girl should be just starting to socialize with boys but in group activities. In 2-3 years this can progress to one on one dating, but still within a peer group.

A boy of 16 at this point would be looking for a serious relationship within their own peer group. If they venture out of their peer group it is susually with exploitation in mind.

Sure a 16 yr old boy would be flattered by the adoration of an 11 yr old girl. They might even consider a brief relationship because of it. But more likely, they are thinking what will she do to get me to date her? And even if he is a gentleman, he will soon tire of the juvenile nature of the 11 yr old and she will get hurt that way.

because the older people have different views then us unger people just because they are parents they think they know everything about relationships and young people's feelings


Yeah, we have different views. Why, because we have already experienced what you are just starting to experience. Haven't you ever heard... if you knew then what you know now?

We know about young people's feelings cause we were young once too. How do you thing we got to where we are today. Do you think we were born parents? Do you think we were born older? Nope kiddo, we've walked in your shoes already.

Would you let your 11 year old daughter go out witha 16 year old?? Alone??:mad:

Yup, she probably would.

I'm so surprised how this 11 year old girl is asking if she should date this guy... my little sister is 11 and she loves to go to build a bear,playing with her Bratz dolls and she has never even talked about boys... she's often saying how girls her age are kissing guys at school... this generation is making me sick... honestly truly sick... all these kids are growing super fast... not even when I was 11 I didn't even know what sex was... I had my first kiss at 16

Would you let your 11 year old daughter go out witha 16 year old?? Alone??:mad:

Yes I would because there is this thing called trust and I'd have it

Yup, she probably would.

What is that supposed to mean

I'll do anything to be my daughters best friend I do not want to the mother that is hated by her children and if that means I have to let my dughter go out with a 16 yr old then I would have to have her word that she would not sleep with him

yes i would because their is this thing called trust and i'd have it

The trust issue wouldn't be with your 11 year old daughter, it would be with the 16 year old she would be wanting to date. We can always trust our kids to some extent, but its hard to trust others, especially when we do not know them.

I know you think you would let your 11 year old daughter date a 16 year old now, but when you actually experience raising kids I can almost guarantee you will change your mind. :)

I guarantee I won't because when I was eleven I hated my mother for not letting me do what I wanted to do and I'm not going to make my daughter go through that

i gaurentee i wont because when i was eleven i hated my mother for not letting me do what i wanted to do and i'm not going to make my daughter go through that

You can be her friend and still set boundaries. If you let her do whatever she wants she could run all over you, do drugs, have sex, get pregnant or even worse, end up in a situation she doesn't want to be in. Kids have to have limits.

What is that supposed to mean

I'll do anything to be my daughters bestfriend i do not want to the mother that is hated by her children and if that means i have to let my dughter go out with a 16 yr old then i would have to have her word that she would not sleep with him


i gaurentee i wont because when i was eleven i hated my mother for not letting me do what i wanted to do and i'm not going to make my daughter go through that

Well it appears you haven't grown up much if you that's how you feel. ALL 11 year olds go through hating their parents for putting restrictions on them. Invariably, when these 11 yr olds grow up, they realize how much their parents loved them by sticking to their guns and protecting their children even when it may have alienated them. You can try to be your child's "best friend", but not at the expense of their safety. Children will never admit it, but they need restrictions, they need limits, otherwise they don't learn.

You WILL change your tune when you actually have grown up and do have an 11 yr old.

Children will never admit it, but they need restrictions, they need limits, otherwise they don't learn.

Exactly! LOL, I have never hated my family. They are always reasonable, knowledgeable,well educated and understanding. Just like you Scott.:)

I think you need to look at the age difference where he is 16 he is going to be wanting to do more stuff that you may not be able to do at your age 2 years time he is going to be able to go out drinking and getting out there if you know what I mean. While you will be 13 and not going to be able to do these things personaly I can't see that it would work. But as everyone does they have there opinions and this is how I see it. I think you would end up being hurt in the long run. But don't throw the friendship away because if you both truly like each other this way then I'm sure that time will tell if its meant to be. X

you actually have grown up
Who the heck are you to tell me I haven't grown up?

who the heck are you to tell me i haven't grown up?

