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Errrrrrm what do you think pole dancing is all about ?
I can completely understand why your mother is going off the deep end over this.

Pole dancing is fitness!

You really need to do some reading:
Pole dance - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pole_dance)

Pay particular note to the first sentence

is a form of dancing/gymnastics that takes muscular endurance and coordination as well as sensuality. It involves dancing sensually with a vertical pole and is often used in strip clubs and gentlemen's clubs

This is the reason why your mother is against it, you are, after all, 12!

Swimming is fitness. Running is fitness. Weight lifting is fitness. Aerobics is fitness.

All of these are appropriate for a 12 year old.

I have done some reading

Ananova - Pole dancing classes - for kids (http://www.ananova.com/news/story/sm_2116649.html?menu=news.quirkies.badtaste)
Check that out

And what did you conclude from that ONE piece of information ?

I think that woman should be given the shaft! This is so NOT appropriate to a 12 year old, not even to a 16 year old.