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  • Nov 6, 2008, 09:23 PM
    Amydawn12354
    Vagina location.stupid but I'm a little confused.
    Okay... dumb question, but I'm a little confused and I just need to know... Is the actual VAGINA itself basically towards the front, or more towards the back where the anus is? I read it's directly below the urethra, which would mean basically standing forward, your vagina is basically right there at the front, just a little bit below. Is this where it's located? Because for awhile, I always thought it was located more towards the back towards your anus... It's pretty embarrassing to still be confused where it's actually at, but I have a hard time finding it because yes, it is kind of uncomfortable to look in & around down there and what not.
    Thanks!
  • Nov 6, 2008, 09:46 PM
    Xrayman

    If you are serious, read thishttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Image:Vulva_anatomy.jpg
    The image is not great, but at least it should answer your question

    And give this a readhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vagina
  • Nov 6, 2008, 09:50 PM
    KISS

    These two links combined will explain a lot:

    Vagina - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

    Sexual FAQs XVI

    The reason why your probably confused is because the vagina is an orifice, not an opening. Hence it has to be found. It's elastic and normally closed. It's where a tampon goes.
  • Nov 6, 2008, 09:51 PM
    asking

    Your vagina goes up inside of you like a tunnel. The opening is about half way between the urethra and the anus, inside the lips or "labia" on either side. If you squat over a mirror you can see it. You should also be able to feel it with your fingers.

    I assume from your name you are female?
  • Nov 6, 2008, 09:52 PM
    Amydawn12354
    Sadly, I am serious... I have seen those photos and the diagrams many times... I know what everything is... but being a virgin and the vagina being located on the inside, it's kind of confusing to figure out exactly where it is. The only thing I am confused about is if it's located towards the front (like standing face forward) or located more towards the anus. Diagrams show the vagina right past the urethra, which would be basically right towards the front. Its embarrassing... but I'm a virgin, so, not too much experience.
  • Nov 6, 2008, 09:54 PM
    Xrayman

    From your perspective, the vagina is towards the anus, between your labia minora (small lips), below the urethra
  • Nov 6, 2008, 09:55 PM
    Amydawn12354
    I know exactly what a vagina is, definitely. I've learned everything there is to know about what everything is, and I definitely obviously know it's the birth canal and where your period happens, and tampons go, and everything like that. I am only confused if it is more towards the back, like towards the anus or if standing from the front, it's directly below the urethra. (which would be a lot more facing the front with the outer lips). And yes, I'm a female
  • Nov 6, 2008, 09:59 PM
    Amydawn12354
    Wouldn't directly below the urethra mean more towards the front labia and not toward the anus, though? I know this is dumb but I am getting a little frustrated at this point because I've been with my boyfriend for a long while now and we are having problems trying to have sex and I feel like I might not be exactly sure where the vagina actually is.
  • Nov 6, 2008, 09:59 PM
    asking

    No need to be embarrassed. :) There isn't anyone who didn't know this at some point, even if they have forgotten what that's like.

    The best way to figure this out is to squat over a mirror with good light and stick your fingers down there. Pull the labia apart and you should see the clitoris (up front), the urethra a little farther down, and finally the opening to the vagina even farther down. The anus is way back.

    I guess if I had to answer, I would say the actual opening is more towards the back.

    Hope this helps!
  • Nov 6, 2008, 10:02 PM
    asking
    What do you mean the "front" labia? They are on the sides. There are two sets, the big ones and the small inner ones.

    If you use tampons, that IS your vagina, where you put the tampon in. How is that confusing?

    In what way are you having trouble having sex. Also, we need to ask how old you are.
  • Nov 6, 2008, 10:02 PM
    Xrayman

    Amydawn, I think the majority of us here are perhaps finding this a little unusual that (I assume you are over 18) you don't know much about YOUR OWN anatomy, this is a concern to many of us that in this day and age, that is all, we are not trying to annoy you.

