Ok there is this girl at my school that I really like and I have liked ever since I was in middle school. We have become good friends and we chat on Facebook and over MSN a lot and I really want to tell her how I feel about her. The problem is she has a boyfriend and has had this boyfriend for almost 9 months now. He's not a bad guy, he respects her, and I'm even a polite friend to him (we are both on the same soccer team and the same age). Even though she has a boyfriend she has flirted with me and sent me very confusing messages (hugging, going out of her way to talk to me at my workplace, etc.. ) I want her to be with me in the way I want to be with her but I don't know how to go about doing it. And I just pray I'm not being used... because it wouldn't be the first time. Can somebody please help me or give me advice?

Ok there is this girl at my school that I really like and I have liked ever since I was in middle school. We have become good friends and we chat on Facebook and over MSN alot and I really want to tell her how I feel about her. The problem is she has a boyfriend and has had this boyfriend for almost 9 months now. He's not a bad guy, he respects her, and I'm even a polite friend to him (we are both on the same soccer team and the same age). Even though she has a boyfriend she has flirted with me and sent me very confusing messages (hugging, going out of her way to talk to me at my workplace, etc..) I want her to be with me in the way I want to be with her but I don't know how to go about doing it. And I just pray I'm not being used....because it wouldn't be the first time. Can somebody please hlep me or give me advice?
Well... if she's had a boyfriend this long then I think she really does like him, and the flirting is just a sign of missing her single life, I'm like that... I've had a boyfriend now for 2 months and I have to have the odd flirt to keep me sane lol. I think you should just respect your friendships and if she becomes single... get in there! In the meantime experiment with other girls... u never know, if she sees you with other gals she might get a little jellous...
Good luck! X

I think what you need to do is just wait it out see and react to every action that happens. You need to be subtle yet . You have to see the window of opportunity open for you. If you open that window yourself it might not end in the way you wanted it to go. Just wait and see what happens

Sorry you need to be subtle yet aggressive forgot to use that. You also need to know that if you wait too long that window might just close on you forever. So go for it when you have your chance