I was having an affair since 7years. She was very close to me. We lived together for more than four years. She did not like me boozing since first day she entered my life. Since then she was yelling at me to stop. I have stopped in between and again started, but she did not know that for some days after she came to know she stopped asking me. Mean while she was in a gym and had a crush on the instructor last year but I managed to keep her away from there. From that day I started asking her "r u talking to him again?". She told me "no i am not". But I kept on asking her when I was drunk. Two months back she again started talking to him. So I was shouting at her every day, there were so many fights between us since then. She has been to movie with him once. She went to his house stayed there for three days with his familly. I was asking her about this every day. One week back she got frustated and proposed him. He agreed and now she is telling that she also loves him and she cannot make him a doll to cut that relation. Today she came to me and saying I am really trying to cut that relationship but the guy she proposed is very sentimental and cannot bare this. She is also telling me that she loves me but she cannot stop that relation. And she is asking me time for 10days so that she will break that relation but she is not sure about that. What can I do now?? Suggest.

Having an affiar is not good anyway. Please be wise next time and think about how your partner feels about it. It's hard to be not selfish in one's life, but life isn't easy, so bear it!