You just don't get it, do you. I can and will tell you whatever I can justify based on what YOU post. When you post things that reflect immaturity (as you have), then I can and will point them out. I am someone who has experienced life, who has observed human nature and behavior and has spent a significant amount of time on sites like this. That experience and the knowledge gained as part of it, give me the right to make such comments. But even more YOUR actions give me that right. Someone who has grown up would KNOW that its more important to protect your children then to be their friend.

who the heck are you to tell me i haven't grown up?
Your argumentative and immature responses tells it all. Parents don't need to be friends to their kids, and the good parents do what they have to do, to protect their children from harm, whether they get mad about it or not. This whole thread has become about you, a 17 year old who would argue with adults and parents about how to raise children. Don't you think enough is enough, and maybe you should show the good sense to stop posting as you will change no ones mind. :rolleyes:

at 11, I would be tempted to wring his (the 16yr olds) neck if I even thought he had interest in my daughter, by the way, my daughter is 13. And I still remember what was on my mind at the age of 16. I'll give you a hint it was a 3 letter word that began with an S and ended with a X and somewhere in the middle was , hmm, lets see which letter that was, ohh, yeah, it was an E!! That spelled SEX, wake up world!!

Kids are having Kids, and the Kids parents find out too late they should have been raising their kids, because now they have to help raise their grandchildren as well, and think, What Happened?

Enjoy your childhood girl. U can date when u're older and you'll be certain that the guy really likes u... and if he really loves u as he said he does... he'd wait for u

Hello. Im 13 and Im going to sey this. Your not going to take all the advice given to you & in the end your going to take your OWN advice. But i am going to say this. I once ilked a kid way older then me ; I was infactuated. The older people dont really understand cause back in the day they didnt have people hanging out withh younger people & they hung out withh people theyre own age. Now its different. How did you meet this kid? How did you to start to like each other? I think if you truly believe that he wont do anything to you or try & make u to do anything then you should continue with it. But keep in mind that theyre are many many many! boys out there that all they want is sex and to try & suduece little girls. Did you talk to your paretns or siblings about this ? If so what do they think. - Alexandra

Older people don't understand? Some older kids have been trying to hang out with younger kids since I can remember. Its not just your generation. Not to mention, some of the "older people" have kids and know how they would deal with this if it was going on with one of their kids.

It is not normal for a 16 year old to want to hang out with an 11 year old, period. She can "truly believe" that he doesn't want sex all she wants, but nobody knows what he wants besides him. People are capable of lying, so he can lie to her all he wants about not wanting sex, and if she believes him, she could be put in a situation she doesn't want to be in. Suggesting to continue with this boy is bad advice, in my book anyway.

who the heck are you to tell me i haven't grown up?


I will assume you are actually a teen pretending to be a parent, or at least I hope and pray you are, no real parent should ever be more concerned about being a "friend" than being a parent.

You have a job and a responsibility, it often means saying NO and not letting children do things.

If you are really a parent I feel sorry for your child.

I have to say, I'm the around the same age as you and I have a crush on a 17 year old boy, except he doesn't like me back, which makes it normal for me to just linger and think about him. I'm sorry but it's not really normal for him to like you back.
The guy I like doesn't like me back and makes sure to be very careful around me so I don't get ideas and he ends up hurting a confused little kid's feelings.
Go have a sleepover with some friends or whatever, keeps your mind off things!:p

ok..
I'm 11 years old and I'm in love with a 16 year old.
Can I date him without one of us getting in trouble?
We dont want to have sex.
We just want to hangout,hold hands, hug and a kiss every now and then,
Thats all.
What do I do?
I love him soo much and he loves me back.
Can i date him?
Uhm... thats not wise... and your "crush" is DESPRATE.

You can date him for a while but it will be very inconvenient and embarrassing to ask your Mom or Dad for ride down to prison to see your boyfriend. The Law frowns on such age differences.

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Your age difference is too great at this time.
As you get older, the acceptable age difference widens.
An 11 year old shouldn't be dating, I had a girlfriend at somewhere between 13 and 15, and she tore my heart out, then the next time I see her, she hooks me up with her best friend, who also tore my heart out.
I'm 16, and itd be wrong for me to even think about an 11 year old, let alone go out with one, and any other 16 year old guy who does that, well, if I weren't a pacifist, id deck him lolz, its sort of wrong and not very legal and sort of... pedoish.

Just a repeat of the answer that I just posted.


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Then we'll never know if true love bloomed or she threw him over for a 17 yr with better rims...

Um yea doesn't matter by the age

um yea doesent matter by the age


Are you actually saying that a 12 year old could date a 22 year old when you say this?

I think he could get in serious trouble for dating you, especially if your parents don't agree.

NO ONE UNDERSTANDS IM 13 grown ups would never ever think we can be in love this early but we have I know how it feels you will give anything for their life and you think about them every minute of the day and think about them until you fall asleep then dream about them every night and when your sad you just want to snuggle up with them right then and there and having sex with them comes to your mind but MOST OF US are smart enough to just be physically flirtatious but you only do these things because it feels right not that to be cool or ANYTHING so if you think 11 year old are just little kids who play with barbies and go to soccer practice because WE Aren't THAT INNOCENT!!

