View Full Version : Dads looking for me
 
 vball43
Jun 30, 2007, 01:40 PM
My dad's wants visitation rights after 12 years. Should I be excited or mad?
 nauticalstar420
Jun 30, 2007, 01:43 PM
It just depends on how you feel about him.  I haven't seen or spoken to my father in about 12 years, the same as you, and if he tried to contact me I wouldn't speak to him.  Too much time has gone by and I feel like I wouldn't even know him anymore, besides the fact that he treated my mother like dirt.  My kids don't even know he exists, so I wouldn't allow him into their lives either.
 Fr_Chuck
Jun 30, 2007, 03:49 PM
Depends on why he what's to visit now,  and also why he did not visit before.  Often there are many reasons children do not know or are even told lies.
 
I will give you an example of my two boys,  I went down to see them ( I had court ordered visitation, but they lived in another state, and their mom just refused, if I walked onto her property, she called the police to arrest me for trespassing.)  I would send Christmas gifts and she would repackage them with her name as the given.  So my boys were in their teens and believed I never sent any money, believed I did not want to visit.  But that was a lie.   I am not saying this is your case but it does happen.
 
Also he may have found religion, or just realised what he is missing.