    Regards
  • Nov 6, 2008, 10:05 PM
    Amydawn12354
    Thanks... I haven't even ever opened the labia apart before to look (even though I've known I've needed to by now) because I've always been like kind of uncomfortable with it and don't know why. I kind of have like a thing with inside bodies and stuff, kind of hard to handle so that's why Ive never wanted to basically open and look in there. I just turned 20and my boyfriend are having a little trouble trying to have sex, and I feel like it might be because I'm telling him the wrong place, or the vagina is too tight because I'm a virgin. I really don't know what it is.
  • Nov 6, 2008, 10:08 PM
    Xrayman

    Have you masturbated before?
  • Nov 6, 2008, 10:11 PM
    Amydawn12354

    Many girls actually who are virgins haven't used tampons before, and I haven't. I know a few girls who are virgins and haven't use tampons or just don't use them because of the fact of being afraid of infections and what not. It's not unusual that I'm a girl who is 20 yrs old and a virgin. My boyfriend isn't a virgin and the way we have been trouble trying to have sex is trying to get his penis inside. I can't figure if it's because I am so tight because of the fact I'm a virgin, or what, so now I am coming down to questioning if we have been actually trying my vagina because I'm so frustrated with the situation. I even started questioning having "vaginismus" that I read about online, but I really don't see how that's possible I have that. I'm not stupid when it comes to sex, although my question might sound like it.
  • Nov 6, 2008, 10:13 PM
    Amydawn12354

    I've only clitoral stimulation
  • Nov 6, 2008, 10:15 PM
    Xrayman

    You have never inserted a finger? As well as clitorally stimulated yourself?
  • Nov 6, 2008, 10:18 PM
    Amydawn12354

    I mean, I have felt there many times and I have put a finger inside the lips like up to an inch length... but I don't know. Is there a way a finger can fit but not enough room for a penis yet because of being so tight, or is that impossible?
  • Nov 6, 2008, 10:20 PM
    asking

    We do not think you sound stupid! It's just hard to tell what you know and what you don't. I think we thought at first you might not know much and might be 12 or 13. Now it's obvious that you have a frustrating problem that is causing you to question things that normally seem obvious.

    I assume you want to have sex with your boyfriend and are well lubricated and likewise that he is completely hard. If that is all true, then I suspect that you just have a very tough hymen and probably are fairly tight. You could also have vaginismus, as you say. If you are uncomfortable about your body parts and never touch yourself that's a possibility.

    I doubt that your boyfriend is missing your vagina. Basically, it's the only way in and a very obvious target for a motivated young man. I don't mean to be flip, but your boyfriend should be able to find it. He may not be pushing hard enough, not wanting to hurt you. It might hurt when he finally pushes through.

    Do you really want to do this?
  • Nov 6, 2008, 10:21 PM
    Xrayman
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Amydawn12354 View Post
    I mean, I have felt there many times and I have put a finger inside the lips like up to an inch length... but I don't know. Is there a way a finger can fit but not enough room for a penis yet because of being so tight, or is that impossible?

    Yes it is quite possible. Okay, where you place your finger IS inside the entrance to your vagina-the penis goes there, after much foreplay and some reasonable "pushing" from your partner
  • Nov 6, 2008, 10:26 PM
    Amydawn12354

    Thank you... And yes, its becoming very frustrating almost to the point of almost crying because we have been together for a long time and I feel like it's not fair for him. I really don't know what is up. I do know there's not much space down there for it to be hard to find where the vagina is... but the thing I just can't figure out is why in the world it would be this hard for a penis to go inside a vagina. It makes me question that there's something abnormal, or maybe not enough experience and my vagina is very tight or what. It's just becoming frustrating! Which is the reason why I am even coming to question if it's the right place because it's just not making sense to me. He is definitely also completely hard. When it does hurt, I tend to hold him back a little bit. But I don't know. There probably isn't much else anyone can answer for me without figuring it out on my own!

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