If you love him don't let anything stop you but don't do stupid things like having sex... wait till your married!!

What if her parents say NO, what should she do then? Disobey? Is it worth him getting into big trouble??

Thing is cpalmist, kids aren't as mature as they were then, it's a proven fact.
You can have kids, when you are both holding a solid, adults career, living in your own place, and paying tax, that way you can properly support the child. That's my opinion, and 12 in this day and age, is way to early.
I'm not a full grown up, I'm only 16, and I understand how it feels. But I'm a realist.

Girl I understand exactly what your going through because I lived that reality once too, I was 12 and I Thought I luved a 16yr old. But hence the word, "Thought." In my advice I suggust you wate to date, both of you, if you really love each other you will wait. The boy I liked said he loved me back too but turns out all he wanted was something I couldn't give, sex, and chances are, that's going to be a subject your man is going to want to consider too soon for you as well. I'm not hating and Im not dissing you or your man but I suggust you wait and see how things work out as you 2 being friends if things don't go so well, being friends is perfectly fine for you, and if things go well then maybe you could date but I think you should wait till you're a little older. I also don't know how well the thought of an 11 yr old and a 16 yr old dating will fly with the Mr. and Mrs. (rents) So think about my advice and take it into consideration because I know from experience.
Much Luv -
Sarah<3
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Well the chances of that r 1 to 10000000000000000000000000000000007000000000002000 09000100000000

But I'm 12 and I dated a 14 year old for 2 days... lol... way 2 old for you find someone who is around your age!!
(dont count on it! Find someone else)
I don't want there to be pregnant 11 years olds running around!! lol

~sevvy~

By the way, a lot of us younger people think we are in love all the time
We say "ive never felt this strongly for a person before"
When its really just a crush or something, we just haven't had one that strong before, so we think its love.

ok..
I'm 11 years old and I'm in love with a 16 year old.
Can I date him without one of us getting in trouble?
We dont want to have sex.
We just want to hangout,hold hands, hug and a kiss every now and then,
Thats all.
What do I do?
I love him soo much and he loves me back.
Can i date him?
Hey I think you guys should date if you both love each other age shouldn't matter I'm 14 and I'm in love with a 20 year old he loves me back too so I see where your coming from but yea just don't have sex with him and it will be fine

hey i think you guys should date if you both love each other age shouldn't matter im 14 and im in love with a 20 year old he loves me back too so i see where your comming from but yea just dont have sex with him and it will be fine

You have got to be kidding. A 20 year old in love with a 14 yr old is sick! You are from 2 different worlds. You don't have the experience to truly know what love is. And a there can only be one thing that interests a 20 yr old in a 14 yr old.

Where are your parents. How do they feel about this. Where did you meet this freak?

A 20 year old who dates a 14 year old is either a pedophile, or very stupid.
Sorry, I know its harsh, but that's how it is.

Lol I like how everyone hated your answer, but I thought it was great advice

First off, make sure your parents know what is going on and what your thinking. They will probably say no and yell at you like my parents did when I told them that I liked someone younger than me, but it is easier to date and get past the legal issues this way. Also have his parents know too. If either of your parents disagree then try waiting as long as you can without dating till the years start rolling past but stay close friends to increase your relationship with him. If they do say its OK then go out and don't worry about what others say or think. Just be careful and don't be to mad at your parents for their reaction, just try to wait it off till they except the idea of you dating, but don do anything behind their back or it could get him in serious trouble. Goodluck!

Everyone expeirences things at different times, when I was in fifth grade I saw animals being ripped apart alive, drug dealers try to sell me stuff at my school, and gangs, I'm very mature for my age, don't judge everyone based on your experiences

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Lief_of_Del (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/lief_of_del.html) : everyone expeirences things at different times, when i was in fifth grade i saw animals being ripped apart alive, drug dealers try to sell me stuff at my school, and gangs, im very mature for my age, dont judge everyone based on your experiences
First, may I call your attention to the guidelines for using the comments feature found here:

While I agree with your comment to a point, this situation is so potentially dangerous with exploitation it needs to be spoken out against.

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It depends, do you know him pretty well? If you don't it might not be a good idea. Talk to your parents about it, I'm thirteen so I know where you're coming from. How much we hate it they do have a little consent on who we date.

