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slsmith888
Jun 18, 2007, 04:58 AM
I'm currently pregnant and due any day now. In the last few months my husband has been different. Distant, we don't spend time together, doesn't seem interested in the baby, works lots, works out almost every day, tans. There is no money missing so that's not the issue.I know where all the money goes, even visa's etc. He goes out once and a while with his friends. When he does he is out till four or five in the am. I get mad and he says there is nothing wrong with it. I beg to differ. He's on the interent for hours at a time using the new Facebook. A family member let me use her password to see what his profile looked like. I checked it and he doesn't even mentioned being married. I checked out his friends and they all seem okay except for a few in particular. I've found pics of him flexing, etc. These pics were deleted but I managed to find them in internet explorer temp folder. Even his pic on Facebook is a pic of him with no shirt showing his tats off. He just seems very anal about his appearance lately and even my sister in law noticed. I spoke with two friends that told me this does not sound good and to confront him. It took all the guts that I had but I did and he says he knows that there is something wrong with us that we have been distant. He says it's the baby and he is not sure what is wrong but that he knows its his fault. I thought maybe talking about things would help but it seems to have gotten worse in the last couple of days. He went out on the weekend till five am. Thought nothing of it. He is currently on meds so he doesn't drink but I still don't think its right that he is out till that early in the am. I've asked him if he is cheating and he says he would never do that. We recently got cell phones in the last couple months. He was out and I checked his cell phone to see what numbers he had and I found a girl in there that I know who is kind of skanky. I also found an outgoing call to her about 12:30 am and he said he never phoned her. When I came back home an hour later he told me it was when he was working and he called her to get ahold of one of his friends. I forgot to check the date so I can't confirm this. I asked him why he would even have her in his phone list. She is also in his Facebook listed as friend. I don't really know what to do. Could he be cheating or is it becoming a father that is making him change. He has a brother and I have been speaking with my sister in law that said he acted in a similar fashion when she was pregnant. Should I be concerned. This is stressing me out and I don't need this stress while I am pregnant.

abbi-melissa
Jun 18, 2007, 09:11 AM
I know I am only young but I thought some support may help, in my opinion your husbands behaviour is unacceptable, he should be with you as much as he can at the moment, this is a worrying time for any mum-to-be and what would happen if you went into labor early and he wasn't there with you? I think you need to tell him exsactly how you are feeling at the moment and let him know how vunerable he's making you feel, he should be ashames of himself he is married to you and you are pregnant, he has a responsibility to look after and is not doing his job as a husband, I think you need to tell him exsactly how you feel about all this, I hope all goes well for you smith
Xxabbi-melissa smith xxx

0923
Sep 1, 2007, 11:17 AM
Well in my in opinion, your first priority is that baby not anything or anybody else. His bahavior is unacceptable but a person can only change if he is willing to no matter what it takes. And if he is not then there is nothing you can do but give it time.

startover22
Sep 1, 2007, 12:02 PM
I would definitely talk again without anger and see what is going on. Tell him you need to know bcause you have some BIG decisions to make. That may just put him in the thinking mode and he can make his life altering changes for you and the baby or for his self. I wouldn't go too much longer with this feeling, it may cause more trouble than the REAL problem itself. Please go and talk with him, be understanding but quick to your point. Good luck sweet, and congratulations on your baby!

cerisa
Sep 2, 2007, 06:03 PM
Observations from a much older woman-yes, he is probably cheating. He does not feel ready to settle down into being a family man, sees himself as a stud.
You do seem to have a problem, best to meet it head on. Get advice from a competent professional now. Betterto be prepared than to be caught flatfooted.
Take care of yourself, #1, you are in no condition to be stressed too much.

Marily
Sep 4, 2007, 12:56 AM
What is his veiwpoint of being a husband, is'nt he happy that you are going to have a baby and being out till 5 am, and you being due anytime? Maybe he should get his priorities straight