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mango7777
Jul 5, 2007, 11:43 AM
So... how do you keep your focus on what is true to your heart, yet what is needed to be done "for family-sake".

You are not going nutz, It is just LIFE, it is what you make it! YET... Find your focus.

What are your goals? For Just YOU and nobody else, but you :)
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If you were an ice cream flavor- what would it be and why?
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If you were a sound what would it be?
... I would be a water fall
If you were a color, what would it be?
... Magenta, because it is Hot, Brilliant and Sassy
If you were a sensation, what would it be?
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I will answer the rest later.

What's your answer to any?

shatteredsoul
Jul 5, 2007, 12:09 PM
Lots of great questions Mango! I don't know if I have good enough answers for them. I find that I am in a daily struggle trying to manage my family life and my own personal goals, focus, or ideas of what I want to be. I still feel like I am twelve years old sometimes. MY goal. Every thought becomes intertwined with my children. I don't know how to achieve my goal without doing that. This is part of my problem. OK first, go back to Law School. Travel the world, Help the homeless, Save the Rain forests, help create better programs and curriculums for public schools. These are all goals I have. Do I sound like a wishful thinker or what? / No seriously, these are things that came into my head immediately. If I was a sound, I would like to be the sound of rain. IT reminds us of the greater existence we are part of, it soothes us and makes us stop and think. If I were a color, it would be orange. It's bright, vivid, reminds me of the sun setting or rising and it demands attention. If I were an ice cream flavor, I would be mint chocolate chip, because that is my favorite of all time. If I were a sensation, it would be touch. It is something we take advantage of. Yet, it can be the most informal, or the most intimate kind of touch, but even the slightest touch can stay with you for a lifetime...

mango7777
Jul 5, 2007, 05:46 PM
Wow, you sound like me :) I love your passion for life! I would like to think I have it too, and I do. But what seems to strip me of the passion I truly have is the thought that I have to be a certain person for everyone in my life.. I think that needs to be a "re-thinking" on my part.

mango7777
Jul 5, 2007, 08:01 PM
So....how do you keep your focus on what is true to your heart, yet what is needed to be done "for family-sake".

You are not going nutz, It is just LIFE, it is what you make it!! YET....Find your focus.

What are your goals?? for Just YOU and nobody else, but you :)
................
If you were an ice cream flavor- what would it be and why?
...........................

If you were a sound what would it be?
................................... I would be a water fall
If you were a color, what would it be?
..............................Magenta, because it is Hot, Brilliant and Sassy
If you were a sensation, what would it be?
..........................
i will answer the rest later.

what's your answer to any?
As for an Ice Cream flavor, I would be mango-pineapple-papaya cheesecake with cashews- in the summer... I

Would be Chocolate Chunky peanut butter brownie... in the winter...

As a sensation, I too would be touch, I agree with the importance of it and what it does for me.. I feel connected, I am a "huggy kinda gal"

startover22
Jul 8, 2007, 10:34 PM
Awwwww, I can't wait to answer all of your questions, I really want to get it done fast so I can say what comes to mind first... My family is what is true to my heart, so I just go with the flow and if a problem occurs, my husband and I usually put each other in our right places..
My goals well about three months ago, I started a list of things I need to accomplish, quitting smoking is checked off, shaving my legs everyday has been checked off. Keeping the tape off my kids mouths and keeping them out of the closet has been a hard one... LOL I have a lot of things on that list and I keep adding to it, this has been a huge "growing" year for me and I am putting myself to the test. My husbands best friend just did a marathon, so I told him I would get my butt in gear and do it with him next year. I love kids and handicap people, I love the innocence of them, I would love to some day find a way to help them in anyway I can. I also plan on being a grandmother, even though I am only 32, I still think about what I will be doing with my grand children, and I can't wait!Did I ever mention that reading is my passion but in order to get it done I have to ignore my family. My goal is to one day be able to read a book every three or four days! Mmmmm that would be very nice!
Rocky Road or bubble gum ice cream, I can't make up my mind, I guess I have always wanted to be tough, so rocky road would be a good flavor , on the other hand, I am cheery and addicted to gum so bubble gum would be good too.
If I were a sound, I would want to be a laugh that has come out so true! My favorite sound is my children laughing.
I would be the color of choice for who ever would be looking at me. I love purple so I would be purple if I were looking at me, and I would be orange for Shattered!
I would want to be touch too, very important. If you were here right now I would hug you!

mango7777
Jul 9, 2007, 10:38 PM
Wow... mmmmmmmmmmmmmm thank you soooooooooooo much for the hug! You are so cute :) and wonderful :) You don't even know how that makes me feel... very loved (unconditionally and obviously ).
You have such wonderful goals and aspirations. It does not matter how old you are to embrace life in the little ones, and grandparenting is a state of being and not a timeline. I am not a grandparent, but a step mom and the love you transmit is radiant.
I just can't get over the fact that this place has so many true kind, nurturing, kind and authentic souls. What a blessing, I tell you, and a grateful surprise.

Thank you for sharing one of your passions, reading. I wouldn't say it is my passion, because I don't do it enough! But if, the Powers-that-be helped me focus more, it would be one of mine. That, and time of course. My schedule is all a whirl wind. My choice of course, but it is my life and the people in it has me doing my part.

Marathoning is an incredible high. I got up to 10 miles with a team I was training for. In 2000, AIDS Marathon was the big thing, now it's Teams in Training.

I wrecked my knees(temporarily) because I was a ninny and said I had trained on my own that certain week (I didn't- I just didn't want to be in the "slower" group-EGO! hellllooooo. Whatever, so God taught me. I went from 7miles to 10 miles without stopping and I almost died (not literally of course)... NININININININININY I say. I learned. :(

I say go for it. You have already begun the training by quitting smoking!! HUGE -you go girl!

Rocky Road was my favorite as a kid, won't turn it down.
Color is cool , like a chameleon. I can relate.
My goals and passions will have to wait for now :) I've said enough.

" FRIENDSHIP is, strictly speaking, reciprocal benevolence, which inclines each party to be solicitous for the welfare of the other as for his own. This equality of affection is created and preserved by a similarity of disposition and manners"~Plato