If he wants to do "inapropriate" stuff with you he might just be saying that he loves you to do that kind of stuff. Don't fall for it even if he tries to pressure you in it still say no. If you do say no he will probably say something like "I thought you loved me" and then you'll say " I do" and then he'll go "prove it" and force you even more. WHATEVER YOU DO DON'T DO IT!!

Good luck!

Anyone think its funny that she hasn't been on since she posted this but we still comment and give avice

Have you ever seen the movie "speak"?
There's a dose of harsh reality there for you.

It would be unwise and possibly unsafe for you to date a 16 year old boy.

I agree with nearly everything I have heard here, except that 11 year old don't know what love is. True, they don't know what "true love" or "sould mate" or anything to that effect is. Not at this point.

The age difference is vast, and would not be a good idea. I don't think either of your parents would approve.

My "first love" and I were both 11 when we started "dating". We didn't hold hands until we were 13, didn't share a kiss until we were 14, and didn't have sex until we were 17. We were together until we were 20.

My point is this, 11 year olds are not COMPLETELY clueless about love.

I know that most of you may disagree with me, but I just wanted to share my point of view. But please avoid the "reddies" and just quote me and tell me why you would disagree.

On the other side, Honey, you are young. DO you parents even allow you to date? I doubt they would approve of a 5 year age difference. And in a lot of states, more than three years under the age of 18, is illegal and is still considered statory rape.

Just worry about school and your friends... not boys.

You have got to be kidding. A 20 year old in love with a 14 yr old is sick! You are from 2 different worlds. You don't have the experience to truly know what love is. And a there can only be one thing that interests a 20 yr old in a 14 yr old.

Where are your parents. How do they feel about this. Where did you meet this freak?

I disagree, I dated a 23 year old when I was 15. My parents introduced me to him, they absolutely adored him. He never tried to take advantage of me, or push me into doing something I wasn't ready for. Sex was not the only thing he was interested in. We've been great friends now for 6 years, and still date on and off. (since we live in separate cities it's quite impossible to have a serious committed relationship at the moment) But I still feel as strongly for him now as I did when I was 15.

In addition my parents, who have been married now for 34 years, started dating when My mother was 15 and my father was 23. My grandparents, who were married for 71 years, until their deaths, began dating when she was 15 and he was 23.

So it is not sick, and can be a truly loving relationship. But you do have to be careful. We waited till I was ready, and legal, until we finally had sex. And although that was simply our decision if you do truly love someone and they return that love then waiting should be your only option. Otherwise the risks you take are severe. If he's not willing to wait then he doesn't respect you, your decisions, or your feelings, and no respect= no love.

I disagree, I dated a 23 year old when I was 15. My parents introduced me to him, they absolutely adored him.

Maybe this is a cultural issue. Maybe you and your parents come from a culture that looks on such relationships differently. I really can't imagine any American parents allowing a 15 yr old child to date a 23 yr old man. Frankly I can't imagine what a 23 yr old man would find in common with a 15 yr old child (except the obvious).

So while you can disagree with me as is your right, I stand by my advice here. The odds are so great that an adult male involved with adolescent female is exploitive if not pedophilia that I don't think such a relationship should be condoned in the slightest.

ScottGem,
Nope, we are American. But people mature at different rates. I experienced things growing up that led to me maturing much earlier than most teenagers. But we had plenty to talk about, we listened to the same music, watched the same movies, had the same interests, had very different political views which led to interesting political arguments. (because you can't have everything in common with someone for a relationship to work, in my experience) Being with him was fun, exciting, and educational, for both of us. There's never a dull moment between us. So it is possible for people with that great of an age difference to be more than just physically attracted to each other.

I didn't mean for my post to be advice. It was simply me relating to the posters. I certainly don't give the advice to date someone with such an age difference at such a young age. But it is a touchy subject as there are plenty of cases like mine. You just have to be careful in these situations. You have to really know and trust someone (and even then it's still risky as in most rape cases the victim is raped by someone they know and trust) If someone is in this situation the best thing is to let your parents know where you are at all times, don't go behind their backs and lie to them. If they're not OK with you dating an older person then maybe that's a sign that the relationship isn't meant to work out. Find someone more your age until you are old enough to date this person. Trust me, if it's really love, the feelings will still be there years down the road. But letting your parents know where you are and who you're with keeps you safe, and your safety is more important then puppy love.

There are exceptions to every rule. I'm sure there are situations where a 15 yr old might be very mature and the 23 yr old not as adult. But such situations are few and far between. By talking about a successful relationship you are, indeed, giving advice that such a relationship is OK, no matter what caveats you put on it.

Not everyone only thinks about sex. You can't judge every guy in the wrld to be a pervert when they are teenagers